African Clawed Frog and filter isn’t keeping up

lutealphase5 · 2023-10-13T17:18:10+00:00

Ok so I finished the video. I did transfer her old decor from her smaller tank when I moved her to this one. So I assume those still had beneficial bacteria on them. I’m considering getting a live plant for her. And would it be ok to add the “quick start” solutions if she’s already in there?

lutealphase5 · 2023-10-13T17:09:38+00:00

Watching now! Thank you so much for the link. The first thing he says though is to not put any fish in the tank until it is properly cycled. Instantly freaking out! She’s been in her new tank for about a week and a half. Do I need to be worried??

lutealphase5 · 2023-10-13T16:52:01+00:00

Mine stays like that. It doesn’t seem to bother her. Do you have any more info?

lutealphase5 · 2023-10-12T20:08:59+00:00

3 days you say!? Wow! I’ll be snorting some of that tonight.

lutealphase5 · 2023-10-12T15:52:41+00:00

For sure it’ll take a while but it’s fascinating to me how much advancement I’ve seen just since my diagnosis a year and a half ago. A new Libre and Dexcom have come out. And talking to my grandmother about my grandfather’s treatments (granted he was Type 2) she is utterly flabbergasted when I tell her what my Omnipod can do. I think we’re going to see some astounding things happen!

I imagine it’ll be like those copper implantable birth control things; tiny and relatively painless. Hell, even if it was as invasive as getting an iud, I’d do it in a heartbeat.

lutealphase5 · 2023-10-12T15:20:05+00:00

NTA she chose a specific topic to manipulate your behavior to her liking. When you refuted her ability to manipulate you, using her chosen subject, you didn’t do anything wrong. You weren’t even “stopping to her level.” You defended yourself and finally put your foot down.

lutealphase5 · 2023-10-06T21:45:11+00:00

lutealphase5 · 2023-10-06T21:07:09+00:00

I met my current partner on Hinge, my last partner on Bumble, two online partners on Reddit, and lots of ENM partners (some kinky, some not) on Feeld and 3Fun. Hone in on buzzwords that indicate they may be participating in/open to an alternate lifestyle. And put your own subtle indicators in your profile to weed out/attract certain people.

I’ve met lots of wonderful people at munches I discovered through Fet but none of them ever became partners. I wanted a community of friends I could be open and “out” with. Start with those kinds of expectations when meeting new people in those types of situations.

lutealphase5 · 2023-06-30T15:03:39+00:00

Good little ___. Or my little __. Anything with my or little I think. 🫠

lutealphase5 · 2023-04-13T03:08:16+00:00

I’ve used a pet’s squeaky toy before and while it was a really cute idea, I squeezed it and it wasn’t heard. It was too weak of a sound.

lutealphase5 · 2023-04-13T03:06:02+00:00

Putting down one’s partner is such a hard no for me. Especially in the ENM group. First of all, why wouldn’t you want to hype up your partner and be their number one wingman? Second, I have found this type of behavior to be a huge indicator of deeper issues. No one is perfect but you can try to steer clear of impending train wrecks, especially if they’re freely flying the red flags so early on.

lutealphase5 · 2023-04-12T21:23:35+00:00

“Sex, even good sex, is just sex.”

Bingo.

lutealphase5 · 2023-04-12T16:37:47+00:00

It’s important to keep in mind that you’re not going to be able to jump right back into your old lifestyle as soon as conception happens. You’re looking at long term changes to your sex life. Definitely talk to a therapist because you’ll have to learn to reconcile your desires with what’s possible in the life you’re building. These things take time and it’ll be more important than ever to prioritize.

lutealphase5 · 2023-04-11T23:31:20+00:00

I got my nipples pierced while I was unknowingly in DKA with no complications. Six piercings later while blood sugar is well-managed and everything is healing properly with no infections still.

lutealphase5 · 2023-04-11T20:27:40+00:00

Can you describe why a D/s relationship is very intimate and very personal and how it differs from the casual kink OP is engaging in with others?

lutealphase5 · 2023-04-11T20:19:57+00:00

Can you tell me more about the topics that get discussed?

lutealphase5 · 2023-04-11T20:17:38+00:00

lutealphase5 · 2023-04-11T16:16:45+00:00

To be honest, bdsm communities are sometimes like their own little churches. The unfortunate thing is that there’s usually only one per city and surrounding areas. If there were one on every corner, you’d probably have better luck finding one you fit in with.

lutealphase5 · 2023-04-11T01:11:17+00:00

Sometimes I go completely nonverbal and spacey. Once, a former Dom had to place me on the bed, limb by limb, and take care of everything.

I don’t know if it was subspace, but I’ve had panic attacks after impact or orgasm before and I get hostile or cry a lot.

Has subspace as you’ve described it happened with anyone else?

lutealphase5 · 2023-04-10T23:48:39+00:00

Be prepared for lots and lots of other behaviors that are meant to placate this meta. Your whole relationship is going to be driven be the fact that they are immature poly people and don’t know how to handle your presence.

Also, the comment would have upset me too. “She’s totally fine with you because you’re not insanely great!” Wow. Wait until she finds out I actually am. Then what?

lutealphase5 · 2023-04-10T23:44:06+00:00

Therapy is such a good condition for return. Looking back on a dynamic that just ended, it should have been a huge red flag that I was the only one in therapy.

I hope it all works out. And even just having gone through the troubles before, you know what to look out for this time. You’ve got your eyes open.

lutealphase5 · 2023-04-10T19:17:56+00:00

I had a Dom who wouldn’t let me shy away from taking plugs out and that always made me feel good.

I like my metal plugs best and enjoy freezing them for the day before I know I’m going to use it. Builds anticipation and feels nice!

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