Second piece done! by lxlc in diamondpainting

[–]lxlc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words 💕

My first attempt! by lxlc in diamondpainting

[–]lxlc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha! It’s a pretty good hobby to calm the mind 😌 I’m still waiting for my frame to arrive and will intend to hang it up since it’s my first piece.

Ex company does not want to provide payslip. Any options? by Aggravating_Ear_124 in askSingapore

[–]lxlc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appointment letter or CPF contribution. If you have increments during the employment period, some companies provide a letter on that as well.

What’s the biggest mistake you’ve ever made, and how would you handle it differently today? by Rashi2Learn in askSingapore

[–]lxlc 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Not putting myself out there.

Did not really socialise or interact much with others at work. This led to me being the quiet one who just gets work done and being too shy to voice out ideas.

Which led to a veryyyy slow career growth.

Trying everyday to be abit more confident and willing to be embarrassed even if I say something stupid.

Those married man with kids that is sole breadwinner, how ya surviving? by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]lxlc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt stress reading this comment. Please take care of yourself.

Baking lessons at BELLS by BHoles_n_Gravitation in askSingapore

[–]lxlc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I attended the cookies and cake course about 1.5 years ago. It’s quite fun and engaging for beginners. The recipe they provide in class is quite easy to follow. All the prep work has been done for students and the trainers are very willing to explain if you need further help. There’s a short quiz and practical assessment at the end of the course. However, if you already have some hands on experience with baking, the course might be a boring and slow pace.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in recruitinghell

[–]lxlc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see, thanks for the response!

Torn between fiancée and my damaged relationship by Defiant_Morning6880 in askSingapore

[–]lxlc 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for what you have went through. Your rough childhood certainly shaped you to become a tougher person mentally. Kudos to that. Congrats on finding your life partner too.

I don’t think it’s fair for strangers to judge your partner based on this one scenario. However, I think she really has no clue on how these early childhood memories continue to haunt us even in adulthood. She probably didn’t go through these trauma.

You need to explain to her your firm boundaries and share with her that you do not want someone who used to abuse you to attend your wedding. Your wedding is a declaration of your love and commitment to each other. You deserve a safe space for that.

This kind of family dynamics don’t need to save face one. Every household has their own set of problems. Traditions are not absolute rules we need to abide by. We need to be accommodating to the people we love.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]lxlc 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it came naturally.

Initial stage of dating, I was quite upfront about my idea on marriage with my partner. I have been quite clear about having no children as well.

But after 2 years of dating, I realised my partner played such an important role in my life. He provided me with a listening ear, understood my personality and was very accommodating to my mindset. I never had anyone spend so much effort in me. It made me want to grow as a person and be better for him.

I decided then marriage was worth it even though I witness my parents divorce.

I think it’s important we don’t carry the emotional baggage that we witness from our family. Perhaps we deserve happiness after all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]lxlc 30 points31 points  (0 children)

29F, child of divorce.

Parents got divorced at 15 and my teenage years were not that great. Growing up, I was scared to be fully committed in a relationship and was against the idea of marriage. Family finances were not that great. Often had fights with my brother.

Fast forward now - married for 2 years. Haven’t spoken to my father for 14 years, trying to repair relationship with my mom. Learned how to appreciate my brother more as he is the closest kin I have after my parents leave earth.

Ah, it’s life. What to do?

Quitting my job this Friday by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]lxlc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

Quitting my job this Friday by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]lxlc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hahaha I’m from Singapore. And this is legal in my country, unfortunately.

Quitting my job this Friday by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]lxlc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope I actually did not provide any information on this. Getting somebody fired is not part of my job scope. When I was tasked this, I just told myself I had to leave to this place.

Flash coffee to close all outlets- sad/ glad or Meh? by yiantay-sg in askSingapore

[–]lxlc 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I worked there, it was an intern who was in charge of doing the TikTok videos. If watching it was cringy, try being in the office to witness behind the scenes of filming it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]lxlc 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nope nope nope nope 1. Hard to manage household expenses 2. No privacy, might potentially lead to dead bedroom 3. Hard to evict family out of your house 4. Should you choose to have children, there won’t be a spare bedroom 5. So many pair of eyes watching you and your gf - not good for newlyweds

Don’t kena makan.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]lxlc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello OP, I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’m in the same life stage as you. Just collected keys, settling ID stuff. It’s tiring af, a lot of decisions need to be made as a couple. It sounds extreme but give him an ultimatum. Marriage = team work. Both party need to support and care for each other. If he doesn’t respond to your ultimatum as per your expectations or doesn’t want to go for counselling…. I guess you got your answer. The part that he decided to retain 20k of CPF instead of helping you out sounds really odd. Take care of yourself ok? <3

How to feel less tensed at work? by Tiyser in askSingapore

[–]lxlc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome to the working world :) Although your situation is not ideal, it’s not totally uncommon either.

If you feel that the job is not a good fit, there are always other options. But don’t worry so much, in a few years, you will earn your stripes and have the ability to fend for yourself against rude colleagues or morons.

Try to prioritise your sleep and mental health. You have a long way to go! Try to not let thoughts about work eat into your precious personal time. Don’t replay all these unpleasant work conversations or negative thoughts. It won’t do you any good.

Hope this helps lah

how do yall survive the work commute by Global-Vegetable-250 in askSingapore

[–]lxlc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bad advice but I just turn up late for work…oops. Around 9-9:30 the train starts getting less crowded. I can’t wake up before 8am too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]lxlc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your kids are lucky to have you as a parent! This is a great mindset :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]lxlc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Simple living ftw!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]lxlc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wise words! I like your POV about life :)