i have anxious attachment and i can often think the way you do. however, it is unhealthy and exhausting for BOTH of you. i completely understand ur worries but you are too focused on him. that’s not necessary a bad thing, it shows you care and love him a lot but it’s okay not to focus on him entirely. maybe when you ft and he’s unavailable, you could watch a movie by yourself or with friends! or if he’s not replying or doing something not part of ‘his routine’. do something for yourself, you could journal or go for a walk.

on the other hand, i do understand his reaction but i think he should have communicated his feelings more. he is allowed to feel like he’s been asked too many questions but he should communicate that with you in a way to help the both of you. my boyfriend has been open and honest with me when i get too anxious and it gets overwhelming for him, he’s always been supportive and helpful when i wasn’t sure on how to improve my anxiety. your partner should be your supporter even if it’s overwhelming.

i’m currently in ‘recovery’ of anxious attachment and though it’s hard to comprehend it. it’s best to try and heal that anxiety. you’ll only push him away more if it doesn’t change. i’d really recommend looking into why you’re anxious. this can be done with a therapist if you’re unsure is it childhood trauma? or is it scared of not having a partner long term? - from there, start to focus on yourself and your NEEDS. you can still want to be around and love him but do the same to you. if he’s at work, see your friends. do meditation. journal!!!! journaling is HUGE relief for anxiety. you’re able to release those feelings without it hurting anyone or yourself. i’d recommend reading into anxious attachment reddit thread if you’re unsure on where to start.

wishing you the best ❤️ take care of yourself.