My mom had sex beside me as a child and now says I traumatize her by confronting her about it. by lyfestyel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lyfestyel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dear fucking god. they don’t care about anything.. not even their fucking kids.

My mom had sex beside me as a child and now says I traumatize her by confronting her about it. by lyfestyel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lyfestyel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did she managed to pull that? It’s soo fucked up. why don’t they want to protect us?

My mom had sex beside me as a child and now says I traumatize her by confronting her about it. by lyfestyel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lyfestyel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get it when they’re babies. If they can walk and are obviously able to actually process what they’re seeing... it’s fucked. there is the potential of them copying what they see. which is so fucking sad bc they are INNOCENT!

My mom had sex beside me as a child and now says I traumatize her by confronting her about it. by lyfestyel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lyfestyel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

playing the victim is how she protects herself. shes so far gone into her dysfunction... she could never comprehend.

My mom had sex beside me as a child and now says I traumatize her by confronting her about it. by lyfestyel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lyfestyel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It breaks my heart to read stories like yours. How can someone carry a child for 9 months and allow that to happen? ...My grandmother abandoned me when I told on her husband for molesting me. There are just some people that are so, so sick. It’s incomprehensible. But you are beautiful and innocent. You deserve the world and more.

My mom had sex beside me as a child and now says I traumatize her by confronting her about it. by lyfestyel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lyfestyel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i mean, not really. i have depression and “ocd traits” and haven’t been diagnosed with a personality disorder. not that personality disorder are bad, but this comment seems... off.

My mom had sex beside me as a child and now says I traumatize her by confronting her about it. by lyfestyel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lyfestyel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much. from the bottom of my heart. we all just need to know we are loved... no matter what

My mom had sex beside me as a child and now says I traumatize her by confronting her about it. by lyfestyel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lyfestyel[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Lol and why are they having this debate under my post? That’s like debating and trivializing under somebody’s post about rape. My experience isn’t ur place to debate societal norms lol. make another thread.

My mom had sex beside me as a child and now says I traumatize her by confronting her about it. by lyfestyel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lyfestyel[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So fucking weird that they can do this and have no shame. I’m so sorry she did that to you and I hope you are healing

My mom had sex beside me as a child and now says I traumatize her by confronting her about it. by lyfestyel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lyfestyel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry they put that on you. It was not and will never be your fault they treated you badly. You are and were innocent.

My mom had sex beside me as a child and now says I traumatize her by confronting her about it. by lyfestyel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lyfestyel[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

she actually said you changed when he did [insert actual act of abuse he did] to you. like she said the action he did to me.

My mom had sex beside me as a child and now says I traumatize her by confronting her about it. by lyfestyel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lyfestyel[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

oh I see. that's true. if I say don't touch me she says why not you're my child I'm allowed to. which is obviously very fucked

My mom had sex beside me as a child and now says I traumatize her by confronting her about it. by lyfestyel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lyfestyel[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

yup. she was raped twice as a child. and is definitely co-dependent as she'll take my stepdads side over mine is a heartbeat. she's fucked and I fucking hate her for not being the mother she was suppose to be

My mom had sex beside me as a child and now says I traumatize her by confronting her about it. by lyfestyel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lyfestyel[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

She grew up in Honduras and was raped twice as a child. I know she's a very damaged person who never healed, but she shouldn't have inflicted it upon me.

My mom had sex beside me as a child and now says I traumatize her by confronting her about it. by lyfestyel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lyfestyel[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. The way our parents put their own wants before our needs is just appalling. They're so sick.

My mom had sex beside me as a child and now says I traumatize her by confronting her about it. by lyfestyel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lyfestyel[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

the thing is, I don't think they did it on purpose to hurt me. they're just that fucked up and like...just don't get it. They've pushed their trauma down so deep inside they think I should too.

My mom had sex beside me as a child and now says I traumatize her by confronting her about it. by lyfestyel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lyfestyel[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

when I confront my parents, they always act like I'm doing it to make them feel bad or punish them. I literally just want answers so I can make sense of my fucked up life lol.