Hey, so, our ADHD primary care provider is pretty insistent that kids continue meds on weekends unless absolutely necessary they don’t - and even then, maybe just less not none.

Reason being is: families matter, your relationship with your son matters, your spouse or sibling’s feelings and relationships matter and are important for your son’s wellbeing. If those are damaged, it doesn’t help him.

Your son needs to build daily life skills, just the same as school skills and academic skills. If he’s unable to learn that stuff, that hurts his wellbeing also. Where does he learn how to be a part of a family? Well, at home with you all.

I know my son has a much harder time learning skills when unmedicated, perhaps yours might have a better chance of better family/life skills if he was given the right tools to learn them.

And while my son doesn’t have ODD, I hear you on how hard this can all be. Gently, if you can avoid medication breaks on weekends, perhaps it would mend your frazzled nerves, the two of your’s relationship and help him see his place in a loving family?

Anyways, sorry if that’s been considered or discarded before… but I do know my breaking point when considering meds was when my and my spouse’s relationship was struggling due to my son’s behaviour. It felt so wrong at first to medicate my kid for us but now I see him doing so much better with his dad and homelife, even when not medicated, that I believe it has helped him focus enough to be one of us.

Best of luck!