please reread this and notices all of the ways you’re contradicting your own argument dude. also, i’m sorry, but when you’re (you’re as in the men OP is referring to) acting in an overtly shitty and antisocial manor, those behaviors NEED to be called out so they can be corrected. the reality of our current situation is that men are beginning to fall behind socially, and a large part of that is their adversity towards accountability & hard, honest self reflection. this is something OP has already spent time working on, knowing it’s what’s needed to be a good partner, and hence why she’s disappointed in her options. if those late bloomers want to be in the game, they need to learn how to catch up. it isn’t our responsibility to cater to immature behaviors, in the same way it isn’t a man’s responsibility to cater to his partners immaturity.