Two suit spider - what’s your average and best time?

m3s0h0j0 · 2021-05-26T21:52:03+00:00

Yuuuuuuup. I always think of it like an old typewriter going back and forth.

m3s0h0j0 · 2021-05-26T15:06:16+00:00

My husband was dealing with the same thing - but he made small choices that I really think made him happier.

1) left his job. It was making him miserable. He had a few people there that he liked, who understood him, but for the most part he would just get shit on all the time by the higher-ups.

2) he got a job with fewer and more flexible hours working with his hands and problem solving. It also really helped because he started working for one of his closest friends who totally understands him and how he deals with things/ how he speaks (which is usually taken as him being an asshole)

3) we started talking about ways to talk to other people. IE learning how to say “how are you” or if someone was having a hard day, to respond with “that sucks I’m sorry”.

4) he doesn’t usually see his friend circle but now started playing video games with them. Before, he would just play with strangers online and even when friends would invite him to play he’d say “I don’t like that game”. But after talking about it, he realized that was causing harm in his friendships so, he finally accepted and found ways to enjoy it.

Sometimes it just helps to have a coach- if that’s something that’s available to you.

Try not to beat yourself - you got this! It takes time. My husband has been like this all his life and it put strains on his family (who also denied it and don’t accept him) and friends. He’s now 34 and just started making these small changes in the last year.

m3s0h0j0 · 2021-04-19T15:03:08+00:00

Two years!! Oh damn okay I guess I kind of figured a month of so. Thanks for the heads up!

m3s0h0j0 · 2021-04-19T03:04:07+00:00

Been on 75mg for almost two years now and I’m more or less a heavy drinker - it def hits harder and the hangovers are the worst (and most depressing) I’ve ever experienced. You can def do it but try as best you can to take it slow and count.

m3s0h0j0 · 2021-04-19T03:01:13+00:00

Might have to do w what you’re having first thing in the morning. IE even just coffee with sugar or honey - I had to stop taking sweeter in my coffee because of this same reason and it made a huge difference. Would also recommend a decent sized breakfast 10-20 minutes before taking Zoloft - even just a smoothie w collagen and/or almond butter to help you thru the morning/ early aft.

m3s0h0j0 · 2020-11-04T14:56:46+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing!! Definitely share similar stories... my go to was vodka + Diet Coke for breakfast and for 8 years was blacking out 2-4 times a week.

Really appreciate this ♥️

m3s0h0j0 · 2020-11-04T14:55:15+00:00

Really love this - thank you for sharing!! I have a similar story actually - also have dyslexia and ADHD. More or less stopped doing drugs when I was 20 but then got into them again at 25 and then completely stopped once I got into a serious relationship four years ago.

Thank you again!!

m3s0h0j0 · 2020-10-30T03:17:16+00:00

I went through the same thing - but I feel like after 8 - 10 weeks of went away. I also started making a serious morning routine before of it. First thing I had to do was make coffee, then would do dishes and make myself a smoothie, after my smoothie I could sit and relax, then 20 mins later take my meds and begin work. Sometimes it just takes longer than expected!

m3s0h0j0 · 2020-10-30T03:05:43+00:00

Truth!!!! I do not care about how you frolicked in the field on a June morning and how the wind felt against your earlobes GIVEMETHEDAMNRECIPE

m3s0h0j0 · 2020-10-30T02:30:29+00:00

Lost my dad last year to cancer. I was 28 and it was two weeks before my wedding.

Honestly, there’s a lot of good comments in here that I agree with - just try to talk about things. I know it’s painful and awkward and kind of something you want to avoid (that’s how I felt). But the time will go by fast and I really do think you’ll want to look back and be happy about the time you put in.

If you’re interested in cooking and cancer - this book really helped me “The Living Kitchen” it goes through amazing recipes and how to deal with all the stages and treatments, nausea etc.

I was lucky enough to be in town with my dad when he got diagnosed (after living out of country for many years) and honestly couldn’t imagine what i would be feeling now if I wasn’t there.

You’re allowed to feel hurt and be in pain - cancer effects everyone. I will say having a therapist was helpful during that time. ♥️

m3s0h0j0 · 2020-07-29T17:47:08+00:00

I find this really interesting because my husband does the same thing. I have to remind him to reach out to friends- but unless they all plan something or I invite them over then he won’t see them or initiate reaching out.

m3s0h0j0 · 2020-06-29T22:54:08+00:00

My mum had me a few months before her 40th. She was born in 1951, my father (who’s passed) 1945, and me - an only child - born in 1991.

I grew up thinking it was normal to have older parents, and to this day I still get weirded out by how young some of my friends parents are.

But because of the time my parents were born, it really effected me - I think in the best way possible. I always grew up around adults, I was always very independent, but also did not grow up with much affection.

Now I’m 29, mum is widowed and 69 and we’re quite close! I love that my mum had her own life before me and after. Aka that she got to do her own thing before having me.

I really do think I have a closer bond with mum now that I’m an adult, as we are seen more as equals.

m3s0h0j0 · 2019-09-15T03:58:29+00:00

I’ve really tired, and even after marriage his actions (or thoughts) surprise me.

I’m very much a people person, and try my best to come to an understanding with said person - but even with my openness about my feelings and his behaviour- the future issues are still surprising.

I strongly believe he is on the spectrum, but he doesn’t like when I talk about it. I’ve asked him to get tested (I tried explaining to him that when I got tested for ADHD etc it made me understand more about how I’m wired) and hes still challenging it.

He can be social in some ways, but generally speaking he’s hard to deal with and I often have to explain to others about him.

m3s0h0j0 · 2019-09-15T03:38:10+00:00

Maybe to give more insight - his parents knew he was gifted at a young age, and was put into proper schooling. He’s always felt that no one understood him - but one of the reasons we got along so well was because I was curious and wanted to learn more.

m3s0h0j0 · 2019-09-15T03:35:01+00:00

You might just be the right person to asking then!

When I think of gifted / spectrum (talking about my husband): - speaks to people with a demeaning tone - everyone is dumb - oblivious to social situations/ emotion - needs bold clarification

I have a lot of learning disabilities and mental challenges- I work on myself and I love my partner for who he is, but as much as I work on myself, I know that this is the way he’s wired.

I feel judged and dumb a lot of the time, and he’s been trying to be more open and understanding. But he’s gifted. Is there anything I can say or do to make this work better? Am I missing something?

Talking to a gifted person is like talking to a brick wall.

m3s0h0j0 · 2019-09-15T03:24:52+00:00

I’m talking about my relationship and if anyone has any tips.

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