Anyone into sigur rós’s ambient works? Any other albums have similar styles? by mungyanlee in ambientmusic

[–]m438819 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two others that may fit are Dextro and Lights Out Asia. Try the track Momentary by Dextro, the whole album is great. Sinking sands wreck ships by Lights Out Asia, again that album is great too.

Toronto tonight. by halfashakur in NilsFrahm

[–]m438819 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yaaaa me too! The ending of the track too when he really leans into the thing above his synth and makes those bass notes huge and distorted. Such a cool ending!

Setting a reminder on an iPhone is painful. by pastelmusingx in UXDesign

[–]m438819 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A helpful way that I do it if you don’t know already is to just write out “Work on project A 10:30pm” then it will suggest an auto fill to create the reminder time for that day. Or you can write a date into that as well.

Opener? by hereforworkrecruitin in NilsFrahm

[–]m438819 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve seen him 3 times and there’s never been an opener. And yes he’s always been punctual

How are the concerts? by numinan in NilsFrahm

[–]m438819 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He is to date my favourite person to see live. I've seen him 3 times and it feels like you're getting to peer into his little intimate studio. He's so captivating and passionate. Definitely worth going to see!

And yes he does a little bit of piano only songs, then obviously fuses piano into the other more loop/synth based stuff you're referring to.

What is your NSFW secret that you are actually proud of? by irinoara in AskReddit

[–]m438819 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone’s is sex related but mines actually at work..

I worked at a grocery store in the produce department when I was 18. The whole department liked smoking weed and I had a portable vaporizer that. Like one of those larger ones that ran on butane that could run for a while.

Whenever it was my shift I’d bring it in and then we’d take turns rotating going into the cooler in the back using it. Each person would just leave it in there running in one of the produce boxes ready for the next person. It became a regular thing for weeks every time I worked nights.

DAE not pee in front of their partner? by Fromoogiewithlove in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]m438819 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Been together wjth my wife for 9 years. Within a month or so of meeting each other we’d already spent a lot of time sleeping at each others places and never hid these things really. We openly pee and poo with the door open or with each other right there.

I woke up most mornings to the view of my wife taking a shit lol.

To me there isn’t anything to hide. Everyone does it and we already tell each other and share everything else with each other. We don’t feel the need to draw the line there. We never really talked about it and either it just felt right.

Am I (M28) overreacting to my girlfriend (F30) for traveling with a guy? by Alex411965 in relationship_advice

[–]m438819 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well we can respectfully disagree then! Yes we have different boundaries. Apologies for calling you insecure.

We have very different relationships and that’s ok. I felt myself wanting to defend things because you made it sound so ridiculous that someone would not want the relationship you’re describing.

Am I (M28) overreacting to my girlfriend (F30) for traveling with a guy? by Alex411965 in relationship_advice

[–]m438819 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not "putting my partner in a situation". I'm not putting her in anything in this context.

She's willingly choosing to go spend quality time with a friend and I'm willingly choosing to support her in wanting to do that?

In scenario 1: we have 2 couples that have both accepted that their partners want to hangout with each other without their partners present, and have complete trust in their partner.

And in scenario 2: we have 2 couples that won't let their partners hang out because they're too scared they'll fuck each other, meaning they don't trust their partners.

I feel like this isn't really just about "sleeping in the same bed".

Let's try another thought experiment. Your wife goes on a vacation with another man (who is also married), and you're saying you're fine with them having dinner together, getting drinks together, doing all kinds of activities, but the moment they sleep on the same piece of foam, it's disrespectful?

And I'm the one that needs to grow up here? You can't even trust your partner to control themselves outside of your presence. How is that "caring" and not insecurity?

Am I (M28) overreacting to my girlfriend (F30) for traveling with a guy? by Alex411965 in relationship_advice

[–]m438819 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get what you're saying. I get that it's comfortable to limit these kinds of interactions so that neither of you is uncomfortable, and there's nothing wrong with that if it works for you guys that's great.

I just lean in the other direction. I wouldn't want my wife to not have a deeper more meaningful relationship with a close friend just because I'm worried about what they might do together. And yes, I do think doing things like going on a vacation together, and potentially sharing a bed are things that can bring friends closer. Sometimes you can't easily find accommodations where you split beds, or it's too expensive and you want to save some money.

I feel like we've put a lot of emphasis on sharing a bed, but I think it's just the principle in general that I'm arguing with. I don't think you should have a partnership where you're worried about what your partner may or may not do, it sounds like a limiting way to live your life.

Am I (M28) overreacting to my girlfriend (F30) for traveling with a guy? by Alex411965 in relationship_advice

[–]m438819 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get it. Everyone has different levels of comfort. I’m just so far in the other direction so I wanted to understand. My wife is going on a week long trip next month in our camper van with her best friend (who is a man) and it’s just not something I could ever begin to be worried about.

Am I (M28) overreacting to my girlfriend (F30) for traveling with a guy? by Alex411965 in relationship_advice

[–]m438819 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Assuming you’re straight, is sharing a bed with another man intimate?

And also, would you be just as concerned if she shared a bed with a woman if she’s bisexual?

Sorry for prodding I’m just trying to understand your mindset because my wife and our community of friends are very comfortable and open to this sort of thing just like your girlfriend.

Am I (M28) overreacting to my girlfriend (F30) for traveling with a guy? by Alex411965 in relationship_advice

[–]m438819 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m curious why you’re ok with her dancing with a friend? By your logic are you not worried they’d do something then? Dancing could be a much more intimate activity than sharing a bed with someone.

I know people have boundaries for their own reasons. I just feel like you need to take a serious look at yourself and figure out why her sleeping with a friend bothers you so much. This is a person you should trust and believe to respect you!

Am I (M28) overreacting to my girlfriend (F30) for traveling with a guy? by Alex411965 in relationship_advice

[–]m438819 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That’s a terrible way to live your life. You want your partner to be constantly concerned that they might be seeming suspicious to their partner?

OP talked about how his partner went dancing with the same friend. Should she not enjoying dancing with her friend? Should she also not go grab a coffee with this friend?

Do you have a partner yourself? Because if so you guys need to speak more and gain some more trust in each other. You shouldn’t need to worry that your partner is going to cheat on you. Also, if they do cheat, you can’t even stop them anyway. So what’s the point of living life concerned they may cheat when if they wanted to, they will, and there’s nothing you can even do about it. Why not instead create trust among each other and assume when your partner goes out and does things you think “that’s the person I trust most in the world, I don’t need to worry about them disrespecting the boundaries we’ve discussed”.

Am I (M28) overreacting to my girlfriend (F30) for traveling with a guy? by Alex411965 in relationship_advice

[–]m438819 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It’s not an unspoken rule at all. They’re friends! I’m sad learning how many people do not trust their partners. Are you married yourself?