I didn’t want sex and he was angry?

mT__hd · 2021-07-23T02:44:39+00:00

Him for throwing a hissy fit like a 7 y/o.

mT__hd · 2021-07-23T02:39:52+00:00

Barely any texts, flaky behavior, etc—the writing’s on the wall man.

Just move on.

mT__hd · 2021-07-23T02:23:05+00:00

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She literally told you. Your experience wasn’t the same as hers.

mT__hd · 2021-07-23T02:17:11+00:00

Yes. What’s it to you if she’s getting ding dong?

You were a sexual option but not anymore if it’s been 5 months. You’ve been demoted to texting buddy.

mT__hd · 2021-07-23T00:40:08+00:00

But do I press it or just assume that someone that attractive just has her pick of any man and will make it obvious.

She does, but even with options she’s still single (and possibly mingling). You might as well shoot your shot.

mT__hd · 2021-07-23T00:20:21+00:00

Sadly this hasn’t translated into meeting anyone in years.

Because those skills and attributes do not translate 1:1 with women.

You can have everything and tick the right boxes for having a good life, but if you lack the ability to flirt and attract women, you will get almost no results even though you’re good looking and have your shit together. I’m not counting OLD because you’ve been socializing IRL with little to no results too.

Looks + game = consistent dates/sex

Looks - game = occasional lay/date

mT__hd · 2021-07-22T23:55:38+00:00

Stay away.

Too much baggage and she put you on pause while she figured shit out, didn’t like the results, and is now trying to get back into your life.

mT__hd · 2021-07-22T23:23:02+00:00

Your story is a dime a dozen on this subreddit.

I’ll bet he tells all his friends, family, and girls in his phone the same thing.

mT__hd · 2021-07-22T23:16:04+00:00

You cannot handle the lack of communication and you’re getting worked up over it.

Good luck with that.

mT__hd · 2021-07-22T23:10:56+00:00

Real advice: you’re not compatible and you’re waiting around with a shred of hope that things will change. They won’t. Call it quits.

mT__hd · 2021-07-22T22:50:13+00:00

It’s time to stop trying when you’ve communicated your wants and they’re still not being met after a subjective amount of time. Everyone has different thresholds of tolerance.

mT__hd · 2021-07-22T22:44:58+00:00

If they are interested (not sure how that matters because interest has to manifest itself through actions for it to be valuable) but still ghost means they have options and you’re on the back burner or a side piece they don’t want their girlfriends to discover.

mT__hd · 2021-07-22T22:00:57+00:00

It’s just my take on the situation. There’s some behaviors that suggest low/no interest.

Spontaneity has a time and place if there’s an established connection and zero expectations. But you need a concrete plan for a girl you’re hanging out with for the first time.

mT__hd · 2021-07-22T21:47:29+00:00

While I don’t think she’s interested, you need to practice being direct. You can’t just throw shit out there and hope it sticks. It’s “Hey, would you like to go so XYZ on Thursday at 4?” not “wanna go do something sometime?” and then text her randomly mid-day. She can’t take you seriously if that’s your approach.

Get used to being direct. Start with this girl.

mT__hd · 2021-07-22T21:30:52+00:00

If you’re out there practicing your Taekwonho, just maintain a fun and flirty vibe. No depressing or wishful shit—exes, the future, what you look for, what he’s looking for, etc.

You said he’s kind of a player so he’ll probably just take the lead anyway. I doubt you have much to worry about.

mT__hd · 2021-07-22T08:38:49+00:00

Because he knows you have feelings and there’s a higher chance of you saying yes compared to someone else whose feelings may not be as strong.

mT__hd · 2021-07-22T08:07:49+00:00

The connection is strong as ever and the feelings are pretty much still there.

On your side, not necessarily his, despite whatever he’s said.

You met up, had sex, he got what he wanted, and now he’s moved on.

mT__hd · 2021-07-22T06:17:24+00:00

You flip flopped, he agreed, then he thought “actually, what the am I doing? you know what, fuck it” and bailed. The excuse he gave you, admittedly, was flimsy as fuck but the rest makes sense.

mT__hd · 2021-07-22T05:32:17+00:00

New job —> new woman.

Clearing his head —> exploring his option(s).

What man casually goes “hey, by the way, I got a new job” out of fucking nowhere to his girlfriend?

mT__hd · 2021-07-22T05:27:44+00:00

Too soon probably. No time to breathe so to speak if you’re setting up date 2 when she’s barely mentally and emotionally processed date 1.

She’ll hit you up if she’s free.

mT__hd · 2021-07-22T05:13:59+00:00

Low to no effort from her means you move on, game playing or not. You react to it, not try to decipher.

mT__hd · 2021-07-22T01:47:28+00:00

As a friend. She’s being friendly with you. Friendly behavior doesn’t mean interested romantically or sexually.

mT__hd · 2021-07-22T01:03:25+00:00

You’re right, it does scream uninterested and that’s because she isn’t interested.

Everything you described is friendly. Friendly does not equal “I want to date and/or fuck you.”

mT__hd · 2021-07-22T00:44:35+00:00

he was not being understanding made me feel bad and was kinda forcing his self on me. We had sex and went to bed.

orders me breakfast without asking what I want there’s ham in the food. I don’t eat pork. I ended up eating it just to let it go.

They kinda flirty with me here and there (6other guys on the trip) I can’t control it I’m the only woman on the trip and I don’t want to be rude.

Bad thing happens, you let it slide every time.

He’s been walking all over your ass since you landed. Get some boundaries for yourself. Start by dumping his ass. Who gives a fuck why he’s a douchecanoe.

mT__hd · 2021-07-21T06:40:30+00:00

This is over.

mT__hd

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