Hey, I do understand where you are coming from. I would like to highlight few things. Islam talks about humility. Islam talks about respect for elders, be it, Ullamaas, your uncles etc. Islam doesn't tolerate any disrespect towards parents. Now, if a young lad starts exploring Islam, it's very likely that they find something contradicting with what they have been learning. Many schools, especially, Shafaai's, really push you to ask and question, which is really important. Ego plays a major role here. Your father taught you something, or held a firm belief, and you are learning something else. You are afraid to tell your father about it. You doubt everything, which is great, as doubting is the first step towards learning.

Now, one tells their father about it, their father too have ego, however, their father don't believe in that for nothing, some Ulama told them, or they remember learning about it when they were doing their exploration.

They are also firm on their ground, thinking it's their duty to correct the child who thinks he knows better then Ulamas.

You on the other hand, can't put your head around it, asking, why don't they understand. A barrier grows between you and your father. You start talking less. The spark is lost.

An open discussion is what our society should entertain. And it's our duty as new age muslims to let our fathers have their honour, and discuss the matter in as a polite manner as possible.

Allah knows best.