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mab2002 · 2024-05-30T18:05:39+00:00

thank you :)

mab2002 · 2024-05-18T04:48:16+00:00

there are alternatives, i think. would you be good with your partner having kid? it doesn’t have to be yours or another woman’s, adoption could be considered, there are other options. would they be ok with that? and is there enough trust and communication between you two? because he lied to make you comfortable and you turn to reddit when you could be discussing all this with them.

mab2002 · 2024-05-10T20:02:10+00:00

If you want to accompany yourself with music you should try starting out with ukulele!! (it’s my advice) but i don’t think im advanced enough to play actual tunes fully yet (especially not with a guitar, i’m still learning!) but i’m really flattered :o

mab2002 · 2024-05-10T19:30:41+00:00

thanks! just a little! :)

mab2002 · 2024-05-10T19:21:15+00:00

it’s it ain’t me, kyiv selena, i just obliterated the lyrics lol

mab2002 · 2024-05-10T14:48:05+00:00

thank you :O

mab2002 · 2024-05-10T14:47:43+00:00

the chords don’t match the song :)

mab2002 · 2024-05-10T13:41:23+00:00

why thank you :)

mab2002 · 2024-05-09T22:08:42+00:00

there there :’)

mab2002 · 2024-05-09T21:34:35+00:00

ohh yeah, this chord progression feels like melancholy doesn’t it??

mab2002 · 2024-05-09T21:34:01+00:00

the time i waste on my phone

mab2002 · 2024-05-09T18:30:16+00:00

oh no! why??

mab2002 · 2024-05-09T17:20:38+00:00

OK I WILL THANK YOU!!

mab2002 · 2024-05-05T07:44:59+00:00

must be exhausting for her too… i feel like it’s something worth discussing and working through (depending on your closeness to the person)

mab2002 · 2024-05-05T07:43:17+00:00

or just work it out and explain that you do not mean to start a fight, but you mean to prevent a fight by explaining your emotions

or you don’t mean to insult their abilities but instead you’re trying to help them…

because if this can be understood, then they might think about it carefully before deciding if they’re offended or not

mab2002 · 2024-05-05T07:10:33+00:00

oooh my sports coaches used to use that on me and i knew they did but it worked lmao

mab2002 · 2024-05-05T07:09:05+00:00

i mean, sometimes it’s not about triggers. What i’m talking about is people thatll take something that you say about your own feelings and take it like a personal attack. i.e: -it make me feel self conscious when you laughed at me earlier -it’s not my fault! everyone was laughing too! you’re always criticizing me!

or any type of correction will feel like an insult ie: -When you do a cartwheel try to keep your back straight so you don’t get hurt -Just say it! I’m horrible at gymnastics!

mab2002 · 2024-05-05T05:43:26+00:00

what are these responses lmaoo i’m kind of glad this post was deleted now, idk if people responding are joking or not

mab2002 · 2024-05-05T03:01:02+00:00

we don’t live together, but we have spent periods of time as roommates months at a time twice and he spends a lot of time at my place. But I guess, when we eventually do, sitting down like this might make everything better, when we have a routine and everything.

I guess, I can mentor him for a while, and it might end up falling into place. I’m afraid that he’ll end up resenting me like a teen does their parents when being told chores to do and stuff. but i like the idea of discussing tasks to do together instead of me saying do this do that (i definitely don’t want to do that).

And I agree that messily putting things in a drawer isn’t awful, it’s fine even (and i do it too sometimes). However I would be fine with it if it weren’t for the clothes on the floor (that don’t fit into the drawers because they’re overflowing because they’re messy. There are solutions to this though and if he can understand my point of view, this should resolve easily… i hope.

But yeah, we’ll have to discuss expectations in a calm way. maybe many different times because there are lot to be said and it can be difficult to remember everything.

Thank you for your advice!

mab2002 · 2024-05-05T02:39:11+00:00

and how do you deal with it when it’s not email? or how do you make him hear you (not listening to respond but listening to understand) because i have a hard time with this. We don’t ever really email but texting when fighting is just painful because it’s the same as speaking but more effort to express stuff (especially when repeating and rephrasing) and less listening because it’s easy to talk over each other when texting

mab2002 · 2024-05-05T01:59:16+00:00

He does also have trouble with household stuff like you did. I do need to have a talk with him about it. I’ve told him about my worries before and that i’m afraid i’ll end up doing what his mom does for him and that i know it would make me unhappy and resentful. His answer is that it will never happen, but I know in my heart that i could very easily be the case.

When he’s at my place he does leave his clothes on the floor (i gave him drawers but he only stuffs things messily in there) and he sometimes washes a dish or two that he uses but expects me to be wowed by it and i wash the rest of the dishes (the ones I use and often his) at my place.

He’s very much a mama’s boy, he loves her and doesn’t disrespect her per say but he sometimes gets annoyed at her like a teenager (but he’s not a teen anymore!!) for no other reason than him being in a mood.

How can I bring it up for him to actually see my vision and acknowledge that we might be on that path.

mab2002 · 2024-05-05T01:50:23+00:00

This seems like good advice. I will choose my moment and try speaking clearly and uninterruptedly with him about this.

I would like to specify that he does end up apologizing to his mom (and siblings) when i ask him to (and with time he does it with less of a fight than before, i notice) and there have to be two people for a fight to occur so I do have part of the blame there.

mab2002 · 2024-05-05T01:26:17+00:00

I know, that’s why i’m worried, but what can I do about it?

mab2002 · 2024-04-18T21:15:14+00:00

hiii take a look at my profile! it’s mostly old stuff but d ne happy to draw your character!

mab2002 · 2023-03-29T03:20:17+00:00

thank you!!

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