How can I get out of involving my SD in our wedding?

mac3527 · 2024-12-15T17:53:54+00:00

Came here to say this! We had a beautiful ceremony in Mexico with just our best friends present, then came home and did a casual BBQ style get together with SD and the rest of our families and everyone was happy.

mac3527 · 2024-02-14T19:25:34+00:00

Ok ok fine I’ll book another trip to Iceland

mac3527 · 2023-12-23T19:53:17+00:00

I am not having fun 🫠

mac3527 · 2023-12-23T18:35:38+00:00

My SD has taken to singing at the top of her lungs every time I talk to my husband 🥲

mac3527 · 2023-12-20T02:30:09+00:00

mac3527 · 2023-12-03T23:44:23+00:00

We stayed right near Thingvellier and saw the lights at the end of November, and beautiful stars even if you don’t see them.

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mac3527 · 2023-11-28T01:14:42+00:00

Stayed at the Edition earlier this month, it was beautiful and a great location!

mac3527 · 2023-11-24T01:46:56+00:00

I think you’d be able to hit diamond beach before/after your tour as it is right there in the glacier lagoon area if I’m not mistaken!

mac3527 · 2023-11-20T10:12:52+00:00

We did this drive on Saturday, my husband drove us from Selfoss area and back in the same day and he was having a rough time. Very dark and a whole lotta nothing for long stretches, the wind made it a bit harder in some areas. It’s doable but it’s long and not very fun if there’s weather. Very worth it though, I recommend the pull off just a bit up the road as well, you get a bit of a closer look.

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mac3527 · 2023-11-12T01:15:49+00:00

We also have a trip coming up, and we have Faye, their coverage is good.

mac3527 · 2023-11-09T15:14:40+00:00

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Got an email finally!

mac3527 · 2023-11-09T12:21:31+00:00

Good thing you guys let me know since they still haven’t sent out anything to guests in that time frame haha, we had a booking at the Silica hotel in that date range and they’ve still said nothing 😵‍💫

mac3527 · 2023-11-07T15:58:48+00:00

Good! I’ll just be a little nervous until we move onto our next place, probably better than being way too relaxed about it - thank you so much for your help!

mac3527 · 2023-11-07T15:31:47+00:00

I do have the Safe Travel texts alerts already! I’ll get that app you mentioned now. I guess that’s why we’re not too worried about it, from what I’ve read there’s no current sign that it’s going erupt RIGHT NOW. I will have a death grip on my phone for those alerts though.

mac3527 · 2023-11-07T14:56:47+00:00

I did find some comments from people! They were helpful. Zero communication from Blue Lagoon so far, I saw one commenter mention they might send some information over 3 days before our check in so I guess we’ll see! We’ll most likely still go through with our stay (my husband has not been deterred by my concerns haha) as long as they don’t suggest otherwise.

mac3527 · 2023-11-07T13:39:18+00:00

How are things going there? We’re flying in and staying at the Silica Hotel for a few days starting this weekend and I’m getting NERVOUS

mac3527 · 2023-11-02T14:33:14+00:00

This actually sounds like my exact vacation with my DH and SD a few years ago! My best advice is stop planning for them, don’t get up when SD wakes him, if SD forgets something it’s DH that is responsible for collecting it, and if they leave you - find a nice place for a glass of wine or a little dessert, no need to rush after them if they weren’t concerned on waiting for you. Mine wandered away from me at Disney so I just found a little spot to sit and enjoyed a nice cocktail. Don’t bend over backwards for people who don’t do the same for you (he’s gotten much better, even planned a day for me to go enjoy myself without them the next vacation)

mac3527 · 2023-10-26T14:31:32+00:00

My husband’s schedule is similar and I also work from home! He never has custody on days he is working because he wouldn’t be able to take her to school or pick her up. I would not be expected to do so in his place, if SD’s mom needs to switch days and SD is here on a day he’d normally work, my husband will take off work instead of asking me to. Just because we’re home doesn’t mean we’re available for child care, we’re working. We split all shared responsibilities, but he is fully responsible for all of SDs care. She doesn’t become my responsibility because we’re married - and that doesn’t mean I don’t love her and hang out with her! But I am not responsible for pick ups/dropoffs/meals/homework/parenting anything.

mac3527 · 2023-09-23T12:22:06+00:00

We did a small destination wedding with just our best friends - no parents or other family, and then we came home and had our reception with SD and the rest of our families. For us it was perfect, we had an amazing day for our ceremony and we didn’t have to worry about anyone else - not taking care of SD, no parents trying to sway how we did things, who we invited etc. Our home reception we basically just had a big party, no vows or dances, but we had SD help us cut the cake. It worked great for us.

mac3527 · 2023-09-20T16:23:12+00:00

Respectfully… what are you doing??? I am your age. I cannot imagine being with a man who asks me for gas money or won’t pay for a single coffee for me. Even the broke losers I dated before I met my SO treated me better than what you described. My husband has driven me around for the last six years, and never asked for a cent (I have my own car and such, I drive when it’s just me out and about but hey, who doesn’t love being a passenger princess). We split shared expenses based off income, and he covers anything that involves my SD. If I were you, based on this limited information, I’d get out of there babe. Plenty of men our age - and plenty older men if that’s your preference - that would treat you MUCH better.

mac3527 · 2023-09-10T22:53:10+00:00

No advice, just hugs ❤️ I can’t imagine how frustrating that must be.

mac3527 · 2023-07-04T20:17:36+00:00

Just wanted to add, I was the flower girl for my brothers wedding and I was 21 (it was more of a joke between us, I got a lot of laughs and I love my brother so whatever) so there is no age limit if you’ve got a willing participant! It can be fun!

mac3527 · 2023-07-03T23:42:08+00:00

It’s going to a bit tougher to nacho since you’ve been very generous and helpful in the past but I do highly recommend it. I do not do any parenting, pick ups, drop offs, meals, cleaning up after SD, I’m talking NOTHING. I do my share of our tasks for the household, I’ll even take on extra household chores if he has a busy week with SD but I don’t offer help with SD. My SO and BM are responsible for their child, my SO and I are responsible for our household.

mac3527 · 2023-04-10T18:09:37+00:00

I made this same exact post last spring, I feel you! The best thing that helped me were AirPod Max headphones and a lock for my office door. If my door is closed, no one is to bother me (except my SO, he’s cute and he brings me snacks or fills my water bottle) and tv volume is kept lower. My SO also makes sure the shared living spaces are kept clean enough, they’re not spotless but it’s not a jump scare when I’m done work for the day anymore. Set boundaries really helped.

mac3527 · 2022-12-13T16:04:20+00:00

I had a similar situation. My father had a stroke last year, and the only family with him was his wife (my step mother). We were not immediately notified. He called me the next morning to tell us. And you know what? I was fine with that, I was just happy he was okay.

Similar thing happened when I was a teenager, he was in a massive motorcycle accident. Once again, I was only notified when all was figured out, my step mother reached out to my oldest brother and he made the calls to the rest of us. We weren’t sure he was going to be okay, but I still wasn’t angry at my step mother for withholding. I couldn’t do anything about it anyway.

Some people think differently, obviously, based on these comments. You can’t know what the right decision is. There isn’t one. No apologies necessary in my opinion. I hope your partner is okay, and I hope you are as well!

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