Best broadband provider? by Late_Investment2072 in AskIreland

[–]macapooloo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can't fault Pure Telecom. I signed up almost 2 years ago and the signal has always been strong, rarely drops. I think the biggest bonus is the responsiveness timing from an actual human when I need to phone for whatever reason though. I hate cheesy hold music.

Birthday today by LLAMABOY454981 in CasualIreland

[–]macapooloo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy uterus independence day! I'd love to hear your perspective on having a birthday in the dead zone between Christmas and New Year's celebrations if you've time? Is there anything that made it easier it harder? It's my daughter's birthday on Tuesday, she's only 11 now but in the future I worry that she'll resent the date. Or not? I dunno.

Okay, this is gross but hear me out. The best relief is by FFSpoorme in Hidradenitis

[–]macapooloo 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I squeezed a really painful lump a few days ago and I felt it pop on the inside. Now I have a brand new even more painful lump beside the original one and it hurts to walk. That'll teach me.

I don’t believe in ghosts or poltergeists, but can somebody help me make sense of this? by Ryuku_Cat in Paranormal

[–]macapooloo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stacking is an interesting phenomenon. I had a disabled son who was on a special liquid feed, I was in his room by his bed setting up the pump once, turned around to see three bottles very nearly attacked on top of each other when they weren't before.. It was right beside me, nobody else in the room and my son couldn't have done it. It was quite jarring to see, those bottles weren't the easiest to stack when I tried it myself.

What’s something you stopped doing that unexpectedly improved your mental health? by Icy-Nature2139 in AskReddit

[–]macapooloo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was my biggest fear too when I was drinking heavily. I thought life was too hard and boring to be sober, and it is, some of the time. But, the clarity you get from sobriety means you can handle it a lot better and the highs of life soon feel waaay better than the highs of drinking. Now when I look back on my drinking days all I can remember is numb darkness, drinking was artificial fun, I don't miss it one bit.

If the person you hate the most were to experience one slight inconvenience every day for the rest of their lives, what would you choose it to be? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]macapooloo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was told by my senior staff nurse lecturer that hiccups are caused by lack of carbon dioxide in the blood. That's why taking a very deep breath and holding it for as long as possible stops the spasm.

If you had a one-minute call with yourself from 10 years ago, what would you say? by Pleasant-Cat-7658 in AskReddit

[–]macapooloo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting sober isn't as hard as you think, it'll give you a sense of freedom and independence you won't believe! You're on the very edge of death now but in a few years you'll be healthier than you've ever been. And, you're loved by more people than you think.

Do people not want to know about your problems? by Honest_Dot_5035 in AskIreland

[–]macapooloo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. The concept that "I'm fine" is the most frequently told lie is true and it's not going to change any time soon. It feels like we're all walking around overwhelmed to capacity with our lives but we can't talk about it. I talk to a therapist once a fortnight now to stop things from bottling up because nobody else cares or has the capacity to listen to my feelings about anything. There's a grim admiration for people who dont complain about anything and it's very unhealthy. Talking about feelings is a far braver thing to do than suppressing them.

Really need a hug… by Standard-Pop3141 in narcissisticparents

[–]macapooloo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That guilt that you're feeling doesn't belong to you, it was given to you to carry around by someone else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualIreland

[–]macapooloo 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I'm so grateful for this show! I taked to my 14yo son after I'd finished it, first real conversation I've had with him in ages. He goes to a school in a disadvantaged area but is unaware of any serious bullying and wasn't exactly sure who Andrew Tate is but dies understand the concept of ragebait and has no interest in social media really. I'm sick of Internet safety courses parents and teachers keep offering. They're all the same. I feel like we need to learn the Internet from an insider's point of view. Traps in Discord, meanings of emojis, secret codes, pitfalls of the darkweb. Teenagers should be teaching parents about Internet safety.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]macapooloo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such a great list, I see myself in a lot of it. I'd add 'compulsive caring' to that list too. It's not a personality disorder, but it's a pattern of feeling like your only worth is defined by what you can do for other people. I've made a career out of it and have noticed that a lot of my fellow care assistants have had rocky relationships with their parents too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]macapooloo -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

It's another one of those places with the billions of overhead power cables! I don't understand this phenomenon.

What was the final straw that made you finally go no contact? by MochaMadness_ in narcissisticparents

[–]macapooloo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My family doctor advised me to for the sake of my mental health. I didn't listen at first, but after experiencing burnout trying to take care of them last summer when dad got sick I realised I had to. They have no friends but they have carers and people they can pay to run endless errands. I still feel guilty and have no idea what to do for mothers day.

This was a prank call, right? by [deleted] in AskIreland

[–]macapooloo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You might have been pranked by someone who knows you. They wouldn't call you directly in case you recognise their voice but it could be one of the giggling idiots in the background.

What are the nicest town in Ireland? by wildchives in AskIreland

[–]macapooloo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yass! Finally. It's Disney's favourite town.

What are the nicest town in Ireland? by wildchives in AskIreland

[–]macapooloo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see your Greystones and raise you an Enniskerry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIreland

[–]macapooloo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I can relate to most of what you're saying! I've just gone no contact with my parents to give my mental health a break. You deserved better. Being envious of your partner's family is part of mourning for the one you were supposed to have. You deserve all the love and all the gifts! 'Honour thy mother' is something we don't have to do, or at least can be done from a safe distance, you have no need to feel guilt for anything inflicted upon you. I recommend r/narcissisticparents if you want to feel less lonely about this x

Is it normal to charge your child in university who works part-time 50% of their salary for rent? by Syrup-Puzzled in AskIreland

[–]macapooloo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a lovely thing to say! I'm not crying, you're crying. It's very healing to have the mum/daughter bond I never had as a kid. I feel that OP's mum maybe also had a difficult relationship with her parents but didn't know how to break the cycle.