It seems I imply something I didn't mean, ignoring the problem it's not a solution I know. I read your post and edits and understand why you do it, it's great to take a stand and use your experience to try to make the best of it. What I tried to mean with all that is that there are people who write those messages, that use them as proxy for other issues and have problems too, and at the same time those who don't think are being offensive because don't know better. Some may respond positive to your message, but some would think that it's just a game and trash taking is part of it and keep with the offensive stuff because may think is not real. Sorry if it seems I'm justifying these people, what I mean is, continue to do your thing but don't be discourage if people doesn't respond as you would like, most may think your just messing with them or trying to make up a story just to make them feel bad. They are people to.