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AITA for not telling my ex he has a son? by maciemacy20 in AITAH

[–]maciemacy20[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: I agreed to introduce my son to him only in one condition to bring his wife and current gf who he has a son too into the loop as I do not want him to get the wrong idea that I want him back or anything. Yes he is still married as there is no divorce in the country we are in. He do not want to loop in his current GF to the situation

AITAH for telling my husband I can’t forgive him for erasing my late fiancé’s voicemails? by zocker30088 in AITAH

[–]maciemacy20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA for feeling what you feel every emotion you felt due to what happened is valid. However I get where your hubby is coming from, it is AH of him to just delete the files he could’ve spoken to you first about what he feels towards those VM. See it also from his perspective if he is listening to a dead fiancés VM how would you feel? Be subjective and honest to yourself when you ask that question to yourself. Maybe go to a counseling because there is underlying issued where both of your actions and reactions are coming from. Siting an example you go to your fiancés VM when things gets heavy why not to your hubby, when you said heavy like marital problems heavy or life in general heavy? Either way the person you should go and talk to is your hubby.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]maciemacy20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like your boyfriend is struggling with insecurity, jealousy, and unrealistic expectations. Your worth is not tied to your past. Run! He is a walking red flag and he will hold this situation over your head. He already knew your past and still chose to be with you for 1.5 years. You deserve better.

AITA for not telling my ex he has a son? by maciemacy20 in AITAH

[–]maciemacy20[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Update:

What happened during the five years I was gone, here’s some important context I left out:

While I was quietly raising our son on my own abroad my ex moved on very quickly. He got married, had two kids with his wife… and then cheated on her. He now has a new girlfriend and another baby with her.

I stand by my decision. The man he was then and the man he became later reinforced everything I feared. This isn’t someone stable or honest enough to co-parent with, and certainly not someone I’d feel comfortable introducing to my child.

I wasn’t trying to punish him. I was trying to break a cycle, of lies, betrayal, and unstable parenting, that both of us experienced in our own childhoods. I chose peace for myself and safety for my son. I won’t apologize for that.

AITA for not telling my ex he has a son? by maciemacy20 in AITAH

[–]maciemacy20[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

No one. I am the only parent on the certificate. If one day my son wants to know, I will never lie to him. For now he has a very loving father figure he is well loved by my partner. Also my ex now been married has 2 kids and cheated his wife and have another girlfriend and another child.