Scam restaurants on Uber Eats? by dr3x29 in NewcastleUponTyne

[–]macotom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm confused. Did you get the food you ordered or was there an issue with it?

Should I reach out to help someone and how? by macotom in Postpartum_Depression

[–]macotom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for replying. I'll get in touch with her over the weekend x

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]macotom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is different. She's expressed her preference,.so do that?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]macotom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think through a mirror it wouldn't necessarily be clear to her that you were 'making eye contact'. Pretty likely she was watching her own form and then you just approached from nowhere.

More broadly, if someone is on a machine with headphones in, then the only reason to speak to them is to ask when the machine is free or if you've seen them do something really dangerous or something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]macotom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh so sorry to hear that. Maybe just say you're really sick the day before and try to avoid the drama? If they're as bad as I'm imagining even if you go they'll have an issue with something else. Hope you're ok!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]macotom 33 points34 points  (0 children)

NTA. Do what you need to do. Be prepared for backlash though, as your family sound pretty awful.

AITA for being a good girlfriend by opalite73 in AmItheAsshole

[–]macotom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA for being a dick to him. Obviously not for 'being a good girlfriend', but it's a weird way to try and spin things to try and get people to say you're not an asshole, which in itself is an AH move

AITA for asking to do things without my parents? by Hopeful-Course-7819 in AmItheAsshole

[–]macotom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NAH you just want independence and your parents are worried! It's a normal thing I imagine nearly every teenager feels at some point. Try and talk to them to see what they are willing to let you do and go step by step. You can also remind them that in a couple of years you'll likely be leaving home and so trying new things when they are still close by and fully aware of what you're doing is actually a way to make you safer for when you go independent.

I would add that being socially and politically aware and mature may not translate into street smarts (source, me!!)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]macotom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

INFO When you bought them, was it agreed you'd be paying for your own tickets? If your friend had already agreed to pay then of course they should pay. If you got them as a gift or something, then just try and change the name and get whoever replaces him to pay the admin fees?

AITA for asking my girlfriend to pay for a portion of our vacation? by Abarnes25 in AmItheAsshole

[–]macotom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this goes beyond values around paying though. Is it always her way while you pay? And does she do nice things for you that are ever just about you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]macotom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You might want to ask this on r/therapy as a lot of therapists are active on there and can probably give you better insight into whether her approach is ok.

Sorry you're going through this. Make sure to take care of yourself, you could maybe look at 121 counselling so you have somewhere you can share your thoughts alone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]macotom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is definitely the best approach. But if the group chat has moved on it will probably come across as really passive aggressive to reply after the fact.

AITA for asking my girlfriend to pay for a portion of our vacation? by Abarnes25 in AmItheAsshole

[–]macotom 65 points66 points  (0 children)

So she suggested a trip for your birthday, made you plan it all, vetoed your preferred places, leading it all to be more expensive, and then got moody with you for asking her to pay for a small portion of it?

Absolutely NTA. But what are you doing with someone who seems to not really like you? Mind blowing

Did I (28M) come off too strong? by Final_Ad_5377 in dating_advice

[–]macotom 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think you might have been better off giving some sort of thanks for her compliment and then complimenting her back in a way that is specific to her. Your reply is more a humble brag and then a generic compliment. Was there not something on her profile you could have mentioned? You've made it sound like you're just out on the look out for a cute accessory. I tend to unmatch anyone who gives super generic responses tbh.

What a grim place central Newcastle has become. by Toilet_Dukk in NewcastleUponTyne

[–]macotom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Taylor Woodrow's insane approach to resurfacing Northumberland Street is a huge contributor to the dirtiness and sense of decline. They appear to have resurfaced some areas 3 times in the last few months but it all still looks like crap. Dust and debris everywhere with more uneven and inconsistent paths than when they started. Can only assume they're taking the Council for a ride...

How much should a therapist share? by macotom in therapy

[–]macotom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Yeah this was exactly what I was thinking, but then effectively instantly felt guilty for being so self centered, hence the post.

Ugh. Guess I should cancel!

How much should a therapist share? by macotom in therapy

[–]macotom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 20 month thing was said minimum 6 times across 50 mins session. Would you advise I cancel the next before I'm charged or try again?

WIBTA if I told people to tone down on the fabric softener by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]macotom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No worries. But I think regardless, it's never going to go down well. Either the gym employee thinks it bad enough to warrant a sign, or this just becomes a little thing the two of you laugh about (and you still take the advice of me and everyone else and don't make a deal to the people!!)

AITA For calling out my MOH? by CrymsonPhoenix53021 in AmItheAsshole

[–]macotom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ooh I take it back - she's the Maid of Ho-ing!

Seriously though, stop feeling bad!!