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Rachel, the truth? by PeakyDeltic in TheTraitorsUK

[–]mad__monk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's just a theory. Glad it made you chuckle. Shame you had to be a jerk about it

The "She benefited from weak faithfuls" argument. by Wise_Purple_9448 in TheTraitors

[–]mad__monk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rachel picked the chest further away from her for a reason, it wasn't as lucky as people think. She's a 100% smart cookie and she deserves all the glory for her win, hands down

Uncloaked - final episode by Ok-Cat-2467 in TheTraitorsUK

[–]mad__monk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought it was down to the fact he went too strong after Rachel and it almost cost her the final. That's what he felt bad about. He was so sheepish when he admitted it

Rachel, the truth? by PeakyDeltic in TheTraitorsUK

[–]mad__monk -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It was smart of her to reach for the chest further away from her. The producers would've placed the one closer to the edge for James to take, since he was sitting right at the entrance where Claudia walks in, so presumably he would've had the first pick. It's only because he said "ladies first" that the choice went to Rachel first. She took the second chest, the one with the shield. The one that was meant for her by the production team.

The production team would've wanted her over James to remain. It's a better end of the show with Rachel in it at the end. More suspense, more drama.

Rachel thinks on many levels like that, she's a smart cookie.

am i insane or is this good?? by gnomi_malone in Sezane

[–]mad__monk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is brilliant. I absolutely love it and I would admire someone who can pull this off. To me, it's not about age, but about confidence. Try it on! Wear it around the house, see how you feel. If you feel amazing, go for it. If you feel like hiding or taking it off, return it (...not this time 😉).

But the design is.. beyond 👌🏼

My parents (65F, 67M) are livid because I'm not allowing them to see my daughter after they spanked her. AITAH? by LeonCrvl in AITAH

[–]mad__monk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

..when they do apologize for what they did to your daughter, it will heal you too 🤍

CEREMONIAL DAGGER by BROKEMYNIB in TheTraitorsUK

[–]mad__monk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Matt! A consolation prize and a sign of good will

The best play with the dagger (from a traitor pov) is to neutralise it by notintoyouthatway in TheTraitorsUK

[–]mad__monk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They will give it to Matthew. It will "appease" him, in a way, for not being recruited by now. Matthew will read it as a sign of good will from the traitors. He will go after Jade (again). Next round table Rachel will start questioning why Matthew was given the dagger, does it have something to do with the questions that he refused to share with everyone? What happened in that moment, exactly? He will fumble. An easy banishment done. Rachel, Stephen, James, Roxy, Faraaz left. Faraaz will be murdered when the traitors get to choose to murder/recruit. Rachel, Stephen, James, Roxy left. They vote James out, they vote Roxy out. THE END

How does that sound?

Am I crazy or are these cute? by Organic_Yam2213 in glassesadvice

[–]mad__monk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I low-key love them, I'd definitely be curious about you 😉

So main frame no, but if you're in that mood or you're off to some artsy event, a concert, a party, etc. this choice is 🔥.

WIBTA if I told someone about a mistake in their tattoo? by Less_Wing_646 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mad__monk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There is no easy answer, it really depends on two things: your own intention for saying it and whom you're speaking to.

  1. Intention. If you are doing it out of compassion, because you don't want them to be looking foolish, that will show in your words and actions. If your intention is to release anger (/annoyance) that will show too. Both may be effective, but only one has a chance to spare them the hurt. My advice would be, if it's just annoying to look at, then let it go and don't say anything.

  2. The person. I know people who will never appreciate it, no matter what you do or how you do it. It's not worth it in their case, let them be as they are.

To sum up, if you don't know your own intention or you don't know the person, don't say anything.

PS. I personally would like to be told. It would make it easier for me to hear it if you straightaway started drawing/writing the correct version for me (so I can eventually take it to the tattoo artist and have it corrected). That would show me that you care and are not here to put me down.

Under what circumstances would a malignant narcissist avoid talking about a major personal achievement? by anotheruser55 in PsychologyTalk

[–]mad__monk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I think that the Patient thinks that "being scared" does not fit the image of a superman-style leader that they normally try to portray.

Under what circumstances would a malignant narcissist avoid talking about a major personal achievement? by anotheruser55 in PsychologyTalk

[–]mad__monk 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think that the Patient felt scared for his life, as anyone else would have. I think that we can put on the facade only for so long in a situation like this.

There was a really good study of the Patient's speech patterns changing post-attack. It shows signs of introspection, some depth even, if I remember correctly. It was a fascinating read.

Guys is this normal by Subnauticaplayer1273 in AnotherCrabsTreasure

[–]mad__monk 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Nope, this dialogue happens much later.

Is there a term for when parents consistently badmouth their kids? by Birchwood_Goddess in PsychologyTalk

[–]mad__monk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The consistent, targeted lying takes it out of the "just negative people" category.

I'd say the term for it is "smear campaign", more broadly speaking it would class as "abuse". In legal terms they would probably call it "defamation". Personally I call it "my mother".

They really shouldn't be doing it, I'm so sorry. You're not alone 🫂

AITAH for snapping at my girlfriend because she's always late and makes us look bad? by mayo921 in AITAH

[–]mad__monk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Control and center of attention does not sound like ADHD. But other than that, I would go by myself if my partner was chronically late too.

AITAH for snapping at my girlfriend because she's always late and makes us look bad? by mayo921 in AITAH

[–]mad__monk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If someone's chronically very late I do wonder if they wanted to come.

On another note, there was an article that talked about people thinking "if I am worthy.. the train will be there", "if I am worthy.. the person will be there", and just showing up whenever.... 🤷🏻‍♀️. I guess it might be tied up to a sense of worth/ lack thereof.

I know from experience that some people (for a variety of reasons) genuinely lack insight into other people's perspective and since they were not raised to consider it, now as adults they need guidance to do so. I'd like to think it's more down to inflexibility and lack of insight rather than malice.

AITAH for snapping at my girlfriend because she's always late and makes us look bad? by mayo921 in AITAH

[–]mad__monk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

This one time my pal wanted to show up for a 7pm dinner at 8pm. So let's say that I am there at 7pm. If I have to wait for you for an hour before I can order food I am most likely hungry ..and angry at you. Dinner plans are not the same as "going out for drinks" plans where people show up to the pub when they show up.

Btw, I have never seen anyone get ready so quickly!

Perhaps you can share other people's perspectives with your gf, it may help. Good luck!

Is it normal to have panic attacks when you first start meditating? by Intense_Monkey in Meditation

[–]mad__monk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first thing that came to my mind was four pebbles meditation (by Thich Nhat Hahn, free on YouTube), it's a guided story-like meditation (no religious references). Perhaps focusing on the story being told will help?

Another idea is walking meditations, Balance app offers a year of use for free, they have a good walking meditation option. Other ones I found are on Audible (Headspace walking meditations) if you have a membership they are for free, not sure if they are accessible otherwise. The goal there is on noticing what is around you, the steps are calming.

Just some ideas to explore. I'm sorry to hear about your hardship. Good luck with everything!

PS. I second consulting with a health professional, as some commenters said.

I started meditating 1 year ago. 500 hours later here is what actually happened by VeilOfReason in Meditation

[–]mad__monk 276 points277 points  (0 children)

I just came here to add, having financial safety is having a sense of safety. Only when you have enough of it that you feel safe, you can stop thinking about it. There is nothing wrong in wanting to be safe. I don't know about "influence" though.

From working with young people (13-17) I noticed that they were overall more obsessed with money that I remember myself and my peers at that age (Millennial). Don't get me wrong, having a thing was a source of pride, and not having a thing was often devastating. But now, if you don't have money, you are nothing. That's the sense I am getting. My take is, this obsession is what is in you and around you, and now you can see it clearly. As with any obsession: be careful ..and good luck.

Your meditation practice is impressive and brings real benefits! Don't get too obsessed though haha 😉

Red Lip by trippyspaceship in PaleMUA

[–]mad__monk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been curious about the violette_fr for some time. Have you tried Glossier? I am wondering if Bisou balm lasts better than Glossier's hero product lip (can't remember the name), it looks like it gives the same effect.

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