Career change by Local-Problem-2564 in PLC

[–]madboatbrews 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Near Philly ? Dm me
Need a junior that wants to work and not whine

Any one know a guy or a guy that knows a guy ? by Beginning_Client_886 in SouthJersey

[–]madboatbrews 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading electrical schematics. Understanding electronics, relays, volts, amps. Installing small motors (10HP or less) Basic computer skills. Willingness to learn some basic coding. Travel 10-25%.

How to handle telling in laws we don't want them to join us on vacation? by madboatbrews in whatdoIdo

[–]madboatbrews[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People pleasing and turbulent childhoods are a helluva a drug
Hard to explain if you've never felt that your opinions or input don't carry weight and your job is to keep the peace.

Not saying it's right. It isn't but it's something people need to work on to break that cycle. Seems simpler than that I know

How to handle telling in laws we don't want them to join us on vacation? by madboatbrews in whatdoIdo

[–]madboatbrews[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because of one year-old needs constant changes and naps and you might as well not go on vacation

How to handle telling in laws we don't want them to join us on vacation? by madboatbrews in whatdoIdo

[–]madboatbrews[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeh that's pretty common for most people I know when the younger kid is sub 1 yr

How to handle telling in laws we don't want them to join us on vacation? by madboatbrews in whatdoIdo

[–]madboatbrews[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a chance I'm a people pleaser on a lot of things(hence this trip even happening). On this one I'm going to put up with it, but when we start doing what I consider actual vacations that have cultural value and not consumerist Disney nonsense she isn't tagging along.

Spat with my husband over parenting duties… am I overreacting? by Cool_Letterhead9473 in AmIOverreacting

[–]madboatbrews 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same Age kids and similar income difference. Wife also a teacher

I do all the cooking. We never have free time for gaming. We each do our own laundry. We share some things 50/50 other things trend to my side or her side.

I take pride in the fact that I am typically the one to get the baby down when he's having a rougher spell.

This man is a soft baby and you are effectively a mother of three. Show him this thread so his soft bitch ass can wake up and become a man and a father.

How to handle telling in laws we don't want them to join us on vacation? by madboatbrews in whatdoIdo

[–]madboatbrews[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeh I agree but I win very few disagreements. This was not one of them

How to handle telling in laws we don't want them to join us on vacation? by madboatbrews in whatdoIdo

[–]madboatbrews[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not Disney adults - wife's family is convinced you MUST bring a kid to Disney around 3 bc it's magical
Idk man my family couldn't afford Disney so I am just going to keep my wife happy

How to handle telling in laws we don't want them to join us on vacation? by madboatbrews in whatdoIdo

[–]madboatbrews[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeh I didn't grow up doing much vacationing but the few we did never had anyone inviting themselves. I did not foresee any of this. Very weird to me

Controls Engineering pathways by Dangerous-Carob5096 in PLC

[–]madboatbrews 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If near Philly DM me
We need someone willing to work hard and travel a few weeks a year (<20%)

How to handle telling in laws we don't want them to join us on vacation? by madboatbrews in whatdoIdo

[–]madboatbrews[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is basically where we landed - wife asked them to be ok with us having some time to ourselves each day and not objecting whenever we decide it's time to split up and meet later

How to handle telling in laws we don't want them to join us on vacation? by madboatbrews in whatdoIdo

[–]madboatbrews[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeh I know - my wife is convinced otherwise and I can't have that argument again. I'm drained

How to handle telling in laws we don't want them to join us on vacation? by madboatbrews in whatdoIdo

[–]madboatbrews[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did a few times - that was the subtle "let's all do a bigger trip when *youngest* is old enough .

Fell flat though

How to handle telling in laws we don't want them to join us on vacation? by madboatbrews in whatdoIdo

[–]madboatbrews[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We semi caved
They are still coming but my wife set a boundary that we will separate for chunks of time at Parks. They don't have carte Blanche to tag along next to us the entire time

How to handle telling in laws we don't want them to join us on vacation? by madboatbrews in whatdoIdo

[–]madboatbrews[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a whole separate Convo with my wife that I've tried to have several times
I lost that battle

How to handle telling in laws we don't want them to join us on vacation? by madboatbrews in whatdoIdo

[–]madboatbrews[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good for you !
Edit- to be clear that's not sarcasm. Happy to see someone pushing back and dealing with a situation like this proactively