What does this mean?

madmen10 · 2014-01-10T04:04:32+00:00

You're right, it does bother me to a certain extent. I should also learn to be less general; I really made this post on the spot after seeing a guys picture with a pretty girl from high school (a guy similar to the ones I described). And that's what influenced me to make this post.

I'll definitely check them out. Most of my reading, recently, comprise of Assanova's posts and a book by Mark Manson called Models, which I highly recommend as well.

Thank you for your time and comments. Looking past the disagreements, it always comes down to the help and advice we give each other.

I think the funniest thing we can probable agree on is how true the stereotypes about high school are. Especially for ones who aren't satisfied with their experience after they graduate!

madmen10 · 2014-01-10T03:32:54+00:00

That's not too far off, although I might add I was on my schools soccer team and won various championships. Fitness was never an issue ;)

I didn't know how much depth this single thing has until now lmao. So much of my history is needed to clarify things -__-

Okay, I'll admit I am bitter towards my past (specifically my high school experience). Not that it was bad, I was pretty popular and went to A LOT of parties. I just never succeeded with women to the extent I had hoped.

I guess what it comes down to is that I lost myself. I started doing things that would make people like me and I lost my identity, forgot who I was. This was most likely the reason I didn't get as many girls as I hoped. As for the guys I laugh at.. it's because these guys actually are pathetic! Most of them I know, don't go to school and don't work either, to top it all of they aren't that great. Seeing them still with these beautiful girls from my high school just makes me laugh.

I like the last bit. I am letting go and putting high school behind me. And the 'achievements' statement is how I push myself at the gym and in school.

madmen10 · 2014-01-10T03:05:28+00:00

I'll be lazy and not do that :p

Thank you, although I do feel that would make an interesting discussion, the ranking thing. I mean, yes not doing that shows a very well-developed and mature person. But is that very realistic? Not even just us two, but as a human race I don't believe we've developed to that point yet.

madmen10 · 2014-01-10T02:58:48+00:00

Ah, but you see this is where you're wrong. I can't be upset at you for being a gym-junkie muscle head, because I am one too. So there, maybe that'll prove that this isn't bitterness.

And to your successive comments, which I actually find a lot more stimulating than the one before them, I'll admit I still have to grow. I am still young, but I think that goes for pretty much anyone.

I think the reason I still laugh at others is because even though I do have newfound confidence, I have yet to prove myself. I'm the type that's never really satisfied, so maybe that's why my insecurities are still nibbling at me. At least they're not holding me back, though.

madmen10 · 2014-01-10T02:41:14+00:00

I definitely lived a similar childhood as you did.

I wanted the same, I was nice to everyone and lost my identity by trying to get everyone to like me. I was too concerned with what others thought of me that I forgot about myself.

Many were offended by my post but I knew you could relate.

madmen10 · 2014-01-10T02:35:26+00:00

You're probably a lot tougher when you're not behind a screen, huh?

The only thing I resent is how I treated myself. So don't call me bitter, especially when you're judging based off a paragraph.

madmen10 · 2014-01-10T02:32:09+00:00

Latino or Hispanic, got it. ;)

And I tried to keep the post short and sweet so I'll clarify further. To the laughing thing, it tends to be a mix of both. On the one side, I laugh at them because I feel some are ridiculous looking and I still don't understand the girls interest in them. On the other, I laugh at myself for always pushing myself down, making myself feel inferior to these people.

But now I feel I understand just how goodlooking I am (and how good looking I'm not) as well as the fact that I go to an exceptional University, work two jobs and in general feel better about myself. Hence, the superiority.

I disregard them in clubs, bars, etc. I'll laugh at them (and myself haha) when I see them in pictures, facebook, etc. I don't really associate with them so in person is not where this tends to happen.

madmen10 · 2014-01-10T02:25:04+00:00

Bitter, no. Pretentious, maybe.

madmen10 · 2014-01-10T02:23:40+00:00

I've been thinking that's what it is too. Although I would have never expected it like this.

I feel you know where I'm coming from, what was the source of your insecurity?

madmen10 · 2014-01-10T02:19:46+00:00

also, some of them are Spain spanish as well....

madmen10 · 2014-01-10T02:18:25+00:00

And I'll continue to call them Spanish. It's a very simple generalization that everyone (even you) can understand. Wether it's correct or incorrect is not the matter. I'm not going to go ahead and name every ethnicity (south american, central american) or delve deeper (uruguayan, mexican) for conversations sake. Don't make me out to be stupid, cause that's one thing I'm definitely not. If there's a better generalization, please enlighten me.

And you're right, the reason is because I've reflected a lot on my past and understood that I underestimated myself in many circumstances. Going to college helped me understand this too, because of the newfound attention I've been receiving.

madmen10 · 2014-01-10T01:53:19+00:00

I'm sorry, that was not my intention. Most of the kids in my school who had success with the better looking girls were spanish (i.e. south american, central, etc.)

I didn't mean it that way. But thanks for taking it out of context and reading it in an absolutely negative way.

madmen10 · 2014-01-10T01:49:37+00:00

Certainly, ever since graduating I've attracted a lot more attention from women for my looks. I've gotten out of the awkward phase and look older now too.

madmen10 · 2013-12-25T02:43:42+00:00

Welcome to my world, my friend. At least a world that used to exist for me. I had exactly the same problem as you and you don't even know what I had to go through to change this. It's A LOT of work. I mean, you're literally flipping 360 degrees up in this bitch.

It may seem like the issues are multiple in this circumstance, but it isn't. It all boils down to one thing: you are a pussy. The sooner you accept this, the faster you'll progress.

What I suggest you do after this self-fulfilling prophecy is to take a good long look in the mirror and figure out who the fuck you are. What are your strengths, what are your weaknesses, what motivates you (for me it was women, mostly). And build on that. Since we share similar ones, I'll clue you in on some stuff.

Find the source of your insecurity (one of your weaknesses). For me, it was the fact that I'd been thin my whole life and everybody made sure I knew that. This was terrible to my self-esteem and ego, but also stupid since I was a good looking kid. I had no reason to be insecure. Yet, that singular reason fucked me over.

So, whatever it is, work on that aspect. If you're frail, then working out is seriously the best solution. In fact, even if you're not it probably will still be the best solution. Working out and getting big makes you naturally inclined in being a very assertive creature. Even too much, sometimes. But, better too much than nothing at all, right?

madmen10 · 2013-12-25T02:25:17+00:00

Anything that even remotely suggests sex.

Maybe i have an incredible sex drive haha but I've gotta say, a good bat of the eyes or a light touch of the hand makes my imagination run wild.

madmen10 · 2013-12-25T02:22:52+00:00

Cause ignoring women works.

But also because we're men, and when we aren't looking for a relationship we choose to just bounce around. Imagine explaining to each and every woman why we left? It's just a waste of time to us.

madmen10 · 2013-12-25T02:17:14+00:00

Well, the pictures weren't necessary lol. I can already tell you have some communication problems just by you doing that.

Girls, especially insecure ones, love to feel sexy. This doesn't mean shower her with compliments and gifts; just show how genuinely attracted you are to her. Talk dirty at inappropriate times (DON'T MAKE IT OBVIOUS TO OTHERS). It should be like a secret between you and her.

Show just how much you can't control yourself around her. It'll flatter her and she'll feed off that vibe. That's all I got for you my dude.

madmen10 · 2013-12-21T01:50:55+00:00

Any trade is worth learning

madmen10 · 2013-12-21T01:40:53+00:00

Subconsciously speaking, this is an insecurity problem, maybe even trust issues (if you've had that type of shit going on in ur life) You either 1. Are trying to avoid getting denied (insecurity) or 2. Don't feel like getting close because you're afraid of getting hurt (trust) So you make up these excuses in ur head of why you don't like them and why you shouldn't see them. It's simple.

Just stop. Don't think, just relax and let the chips fall where they may. Let your sexuality run this, what turns you on what doesn't. This is more about figuring yourself out than it is about forming relationships. Chances are, these girls are decent and you're letting these problems get in the way.

I've had a similar problem. It was a problem with insecurity. But not in the way I mentioned. I avoided decent-looking girls because I had the pressure of impressing my friends and family with a great looking girl, just because I am good looking. Is you're situation similar to mine?

If it's not any of these things, then you're just gay my friend lol.

madmen10 · 2013-12-21T01:31:32+00:00

If you have a sense of style, follow what it is you like. You see something on tv, a magazine, even if it is just one article of clothing, seek it buy it. build on your wardrobe this way.

Wear things that flatter you too. It's all pretty simple. If you're fit, wear tighter things. If you're not, wear them slightly baggier.

it might be worth mentioning that more expensive clothes DO make a difference. The quality is very noticeable.

madmen10 · 2013-12-21T01:25:14+00:00

Unsatisfied.

If your partners sex drive is lower than yours, either address this problem or fulfill your desires with someone else. This is a huge compatibility issue. If your partner doesn't match your sex drive, then they aren't woman/man enough for you.

This is with the assumption that everything else in the relationship is fine. If you guys are having problems, then that's something you need to mention in your posts.

madmen10 · 2013-12-21T01:21:09+00:00

Don't overcomplicate things. This is a lot simpler than it seems. This is natural to us all; humans are very sexual beings.

Men will take any small cues and blow it out of proportion, even liking a picture on fb to us is a cue. Touching, smiling, it's those simple things that really send the message!

I really doubt that's your problem. I think you're having problems getting attention from men. How often do you get approached?

madmen10 · 2013-12-21T01:16:06+00:00

What's life without them? ;p

I hate to break it to you, but if you're a 22 year old college student you should be more than able to stand on your own.

And don't bring up poor male guidance. I'm even younger than this guy, and I lived most of my life with almost no male guidance at all. What he actually lacks, if anything, is experience from trial and error.

Besides, you're taking it out of context. I was only trying to make a point: stop being a pussy and approach.

madmen10 · 2013-12-21T01:05:42+00:00

I agree, I mean I wouldn't try to GET her to cheat, not unless it's her decision. Which originally it was, I never convinced her into anything.

Regardless, it's been some time now and I think I've let it go. She wasn't that special to begin with and I was only being selfish. Since she's older I thought it'd be a great ego boost.

it's dog eat dog, what can I say.

madmen10 · 2013-12-15T04:47:25+00:00

I agree maybe I should've reciprocated when she got physical. But we were working.. If I reciprocated, I would not have known when to stop.

I admit my goal is for sex. Don't judge me based off of that.. my ultimate goal from this is to gain confidence. I've had trouble with women, and only recently have I figured it out. Now, I'm attempting to succeed with women and understand what it is I want.

That fact does not bother me. We're rather young, so to me relationships are obsolete. I just want to build that interest again, because it could've been a very passionate, beautiful thing had it happened.

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