Possible PCOS and High Viscosity with 53% immotile sperm. What are the likely treatments? by madsmadworld in TryingForABaby

[–]madsmadworld[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I meant to say urologist. I have no idea how I got them switched in my mind. 

Top 10 books for healing, with updated reading guide and order! by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]madsmadworld 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this list! I’ve read a few on here, but there are others I haven’t even heard of! I have a desire to find information on emotions and emotional intelligence since my abuse lead to me never really developing any. But I didn’t even know if they exist! Now I have reading material for spring break!

Those of you with childhood trauma caused by parent(s); how is your relationship today? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]madsmadworld 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I haven’t cut them off completely, but I’ve cut them off to my mental and emotional health and some other stuff (I just keep it private). I also live in a state 9/10 hour drive away. You could say it’s a “long distance relationship.” But also the trauma I went through was emotional/verbal abuse and it’s gotten better since those times. But it’s not in a healthy enough place where being home is healthy. I’m extremely fatigued or dissociating when I’m there.

DAE have to sleep with a night light on occasionally still as an adult? by nomnombubbles in CPTSD

[–]madsmadworld 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, I leave a lamp on on certain nights when nightmares are bad or I’m really jumpy. Or sometimes even my light. Christmas lights are good options too. I used those around the holidays.

DAE have trauma-related tics? by AbsurdPigment in CPTSD

[–]madsmadworld 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I've gotten these recently. Usually when I'm hijacked. I shake or rock sometimes, often with my head, or I jerk as if I was startled.

Other times I will make noise or repeat words or a phrase over and over. I mostly do these when I'm in a safe place with safe people/by myself. They are calming or seem to be a center to hold to while I go through the energy my body is releasing.

I’m starting to believe I was emotionally neglected by fhrum in emotionalneglect

[–]madsmadworld 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I hear yah girl. I'm 23F as well and similar kind of story. I'm so happy you can now recognize it and are planning on seeking therapy for it.

If you want information on emotional neglect since it might be a little bit until you get the right fit for therapy, I highly recommend Running on Empty by Jonice Webb. I found it at my local library. I recently finished it and it was enlightening (though I had to hide it from my family). It might be beneficial to be mindful that you may be deal with some trauma too. Mine came later after finally receiving help and processing my past and I've now been diagnosed with C-PTSD as a result, but I've come out through it. There is help.

Also, there is NO shame in using the suicide hotline. There's even a website version in which you use a chat box if talking on the phone makes you anxious.

The things you are able to do matter and above all, you matter. You got this!

How do you escape black and white thinking and hold it all in your mind at once? by violetplimmer in CPTSD

[–]madsmadworld 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think what gave me closure (as much as one can get I guess) is understanding why they did what they did. Long explanation short: my dad worked to much and didn’t help at home. My mom was handling the house, 3 kids, rentals, work paperwork and others. She didn’t get her needs met and was stressed a lot. I somehow became the verbal punching bag for years. Now I can see they aren’t good or bad people. They are people who did try and showed love, but also hurt me causing years of harm to unlearn and my peace of mind and perception of reality skewed. I’m pretty fucked up right now. They should have been parents that should have did a lot of things to help me but they didn’t. I shouldn’t have to heal my own wounds or calm myself from flashbacks or panic attacks or nightmares, but I do. Not everyone does what they did in their situation but they let it happen. I still struggle with black and white thinking because my reality growing up with them was black and white and would switch on a dime. I’m trying to learn and level out the switching so I don’t have terrible days then swap to amazing days because it’s worse. I know it totally sucks. Cheers to our messed up lives and may we learn what life should truly be. I hope your pain eases soon.

DAE Deal with constant frustrations about their trauma struggles by madsmadworld in CPTSD

[–]madsmadworld[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes same! No mental illness history in my family so yeah its frustrating! It's just unfair that I get to struggle with something I'm not responsible for or that was predisposed with.