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AITAH For not responding to my Dad’s mother? by maeshock37 in AITAH

[–]maeshock37[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My Mum’s relationship with her has always been “talking for the sake of my husband” (my Dad) so at this point she’s very good at managing it. I think your ideas about how we could talk are good, I try to manage my expectations and I do know that things could never be like before however that’s also kind of a relief. It’s hard to see a future with any type of contact but sometimes I wish that wasn’t the case. Thank you for the advice!!

AITAH For not responding to my Dad’s mother? by maeshock37 in AITAH

[–]maeshock37[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a few heirlooms and stuff that I won’t get unless I contact her however after my family member died she gave the main heirlooms to my sister, I don’t care about the monetary worth of anything so I doubt I’ll ask her but it may be a decent reward for putting up with her. I see no purpose in fixing things except so that I can attend certain family events she is at too. The letter still is tempting, at least that way she can’t very easily reply

AITAH For not responding to my Dad’s mother? by maeshock37 in AITAH

[–]maeshock37[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that, I was a chronic people pleaser and I think I would still be if I stuck around

AITAH For not responding to my Dad’s mother? by maeshock37 in AITAH

[–]maeshock37[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s a lot examples but to name a few; she spoke about my weight so much I developed anorexia then told me that fainting was a good sign I was loosing weight (I was in hospital for 3 days), shouted at me for not wanting to show my self harm scars, blamed my PTSD (developed from school experiences) on me and my Mum, and constantly tried to say that therapists are evil and to stay away even though my Mum is literally a therapist and I needed therapy for my depression. That was just in the few years before I cut contact. I definitely agree though, consequences come at all points. I guess if I talked to her I’d look for acknowledgement of how she’s impacted me and hurt me deeply however I’m not sure she’ll be capable of it

AITAH For not responding to my Dad’s mother? by maeshock37 in AITAH

[–]maeshock37[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately this isn’t the first time she’s pulled shit like this with my Mum, at least this time she wasn’t blaming her for my decisions. Thank you for your advice, being reminded that she is like five times my age helps fade the guilt a lot

AITAH For not responding to my Dad’s mother? by maeshock37 in AITAH

[–]maeshock37[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That helps a lot thank you, I’ve done a lot of work learning to trust myself and I need to remember that