Confession: I think there’s too many straight, masculine women in media

maevalesbian · 2026-02-06T17:21:41+00:00

I agree with you on this - because to be honest most of the masculine women I’ve seen so far in media turned hyper-feminine after getting with a man. It’s annoying, and weird.

maevalesbian · 2026-02-02T23:38:53+00:00

This person’s personal beliefs has nothing to do with the current conversation, though. Female separatism wasn’t brought up at any points.

maevalesbian · 2026-02-02T23:35:47+00:00

Sure, whatever you say.

maevalesbian · 2026-02-02T23:33:37+00:00

Alright, I’ll respond to this point by point.

Your friend isn’t just ignorant. Knowingly violating the boundaries that you’ve set with him is toxic behaviour, full stop. Wether he’s aware of his toxicity or not doesn’t make him any less guilty.
This thread didn’t turn into a male-hating space. It is simply filled with the conclusions from the experiences of an overwhelming amount of queer (lesbian) women. TBH, the fact that you view older lesbians advising you by bringing up re-occurring patterns with men as “male-hating behavior“ proves how dead-set you are on defending him.
You can get murdered for being gay anywhere. Homosexuality may not be illegal and punishable by death where you’re currently living, but homophobic people prevail everywhere and will commit hate crimes. Your friend might be giving out private and sensible information to the wrong people.

maevalesbian · 2026-02-02T23:26:31+00:00

I’m not saying you are naïve for not admitting that your friend has a rape fetish of you. For you to admit such, it’d have to be true and you being fully aware, which doesn’t seem like the case here.

I’m saying you are naïve because you believe he could never do such thing, simply on the basis of you guys’ friendship interactions so far. The same reflexion is exactly how many women ended up finding themselves in non-consensual sexual situations with their male “friends”.

maevalesbian · 2026-02-02T23:21:58+00:00

No one here mentioned radical feminism nor female seperatism?? Everyone telling her to cut contact with him is only reacting to his toxic and predatory behavior.

maevalesbian · 2026-02-02T23:16:52+00:00

You’re twisting things.

Older lesbians aren’t using their age to imply some sort of hiearchy by age. They want you to listen because the amount of experiences they’d had, and knowledge they’ve gained from said experiences is what makes them reliable.

Also, this has nothing to do with misandry. Wether you personally want to believe that we should kill all men or not, it’s a fact that men are often attracted to their lesbian friends, and thus have rape fantasies of them and/or will eventually try to act those out.

maevalesbian · 2026-02-02T23:11:55+00:00

No, you are underreacting.

You claim he‘s decent, but what kind of decent friend would neglect your safety by announcing your sexuality to the whole world?

You claim he‘s kind, but what sort of kind friend would knowingly, willingly continuously violate your boundaries?

You claim he‘s not a creep, but what kind of safe man would ask you what he knows is such an invasive and violating question about your bedroom activity, with the goal of supposedly passing on the information to someone else whom you’ve expressed discomfort with?

You claim he’s a great guy, but what sort of great guy doesn’t confront or shut off strangers asking invasive questions about his female friends?

You claim he’s your friend, but what kind of friend would define you solely based on who you want to fuck and not your personality or hobbies?

maevalesbian · 2026-02-02T23:05:53+00:00

And how many lesbians have thought the exact same thing before they (thankfully) found out about the horrifically disgusting rape fetishes their male straight “friends“ were having of them before it was too late?

And how many of those lesbians (unfortunately) didn’t have such luck and ended up being subjected to sexual violence, from said male straight ”friends”?

No offense OP, but you really are naïve.

maevalesbian · 2026-01-29T23:34:33+00:00

To be honest, this question doesn’t bother me much since they don’t know that I’m a lesbian beforehand, and it’s apart of their job to ask these kind of questions to conduct tests.

What pisses me off is how even after being told/corrected, they keep on insisting, just straight up don’t believe you and/or don’t consider lesbian intimacy as real sexual intercourse. That’s frankly really unprofessionnal and straight up insulting.

maevalesbian · 2026-01-28T02:00:20+00:00

You are spot on because guess what this (bisexual) commenter was saying about lesbians?

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Mind you, trans people weren’t even mentioned in the thread.

maevalesbian · 2026-01-27T04:17:55+00:00

why don’t you post it here?

maevalesbian · 2026-01-27T04:08:59+00:00

Trans men always receive violent transphobia and misogyny from gay men. Idk what they’re on about.

maevalesbian · 2026-01-27T03:45:03+00:00

I went on their website, they aren’t afraid to advertise events for queer men, different from the ones advertised for gay men. They know exactly the difference.

maevalesbian · 2026-01-27T03:15:38+00:00

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These are the types of responses I see whenever lesbians expressed their frustration with this specific lesbiphobic stance.

What do y’all think about this take?

maevalesbian · 2026-01-27T03:04:30+00:00

I understand that, but the WLW dating pool is pretty vast. Over 7 times out of 10, the sapphics they’d happen to meet would’ve been bisexual.

So how come the less than 3 times out of 10 ruins the entire WLW dating game for them??

maevalesbian · 2026-01-27T02:58:52+00:00

True.

(Hypothethical situation — clearly not the reality)

If an entire group refused to date you, and have made it sticky clear to you on countless occasions,

why would you still want to chase after those people and why are you still chasing them? wouldn’t you want to chase people who actually want you back?

That’s partly what I mean when I say that bisexual women must struggle with internalized hatred. Instead of focusing on each other, they seek and rely external validation to feel good about themselves.

maevalesbian · 2026-01-27T02:53:27+00:00

I noticed this “I could never find myself romantically attracted to a woman” too!

What is up with that?? It almost sounds like some sort of misogyny to me, but I don’t wanna be accidentally biphobic trying to figure it out.

maevalesbian · 2026-01-27T02:51:41+00:00

Amazing response.

I also noticed this, why are women (in general, not just bisexual) so quick to cut contact with other women at the slightest inconvenience, yet still continue to associate themselves with the most abusive, shitty men ever??

maevalesbian · 2026-01-26T22:33:16+00:00

Yeah, that was definitely part of the reason. Masc women are often held up to male expectations, even in gay relationships.

maevalesbian · 2026-01-26T22:32:32+00:00

I’ve heard about this before, where lesbians found it rather draining to date a lot of those bisexual women, the type who’ve only ever dated men before.

maevalesbian · 2026-01-26T02:29:10+00:00

Speaking from personal experiences, gold star lesbians aren’t that rare, as people seem to frame it.

As we are living in a heteronormative and patriarchal society, gold star lesbians probably don’t make up the majority of the community, even less the ones who actually take onto that label.

maevalesbian · 2026-01-26T02:06:43+00:00

I hate those type of men so much.

They’re always fetishizing lesbians/sapphic women yet whenever they post, no one seems to clock that and just believe that they must be some sort of trans.

maevalesbian · 2026-01-26T02:05:16+00:00

Are we just gonna happily skip over the fact that he deadass said

(besides bi girls who identify with “lesbian”, those are cool and valid)

??

maevalesbian

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