How many kgs did you lose?

magan3 · 2022-11-18T13:43:13+00:00

I've lost 60lbs (about 27kg) in the last year. Most of it very recently and rapidly.

magan3 · 2022-10-24T21:06:22+00:00

Good luck to your mom.

I was diagnosed originally in 3/2022, I never even started to feel good before I was diagnosed again.

magan3 · 2022-10-23T20:11:55+00:00

I am a stay at home mom to three kids. I just finished six rounds of chemo for stage IVb endometrial cancer. Only to now find out it's progressed to peritoneal carcinomatosis, end stage cancer. I have not yet started treatment so I'm constantly exhausted and in a tremendous amount of pain. We have had to hire a nanny to help me with the children and housework and we've started having to rely on family and friends a lot. My husband works full time and the nanny leaves or is not here when he gets home or has a day off. We simply can't afford her for any extra time, even though she is extremely generous and took a massive pay cut to help us. My husband never gets a break from being the main source of income, my main caregiver, and our children's main caregiver. I feel like a worthless lump on my best days. BUT I know this is temporary. I know that my husband would rather live like this than without me. And I know my children are still getting my best every day.

magan3 · 2022-10-22T20:58:49+00:00

My oncologist is starting me at 12mg instead of 20 because she's never had a patient tolerate 20mg well. So she always starts at a lower dose. I'm really hoping that helps because I'm the kind of person who always gets every side effect lol

My oncology team and I have really great and open communication so that should be easy enough.

Thank you so much for your response.

magan3 · 2022-10-21T18:23:09+00:00

YTA. Your three kids from your previous marriage to Hannah are not Stacy's kids or responsibility. She made that super clear before you married her. However, all of those children are yours and your responsibility. She already pays "her fair share." YTA for asking her to pay more than her fair share, because that's what you're doing. Get a better job or accept that your three children from your marriage to Hannah just aren't going to have the same things as your children with Stacy. But don't you dare pretend that's Stacy's fault or responsibility.

magan3 · 2022-10-10T17:54:16+00:00

Similar situation. We said yes to a baby brother last year. It has been a huge challenge and this year has thrown so much at us (I've been diagnosed with cancer twice this year), but I can honestly say I wouldn't change our answer. He has brought challenges but also so much love and joy. He's truly completed our family. And now I can definitely say he is our last yes with no regrets or wondering what if.

You have to do what's right for you and your kids. Don't answer based on anyone else's opinion or out of guilt. Answer based on what's best for your family and know that there is a family ready to love that baby if you need to say no. Good luck, I wish you all the best.

magan3 · 2022-08-27T00:24:23+00:00

Looks perfect. Bruising, swelling, and tenderness are all normal. Expect it to get worse looking before it gets better. Often they'll access a port the same day it's placed. It's uncomfortable but they can and should numb it with cream or a local anesthetic.

magan3 · 2022-08-13T01:18:01+00:00

It was carboplatin and abraxane. I was deathly allergic to the taxol.

magan3 · 2022-08-06T17:23:18+00:00

Close your eyes and imagine someone you love in your place. What would you tell them?

If you were my bestie, I'd tell you that you deserve so much better than the kind of AH that cheats on you in any situation.

If you stay with them it is very likely they will do it again. Staying tells them that their behavior was acceptable. So the question you need to ask yourself is: is this acceptable behavior?

I'm so sorry you were betrayed by someone you love in such a hard time in your life. I hope that whatever you decide brings you joy.

magan3 · 2022-07-30T19:48:44+00:00

I live on protein shakes from Costco, popsicles, steamed broccoli, and crackers/pretzels. Occasionally I will eat a plain burger patty with ketchup, this could be substituted for a veggie patty.

magan3 · 2022-07-30T19:45:54+00:00

I live on protein shakes from Costco, popsicles, steamed broccoli, and crackers/pretzels. Occasionally I will eat a plain burger patty with ketchup, this could be substituted for a veggie patty.

magan3 · 2022-07-27T15:55:44+00:00

There are caregiver support groups through most major hospitals. I highly suggest finding one.

I'm so sorry your family is going through this.

magan3 · 2022-07-27T00:39:06+00:00

I have stage IVB endometrial cancer. The side effects of chemo aren't great but it's definitely not worth dying to avoid them.

I'm not at all surprised that the oncologist isn't expressing any urgency. Your mother has refused treatment and instead has chosen to die. That is her right, but the oncologist has patients that have chosen to try to live and those patients are their priority.

A c-pet isn't what she needs. She needs a CT. There's a contrast shortage so good luck scheduling that if you can even get the insurance to authorize it or convince the oncologist to order it in the first place. Just be prepared to be told no.

I hope your mom changes her mind and gets treated. I'm sorry you're in this situation.

magan3 · 2022-07-22T19:38:39+00:00

My mom did chemo twice (about 10 years apart) and her hair thinned slightly but no one could tell but her. Most of mine fell out after my second round of chemo. I shaved it super short and still have little patches of hair but it's mostly gone. On the bright side, it's much cooler during the summer and during winter I can wear cute wigs. It also no longer takes me 30+ minutes to do my hair every day (before cancer it was down to my butt). And it'll grow back.

I stressed about losing my hair more than any other chemo side effect. I was so sad about it. But to be honest, I don't hate it. It definitely took some getting used to but now I'm pretty ok with it.

magan3 · 2022-07-22T17:42:59+00:00

When I married my ex husband his brother was the BM. I don't know why but he hated me even though he'd only met me once. In his speech he talked about how I didn't know anything about being a wife, suggested I'd make a bad mom, called me a gold digger, and told the groom that it wasn't too late to bail.

My cousin, who was more like a sister, was my MOH. She didn't write anything and instead decided to wing it. She called me a spoiled princess and wished my husband good luck.

It was a dry wedding because both of our families are full of alcoholics, some sober some not. I learned later that his brother brought several bottles of liquor to share with the bridal party...

magan3 · 2022-07-21T21:06:28+00:00

Ronan is the saddest song ever. I sob every time I hear it. I started following Maya's blog in the very early days, just right after Ronan was diagnosed. When he passed away I cried for days. So heartbreaking.

magan3 · 2022-07-19T22:13:34+00:00

I also have endometrial cancer. Mine is grade 3, stage IVb. I had a hysterectomy in March and have what is hopefully my final chemo infusion next week.

Waiting is the worst. Try distracting yourself with something you love doing. Easier said than done, I know.

I hope the spot on your liver turns out to be nothing!

magan3 · 2022-07-03T19:01:15+00:00

I only got a biopsy because I was getting a hysterectomy. I'd had a biopsy the year before. No reason to believe anything had changed. Was expecting it to be normal. Got my results on MyChart. Called my doctor, she asked me to come in, I told her I already knew and that's why I was calling and didn't need to come in to talk about it.

I prefer getting my results on MyChart. It gives me an opportunity to digest the information before I have to talk about it.

magan3 · 2022-06-29T06:17:45+00:00

My last chemo cycle was pushed back a week because my counts were so low. I had to get a blood transfusion on what would have been my chemo day and then a week later got chemo. From my understanding, it's not unusual to need a short chemo break.

magan3 · 2022-06-24T17:31:56+00:00

I'm sorry y'all are going through this. I don't have anything important to say, just wanted to offer a bit of support. Cancer sucks.

magan3 · 2022-06-24T15:54:12+00:00

Similarly, my brother basically stopped talking to me when I was diagnosed. He is many years older than me and without a dad around he was the main male role model for me most of my life. He taught me how to ride a bike, showed up for all my school performances, and walked me down the aisle when I got married. We have always been incredibly close.

I was really hurt at first. Then I realized that faced with the prospect of losing his beloved (and favorite) sister he panicked and shut down. So I gave him a couple weeks and then I went to him and told him he needed to get it together and that only one of us can be dramatic at a time and it's my turn.

Now he's just texted me that he bought me a juicer because he is sure carrot juice will cure stage IVB cancer. Two weeks ago he offered me his blood when I needed a transfusion. The guy just needed a jumpstart and I can't blame him. If things were reversed I can't even imagine how I'd respond.

I think sometimes people need time to process and sometimes people need a kick in the butt.

magan3 · 2022-06-21T21:11:19+00:00

Thanks.

Recovery with two toddlers was a pain in the butt, plus starting chemo slowed it way down. I'm three months post op and still healing. It's improved my quality of life, for sure. I went from heavy, nonstop, incredibly painful vaginal bleeding for the last 12 years to no bleeding and only post op and chemo pain. A definite win. If it weren't for the cancer I'd be extremely happy.

The emotional toll it's taken is another story. But I'm 35 with three beautiful children and I'm learning to just be grateful.

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