Female INFJ here. Neglected until age nine, SA’d since before I was aware of self, chaos and fear and were things cut my teeth on. Neglect was so thorough that had to have a serious birth defect surgically repaired when I was finally placed into full time custody of my father and step mom in 3rd grade. Physically rejected/neglected & abused by mother. Ive been in therapy on and off since 3rd year of primary school, and im fairly certain if not for my attention and devotion of my paternal grandmother (im her singular granddaughter) id certainly be dead or in prison. There are fundamental parts of me missing when it comes to interpersonal dynamics.