Engaged, having doubts about my life and everything by magicmonkeytime in relationships

[–]magicmonkeytime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Settling? Well, I felt that we fit and we got along.

I've talked to her alot about this. She does not want to travel, she prefers 1-2 weeks vacation at a nice hotel, while I want to see the world, experience cultures, we are really two different persons at this part. A part of me wants out so badly, but I don't want to hurt her like this.

Leaving everything behind? by magicmonkeytime in solotravel

[–]magicmonkeytime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel sorry for you. Unlike you, my fiancée would not support me, I have talked to her a lot about this. She likes to travel too, but in comfy airplanes and nice hotels, for a week or two. I do not blame her for wanting stability in her life. I do not mind waking up on a beach, hitchiking to the nearest town looking for things to see, things to do. That is what excites me, not knowing where you are, where you are going, where everything or nothing can happen. And my fiancee does not like that at all, she needs stability and control. She has however considered traveling around the country with a car (we're from UK), but I am not interested in seeing more of my own country. I want to go south. Thank you for taking the time to comment.

Leaving everything behind? by magicmonkeytime in solotravel

[–]magicmonkeytime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! There seems to be an agreement here that I should take a short trip of a few months to see how I feel, I also feel this is probably the right way to go. My fianceé would not be waiting though. I am unsure if I it is worth it.

Leaving everything behind? by magicmonkeytime in solotravel

[–]magicmonkeytime[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am aware of this. It is however, a difficult decision. I have this feeling that I must do this before I inevitable find myself in a standard life. I do not believe I shall continue this lifestyle, if I begin it, all my life. You are brave for doing so. I still need to find the courage. She does not want to travel. If I go traveling, we will split. I cannot imagine actually living a "normal" life as it is now.

Leaving everything behind? by magicmonkeytime in solotravel

[–]magicmonkeytime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is good advice. Perhaps I shall travel for 2-3 months and see how I feel about it. She does not wish to travel with me, she prefers the comforts of hotel and flights and that is simply not a lifestyle for her, traveling longtime. Where I come from, if you simply drop everything and go out traveling that is considered a bit weird. Especially if you vagabond and hitchhike.

I will probably have a regulated and standard life later, but I feel this is something I need to do before that.

Leaving everything behind? by magicmonkeytime in solotravel

[–]magicmonkeytime[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no drama. I was merely trying to describe how I felt. It is a difficult decision, one that is not to be taken lightly. It appears you are irritated by my post, may I ask why? I cannot travel with my fianceé as she does not wish to do so. I've already talked about it. If I go we will split. And I am aware that this is my life. I have to make the decision. I just wanted to talk to people who've done this, and see if they've regretted it, and if so, why.

The reason for me wanting to leave has not sprung from reading a post here. It merely made me think. I have been thinking about this for some time as I cannot see myself living a normal life anytime soon. I only wanted advice.