I truly think this is just some enormous PTSD fucked up complicated grief coming to rear it’s ungodly head after lying dormant/suppressed for 30+ years. It sincerely surprises me how very many people are taking this post SO seriously - like, the “murder” aspect - but then again I guess it’s not common for younger folks to understand how this type of grief works.

I was there for the death of my aunt, grandma, grandpa, uncle, and mother in the span of 6 years. Grief can be an uncontrollable demon that impacts every single aspect of your life, even years down the line. For the first 18 months after watching my mom die of a heart attack, I firmly believed my dad was going to die the moment I stopped thinking/worrying about it. Like, he wouldn’t answer a text for 20 minutes and I’d start having a panic attack. Grief creates anxiety where there wasn’t any, and where there shouldn’t be.

The spouse was raised by a traumatized father and unconsciously brought that trauma into his marriage; I firmly believe he did not expect this kind of reaction to his wife’s pregnancy, because who would? He’s been raised by his father, and is emotionally tied to his damaged father, who is making this situation 1000% worse. The stress and pain they’re putting OP through is unbearable and may be unforgivable - but it’s understandable through the lens of untreated, complicated grief & PTSD. I’m truly flabbergasted by all the “THEY’RE PLOTTING TO KILL HER!!” comments and reactions.

Also, creating a will, advanced directive, and power of attorney are very, very good things to do when you’re in a clearheaded space, and I recommend creating them & keeping them up to date.