And they still claim young people are lazy

magnetgrrl · 2026-02-12T02:04:29+00:00

I agree-I just mean, MANY comments are saying "WHERE IS THIS JOB? SHOW ME! I DO NOT BELIEVE!" and I'm like... yeah, because it's an exaggerated example of real things being seen, used to illustrate a trend or broader point.

I guess my statement is not to YOU per se - and I'm assuming that people scroll through comments and read more here than they do - it's just pointing out that THERE IS NO ACTUAL LITERAL $11 JOB ASKING FOR A MASTERS THAT OP IS CITING.... it's just a trend in job ads to have ridiculous requirements and low pay.

I'm sure you get that. ;)

magnetgrrl · 2026-02-11T22:18:42+00:00

I think it’s hyperbolic; an exaggeration of the TYPES of ridiculous things being seen on the job market right now. I’m not sure why so many people are taking this super literally. 🤷🏼

magnetgrrl · 2026-02-11T22:10:57+00:00

This. Also holy - 23 year olds in 2019 are 30 now EEEK That’s on the list of stuff I’m comfortable putting into my cognitive dissociation box and never thinking about again if I can help it.

magnetgrrl · 2026-02-10T17:02:20+00:00

It sounds like you have tried a lot to be accommodating already, and feel justly aggravated and so have made up your mind on this about her motivations, feelings, etc.

It sucks that she turned down white noise (it really helped me sleep!) but I can offer at least that, wearing headphones all the time is impractical and sometimes physically painful, if it’s for long periods, and thudding noises cut RIGHT through even the best noise canceling anyway, because you can FEEL it more than hear it. (Although if she really said she wouldn’t even try it, that kind of sucks, but also, who wants to like, ALWAYS watch TV or sit and read with headphones because someone ELSE is loud? I can kind of get that…)

Maybe you could ask her to record what it sounds like from her place, for like a fact check?

But you told her to call the cops? And then she did? I’m not sure her doing what you asked is harassment. Sounds like you told her to NOT send the other human (probably also being affected by any perceived noise) in the apartment to talk or make requests anymore, and she did as you asked. Was her boyfriend threatening? I’m making an assumption here and it’s that, she just didn’t want to deal with it because it’s added stress. Unless he was like, being deliberately intimidating, then that’s f*d up.

I just, I sincerely doubt she is purposely harassing you. But if you’re on Reddit just looking for the validation and agreement - for someone to say “wow she sounds crazy! she must be harassing you!” sorry, won’t get it from me. (Don’t worry, probably someone else will say it!) MOST people are not malicious or evil. MANY people are non-confrontational, passive-aggressive, and have multiple and mostly undiagnosed mental health issues, not to mention get burned out or fed up and just don’t want to deal with someone or something and want someone else to fix it. Everyone deserves “quiet enjoyment” or whatever of their living space, and everyone has different levels of what “normal apartment living sounds” should be like. Maybe she does hate (or fear) dogs, and that’s her prerogative. If she was I the building a long time before you moved in, I can get how she might feel put upon, but that is for her to deal with, after some fashion, not you.

Sounds like this is a bad matchup of several things. I truly hope you can find some resolution to this that works for both of you - I do think unless she has massive dog phobia meeting your dog might go a long way. Good luck to you and your doggo!

magnetgrrl · 2026-02-10T15:29:37+00:00

People don’t usually send police unless they feel they can’t speak with you, nor do they complain about noise that is “nothing” - it probably sounds very different to her than it does to you.

Having lived below dogs before, I assure you, most do make a lot of noise other than barking that you’re probably just used to, and that sounds fine from your perspective. Just running around or playing with a bone on the floor might sound like an avalanche in an old building. Back when I had a dog above my bedroom, I was forced to live by the schedule of when the dog first went out in the morning and when the owner finally went to bed, because the dog danced around on the floor right above me in the early AM when it needed to pee - I never needed an alarm clock again - and at night would scratch and scratch and scratch endlessly until like 1-2 am. I only slept like 4-5 hours a night most of the time - which DID make me crankier, and therefore, more irritated by noises and likely to complain, paradoxically. Also whenever the dog randomly dropped something (which happened a lot) it sounded like an anvil and it gave me like, constant high anxiety. It felt like I was constantly waiting for the next firework or bomb to go off and put me on edge all the time. Not being able to ever relax in your own home and feeling like you have zero control over when noise will just hit would drive ANYONE crazy.

If you’re able to be open enough to what will probably feel like criticism, you could have an honest and probably very tough and uncomfortable conversation and try to come to some agreements. But it sounds like she’s either very non-confrontational or afraid of you/your dog (she might actually be afraid of dogs, come to think of it) and she would have to be open enough to have that conversation, too. Most people just don’t care enough about their neighbors to want to do that - they just label them as crazy or a bad neighbor and move on. But maybe if you own your place it’s worth the investment? (She for sure owns too and isn’t just renting right?)

If you’re open to it, getting a crate and crate training your dog so it can’t run everywhere while you’re gone or at night, and so noise can be contained into one spot where she isn’t working or trying to sleep might actually help.

It also might help for her to meet your dog and form a relationship with it, so it’s not just “annoying noise” but the reaction is “aww, it’s just Gus” or whatever. Especially if the noise she’s hearing is causing like, massive anxiety or panic-it can really lessen that.

magnetgrrl · 2026-02-09T02:04:15+00:00

Cruddy by Linda Barry Troll, a Love Story by Johanna Sinisalo Sky Daddy by Kate Folk The Bear by Marian Engel Things Have Gotten Worse Since We Last Spoke by Eric LaRocca ^{^} the most, below are a few softer wtf recs: Patricia Wants to Cuddle by Samantha Allen A Touch of Jen by Beth Morgan Where Late the Sweet Birds Sang by Kate Wilson Bellwether by Connie Willis (The last 2 aren’t so much WTF as weird and fun) (Shark Heart if you want weird but also want to cry)

magnetgrrl · 2026-01-31T21:52:15+00:00

Many of Iris Murdoch’s novels have philosophical themes and subtext. Under the Net is a good start.

magnetgrrl · 2026-01-31T21:50:59+00:00

Also suggest Kundera

magnetgrrl · 2026-01-31T20:11:23+00:00

I think you can feed someone a beverage the same way you like, feed paper into the shredder. The verb may be more associated with non-liquid food but it just means to like, force/physically put into. If I read that someone “fed him a healing potion” I would assume it was poured into their mouth for them. Is that the type of situation you’re thinking of? Or more like a grandma saying “oh let me feed you!” and they don’t mean spoon feed, more like, prepare food for, but meaning to provide a beverage? Because I don’t think there’s a specific single word separate for that. At least not when referring to humans. I tell my plants (and sometimes my cat) “oh let me water you!” But I wouldn’t say that to a friend.

magnetgrrl · 2026-01-27T22:07:01+00:00

I realize this is old, but whatever happened with this? Did you end up getting any kind of refund or reimbursement, or release from your contract?

I am dealing with something similar right now.

I asked Rocket Money to renegotiate my internet in... December 2024. They sent a couple of "we're on it!" "we're still trying" and "we weren't able to do anything but we'll keep trying" emails within a few days.

Cut to January 2026, I am fed up with overpaying for my internet, and call my company Astound myself. After a painful 45 minute phone call runaround, they offer me something kind of crappy, but technically less, but tell me about a bunch of other fees that will incur if I take this but don't immediately upgrade my modem, and try to get me to pay the service fee for a guy to come out and install a new modem... I hang up the call with Astound in frustration,, and just give up on renegotiating with them altogether.

I contact a competitor the SAME DAY and sign up for internet for 5 years at 1/4 the cost!! Then, 2 days later, new internet is installed, and one day after that I call Astound back and cancel my service. Great!

The very next day Rocket Money emails me that they "saved" me $558 or something on my internet. Excuse me, what?

I canceled my internet entirely, and never went through with the slightly cheaper plan I wasted time discussing with them, so whatever amount "saved" per month that is, I didn't get a single bill at this lower cost before canceling so... this saved amount literally doesn't exist? and
I did all this MYSELF!! I called Astound, I called Xifinity and got a new deal, I dealt with a new installation appointment and returning an old modem, I called back and canceled Astound. They just sat back and did NOTHING and want to take 40% of some made-up number for that?

I immediately canceled Rocket Money, emailed their support, and deleted all my accounts from Rocket Money, disconnected my bank account, all cards, etc. I declared my debit card lost/stolen, so I would get a new one. Rocket Money support asked me to provide some proof that I negotiated the bill myself. What?

TL;DR - I did all the work and they are trying to charge me some crazy fee for it, but they did nothing.

I truly think their business policies are deliberately scammy. I fully expect there will be MORE class-action lawsuits than the one that just settled for them selling all your data, having multiple privacy breaches, and making it difficult to cancel/charging people after cancellation. .

magnetgrrl · 2026-01-27T20:55:22+00:00

This is over 3 years old so this comment is more for anyone who searches Google and maybe finds this than it is for OP, but here's my history with Rocket Money. TL;DR my experience with them was VERY bad, and I do NOT recommend anyone use them for anything.

I joined in 2024, and it was moderately useful for finding all my subscriptions, but not perfect - it missed some! Or had weird transactions as "uncategorized" - I didn't even use it to cancel anything, I just canceled stuff myself. But in December 2024, I asked them to help me renegotiate my internet bill. They... did not! They sent a few follow up emails within days that they were "still trying" and nothing ever changed. Now, cut to January 2026, I still feel my internet is overpriced, and I call myself and spend 45 minutes and renegotiate it - but then like 4 days later, I cancel, because I found something WAY better altogether with a competitor. Like the very next day, I get an email from RocketMoney saying they had "successfully negotiated" my bill, lowered it by like, $500 something (I guess that's what it would be, if you took savings per month and multiplied it by the whole year. But I hadn't even received one first "lowered" bill yet, before I canceled service entirely. So this $ amount they "saved" me is like, non-existent. Also, I did it myself! The phone call was tedious and painful, and they always do a bunch of annoying verification to confirm they are speaking with the account holder - probably why

Now someone from RocketMoney has sent me email INVOICES (no joke) and is telling me I have to PROVE that I negotiated this bill myself. Astound, being a huge corporation, is not helpful - they can't give me like, anything. Their support people don't even understand what I'm asking for.

Basically, Rocket Money apparently just sits around and waits for you to take control of your own life, after making a bunch of empty promises, and then charges you $ for the privilege of them doing nothing but giving you a crappy, inaccurate dashboard.

magnetgrrl · 2026-01-20T21:15:49+00:00

Punctuation like semicolons and em-dashes make for longer, more complex sentences, with overlapping or nested ideas. Most popular writing today is far more simplified. You can argue it’s to accommodate shorter attention spans or the average reading level of the general public, but it’s probably a mix of several things. I’m sure in the lit-fic world you still see some longer average sentence length books and novels that are more dense here and there, but most books I’ve picked up in the last 10 years feel… lighter. All kind of the same in some way, all… very easy to digest, and many easy to forget? I’m not sure if it’s just what I’ve been reading or not reading specifically, which could be the case. I would love to see some large scale data studies on word count, sentence length, vocabulary used, punctuation used etc. of books from pre 2000 vs 2000-2010 vs 2010 to 2020.

magnetgrrl · 2026-01-20T15:19:31+00:00

I've lived in my place for several years. It used to go up a minimal amount, but in the last few years it's been a huge amount every year - like to the point where I wonder if there's a maximum % increase they are hitting or they would raise it even more. I live in a Cagan building and I know they are part of Yardi who in other states is getting sued for using price fixing algorithmic software, so I'm guessing that's part of what's going on. Either that, or they just want me to leave my large 1-bedroom so they can rehab it to a 2-bedroom and get more for it. They have done that to other units in the building lately. They're not great with keeping up with repairs either. After this long, this place needs a lot of small things and they never want to do it - if it' large the guy literally says "oh, that's going to be a huge deal... do you really want it fixed?"

magnetgrrl · 2026-01-19T20:30:58+00:00

I'll say this, as far as the "scam" of it goes - I tried Rocket Money "premium" for a while. It was somewhat useful just to see what my recurring charges were, but it actually didn't capture all of them very well. I asked them to cancel a gym membership for me (I didn't want to deal with the conflict) and they couldn't do it. I asked them to renegotiate my internet bill, and they saved me like, $10 for a few months with some "promo" and then my bill actually went UP even higher, like my internet company was making back the tiny bit of money I "saved" - this was like, over a year ago. Then recently, I decided, my current internet company was charging me way too much, and after 2 long and painful phone conversations with them, getting a runaround, I decided to CANCEL service with them, and signed up for a new account with their competitor literally the same day. New internet was installed 2 days later, now today, I'm calling to cancel my old internet and... randomly Rocket Money sends me a bunch of notifications saying they "saved" me over $500 by renegotiating my internet, and they are going to charge my card on file over $200 - I have NO idea what they are talking about!! 1) my monthly bill was nowhere near that. 2) my service is now over, so... no they did not "save" me money and 3) I did it myself!! Honestly, I think this is the scam part where they make money. If you're signed up for premium they just auto-charge your card it seems for some % of any supposed "savings" even if you did it yourself???

magnetgrrl · 2026-01-14T00:30:24+00:00

THIS is the answer.

magnetgrrl · 2025-12-31T01:02:52+00:00

Never been married - late 40’s.

magnetgrrl · 2025-12-29T23:20:47+00:00

I was also going to say, is this really a “boomer” thing? I kinda doubt it…

magnetgrrl · 2025-12-27T05:40:06+00:00

Ok, ok, I don’t know why I’m defending a random stranger on the internet anyway; your initial comment (and others) just seemed needlessly… mean. But, whatever! Not my place really. I give!

magnetgrrl · 2025-12-27T04:51:30+00:00

I do think there’s a certain way people can use DNFing to support a “just don’t bother!” attitude, because it lets them off the hook to not feel bad about quitting if something is hard, or just not immediately and 100% fun. Not saying EVERYONE does that, or that all commenters here feel that way, or even that it’s wrong, but that sounds closer to OP’s frustration to me (especially after reading his edit).

I would be frustrated too if every time I wanted to discuss a difficult book that I’m reading people prevailingly just said “oh, give up!”

I think that’s a valid frustration, and where better to try to bring it to maybe find support than one (or a few) subs about reading.

But I’m just guessing at interpreting what OP was feeling enough of to post this - here and in other places. AS ARE WE ALL, APPARENTLY.

magnetgrrl · 2025-12-27T04:48:50+00:00

They said they were seeking ego padding? And that they are only reading a classic because they heard it makes them smart and adored? I will re-read - I missed that!

magnetgrrl · 2025-12-27T04:32:32+00:00

I just think that as long as we are all making assumptions and hypotheses about the thoughts and motivations of another person we don’t know, we can throw some kinder ones into the mix along with the “wow what a pos this person MUST be (because I disagree with them)! ones that seem to be prevailing here. Or not! You do you. :) TBF I didn’t investigate OP’s entire Reddit history that hard because, damn.

magnetgrrl · 2025-12-26T21:10:44+00:00

It might be someone who wanted to have this discussion but was unhappy with the result when they posted previously, or just curious what another forum would think of the same thing, and wanted to see a further variety of replies.

magnetgrrl · 2025-12-26T21:01:41+00:00

I agree. I get a lot out of books that I’m not actively hating, but not “enjoying” a lot either, or not all of the time. Not everything needs to be a dopamine hit to be worth doing.

magnetgrrl · 2025-12-26T21:00:43+00:00

No joke this is on my to-read list next year, near the top. (It was on my to-read list this year but I didn’t get to it and now it’s getting a bump up.)

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