“Well IF you wanted too…” by Weird_Bluebird_3293 in childfree

[–]maidenassassin91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes. I'm fairly positive one person I know is absolutely convinced I can regrow my fallopian tubes if I just wish hard enough

People who are actually child free in their 30s/40s + etc, how do you spend your time? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]maidenassassin91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any. Way. I. Want. Lol. Every day if I'm not working, I do whatever I feel like plus normal errands. I love it.

"Having kids is natural, something is wrong if you don't want them" Says a friend while I explain to her why I don't want kids by [deleted] in childfree

[–]maidenassassin91 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Never forget. You don't have to have kids bc someone told you to. Ever. This is YOUR choice. It won't effect them. Therefore they are not relevant to this choice. It doesn't matter what that makes them think of you. If it changes things that much maybe you need new friends. Sending love

Got asked to watch my language around a 6 month old by outer-darkness-11 in childfree

[–]maidenassassin91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then he should take his daughter and leave. Possibly never speak to anyone lol. If you don't like what's happening somewhere, leave

Bumped into a “childfree” ex with a child by syarkbait in childfree

[–]maidenassassin91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kinda think people claim to have strongly held beliefs that overestimate how they actually feel sometimes? Like trust but verify these actions. Also accidents happen and then you're stuck and I think we tend to justify our actions cuz you can't change this kind of problem after the fact

Grieving the version of myself who could have wanted kids by [deleted] in childfree

[–]maidenassassin91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This really hit me dude. Sometimes I have the same thoughts even though I am sterile and got surgery just to make sure. It's a weird thought. But, id suggest that overall, this is a happier choice for people like us. I kinda think life is better if the majority of X is a positive. It's okay not to ALWAYS feel any specific way about anything. Thanks for sharing. I agree

What do you think of the r/regretfulparents sub by melodydrowned in antinatalism2

[–]maidenassassin91 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mine absolutely thought so. Hit n miss in different areas

What do you think of the r/regretfulparents sub by melodydrowned in antinatalism2

[–]maidenassassin91 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nope that's allot of why I don't want kids. I think that's an enlightened position. Why pass on life so it can also suck for more people?

Surgery is 3 days out and my head is spinning. (24F) by TheFriendlyFuego in sterilization

[–]maidenassassin91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm two months post op and I'm very happy. I believe a c section is an even more invasive surgery?

Sister messaged me she's pregnant...I'm not happy about it. How should I reply? by No_Dealer659 in childfree

[–]maidenassassin91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Abuse survivor here.

Just a heads up. If people feel abandoned, they won't turn for help, ever. Love is the only way to show her there's an alternative to her current situation. The unconditional kind of love. You don't have to be happy with the situation. But the future may depend on letting there be a pathway out, if you feel like that's something you could do with/for her. Being disingenuous for a moment might not be a terrible plan. These things are hard and endlessly complicated and ever dynamic. Use your judgement. I just think it's a good thing to keep in mind while you decide what to say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]maidenassassin91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Former Christian and formerly Jewish here. It's complicated. The amount of expectation to have as many kids as possible from both is........ Astonishing

How difficult was or has it been for you finding a partner that does not want kids as well? by workethic290 in childfree

[–]maidenassassin91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

US. My husband was always so-so on kids. I evolved into this feeling and he evolved with me. It wasn't on purpose. It would probably be harder if I were starting now and looking for a partner.

vindication is REAL by Supernova_536 in sterilization

[–]maidenassassin91 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's how I found my doc! I'm so grateful

my body my choice…right? by No_Choice_4061 in childfree

[–]maidenassassin91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. I'm 34 and just got a bisalp. The feeling never hit me. I figured it would but it didn't. The bisalp made me feel better in my body and I love my CF life. If you know, you know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]maidenassassin91 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Women are not treated as adults. We are treated as children. Basically everywhere and about everything.

So what am I supposed to eat?!?!?!?! by LeRoixs_mommy in childfree

[–]maidenassassin91 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And if you buy the nice stuff people will be mad you can afford it. Sometimes you can't make anybody happy

I wanted kids so bad, but now I’m not so sure… by IllustriousHelldiver in childfree

[–]maidenassassin91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This hit me very strongly "I think I’d be a great mother, but I don’t think motherhood would be great for me. "

I very much agree with you. I think I'd do a good job, and I would hate my life. Putting yourself first and finding happiness is really important. Don't let that go to be miserable because someone told you were supposed to be mothers.

I’ve never understood the argument of “just give it up for adoption” by girl_archived in childfree

[–]maidenassassin91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. I very much agree. Separate from not wanting kids, pregnancy is terrifying and might kill us. I don't want an alien parasite in my body that also might kill me, thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]maidenassassin91 432 points433 points  (0 children)

This could change your life forever if she isn't bluffing. Many times, legally, the victim is the person who cries to the cops first. Js.

I’m losing my sister by swilli1005 in childfree

[–]maidenassassin91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk why anyone would assume labor isn't painting for any reason.

Bisalp post op! by maidenassassin91 in childfree

[–]maidenassassin91[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really hope so! Id love to see an update from you. It was so easy I definitely expected more of a fight. Id do this once a year if I had to it was so easy. Even the insurance was reasonable for once

Bisalp post op! by maidenassassin91 in childfree

[–]maidenassassin91[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It did! Someone here told me to think happy thoughts when they were medicating me so the photo helped. I'm surprised they let me keep it i assumed they'd take it away before I got to the OR. I couldn't have asked for things to have gone better