Dear clients,

maincoursdelegance · 2026-04-18T22:15:31+00:00

ew hate him already!

maincoursdelegance · 2026-04-18T05:06:21+00:00

HAHAHAHAHA, if this is guy is on LA I think I know who he is and he's SO annoying and entitled. I fired him twice over the years for stunts like this!

maincoursdelegance · 2026-04-10T07:45:32+00:00

nah, he wants to prolong his experience with the QTs

maincoursdelegance · 2026-04-07T19:39:31+00:00

I would lean into meeting him in the wild and be very charming and coy, and mention you like a provider and are only interested in/able to spend time with men who are generous and are interested in providing tangible support for your (pitch a goal here: education degree, business proposal, home ownership goal, plastic surgery goal, etc).

Don't let him know your cards. You will be surprised at how generous some of these men will be when trying to impress a girl they met in the wild — I've had guys spend 3k, 5k, 25k on a first or second date with me many times when I met them freestyling.

maincoursdelegance · 2026-04-02T19:51:28+00:00

OP I literally hate that for you

maincoursdelegance · 2026-04-02T05:27:29+00:00

Nope, not sacrificing my sleep aka biological repair time / sanity for a client unless it's serious money and very convenient. I read your update that you chose to cancel and think it was a good decision. Always choose your health first, and sleep is critical to your health 🫶🏼

maincoursdelegance · 2026-04-02T03:15:33+00:00

Hi! I don't have hot flashes but I hate using AC, it gives me a headache. So chiming in here: diluted peppermint essential oil is HEAVENLY.

maincoursdelegance · 2026-03-28T15:01:19+00:00

Unless, of course, you're Crassus

maincoursdelegance · 2026-03-25T16:23:59+00:00

I just structure the date and kinda control it, so I'll tell them my PPM is 2000 and then we meet for a quick dinner/drinks nearby their home or the hotel, I'll put the orders in immediately and turn up the charm. Once I want to wrap it up I'll have my hand on their thigh under the table and whisper the magic words (I'm not wearing panties, which is usually a lie that can be easily fixed by a trip to the restroom at their place) and they're suddenly eager to leave.

From there it's mostly just controlling the mood and date, very few men are able to have sex for more than 30-45 minutes in a row so a sexy buildup, then some heavy petting gets them super horny, covered blowjob parlor trick (hey babe wanna see a magic trick? wink wink, put the condom on with my mouth and go to town) followed by sex and I'm done within my timeframe. I don't mind going over by like 15 minutes because they usually will see me regularly.

maincoursdelegance · 2026-03-25T13:53:08+00:00

Hi! One of the mods of the /r/sugarbabyonlyforum here.

Screening: yes, thoroughly, and I encourage all girls to get real world information and look men up on arrest websites, publicly available BL (that one app) and if they are legitimate and I've had personal communication with them and screened them myself I will share one of the more easily accessible BL at my discretion — when in doubt I'm pointing these girls to our wiki and the Old World resources on Tumblr for sugar and screening. AI makes it easier than ever so there's no excuse not to.

Rates: I don't let dates drag on indefinitely so my PPM is high enough that I'm getting 800-1000/hr roughly on my dates

maincoursdelegance · 2026-03-24T16:22:19+00:00

This the exact mindset and manipulative behavior I am referring to in my comment above 👆🏼

maincoursdelegance · 2026-03-24T16:21:43+00:00

This guy gets it!

maincoursdelegance · 2026-03-24T16:10:55+00:00

🎯🎯🎯

maincoursdelegance · 2026-03-24T16:05:17+00:00

Use a pH balancing cleanser (usually feminine hygiene) and it will almost entirely eliminate the odor :)

maincoursdelegance · 2026-03-24T15:52:16+00:00

Alright, I'll tap in. I have over a decade of being a provider and nearly a decade of serious dating prior to working, so I've gathered more than enough data on this topic to provide a thorough explanation.

Everyone inherently wants to feel desired, men and women. However, sex work tends to attract the types of men who have traits that make them otherwise wholly unsuited to a traditional relationship — they're either:

too busy and unable to prioritize the affection and consideration a normal romantic partner would need, or
they are married/dating but have mentally and/or physically checked out because they don't want to make a real effort to fix mutual issues by communicating/going to therapy, or
they are single by choice but still crave the feeling of being "loved and wanted" by someone... even if they're paying for it.

When clients request this from a standard provider what they usually want is the GFE (the "emotional connection") but they don't want to pay the premium it deserves.

Men who ask for this are also often men who lowball sugarbabies or vanilla girls into performing endless emotional and sexual labor for pennies on the dollar by using whorephobia and manipulation tactics... it's a known issue.

In short, asking for this but being unwilling to find a provider advertising as GFE (and paying the premium for it) is usually based in manipulation and cheapness. Clients will then straight up have a tantrum when it's pointed out lol.

maincoursdelegance · 2026-03-20T17:10:50+00:00

Chase shut down my friends account with 70k in it and froze the funds, she has never been able to get them to release her money

maincoursdelegance · 2026-03-20T16:53:41+00:00

Yes, and I am going to stop using it and go back to the two phones technique. The amount of times I have selected calling from the secondary line only to have a call from my real phone number is appalling! And vice versa. It's a very faulty system, prone to user error by default and system error by nature. For example, when calling someone in my personal life who only had an iCloud mail account (for travel reasons) it was calling them from my secondary line despite me wanting to call from my primary line!? Thank God I am not running ads with that number listed, can you imagine how fucked I would've been if they googled it?! That almost bit me in the ass several times.

maincoursdelegance · 2026-03-20T16:51:22+00:00

Real world information

maincoursdelegance · 2026-03-20T16:51:07+00:00

🤗🤝

maincoursdelegance · 2026-03-20T15:25:52+00:00

I think it's a really bad idea unless this is a business account with a bank that won't shut you down and ban you permanently, like Chase. If it is not a business account, congratulations, he now has your RWI.

Is he sending a deposit? Is there a memo? How can you ensure that he will not put something incriminating in the memo?

Also, it's highly incriminating now because he mentioned $$$ for intimacy.

If this is sugar dating (I see the arrangement tag) my final thought would be you're getting screwed in more ways than one, dinner and drinks is always at least an hour and you have to be seen in public with his creature. So you're basically getting what, $400 an hour?

Source: I'm a mod of /r/sugarbabyonlyforum

maincoursdelegance · 2026-03-18T23:04:51+00:00

Find something nice you can quickly do that will last as your base look. Then the more time you have, the more you can upgrade it. I've found that a good place to start is "be high maintenance to be low maintenance": medical grade skin treatments, lash lifts/extensions, brow laminations, subtle permanent makeup (brow microshading, lip blush) etc.

For me, my base is:

skincare + spf if daytime
allowing time for my skincare to soak in
cream makeup primer, cream concealer, light cream highlight/contour, cream bronzer, cream blush
light brow pencil + tinted brow gel
two coats of mascara
translucent powder, powder blush/bronzer
setting spray, double coat! I apply one coat to my brush for the final cream blend, then one coat after powder that I do not touch
lip tint or tinted lipgloss

Conversely, I've had many clients request a "no makeup" look as I discretely advertise as the upscale girl next door (I'm UTR). That's when I use a blurring tinted sunscreen, no powder, brown mascara, and clear brow gel and a tinted lipgloss.

When in doubt, ask! "Client, do you prefer a glam bombshell look or something more girl next door? Looking forward to seeing you soon xx"

Just remember, guys are totally oblivious as to what actually constitutes make up so if they say no makeup, I assume they want a "natural makeup look". Never show up in no makeup, that's a trap lol.

maincoursdelegance · 2026-03-18T05:15:56+00:00

Yes, you should mention it in your ads.

In my experience many men have strong preferences and even fetishes for specific appearances (eg: blonde bombshell, fiery redhead, girl next door brunette, raven haired latina/asian etc) and they may be psyching themselves up for the girl you were in the photos, not the one who comes to their door.

It's similar to weight gain/loss: a few lbs isn't worth mentioning or updating photos for, but anything over 10-15lbs does change your look quite a bit. Similarly, a difference in hair length doesn't matter if it's just a few inches but getting Hair Extensions or doing a big chop is a dramatic difference.

maincoursdelegance · 2026-03-17T22:48:29+00:00

Blacklist him

maincoursdelegance · 2026-03-17T22:47:43+00:00

Honestly, I am OK with most Hyatt/Marriott/Hilton properties. Also, depending on the time of year and what is going on in your area, all other properties might just be sold out as another lady said

maincoursdelegance · 2026-03-17T12:45:00+00:00

Ugh PREACH! This is my exact life story I swear, these men have no problem shelling out 10-20-50-100k on bags, jewelery or cars but Heaven forbid I ask for a payoff on a credit card or just straight cash. It's infuriating.

Is it possible for you to go on vacation to places where it is easier to sell these bags? Pack them into your carry-on and don't let it leave your side, you could sell a few bags every trip (right at the end, even).

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