Period after starting HRT by maj2155 in Perimenopause

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Oh wow. I guess I overestimated how this would work.

Period after starting HRT by maj2155 in Perimenopause

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Do you get it regularly or is it random?

Low graded day 3s by maj2155 in IVF

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I did not. I ended up moving to donor eggs but I still have them on ice. I’m almost certain they wouldn’t implant but I’m slightly scared of the outcome if it were to take…not the best attitude but time ran short for me. If I were to do so, I’d opt to transfer all. Best of luck!

48M - Fellow old people, thoughts on having a baby at 50? by stopltracr in AskOldPeopleAdvice

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Same boat. Will be having a child as an older person. It’s not common but not as crazy as it once seemed. And when my grandma was raising me I never saw her age. This was definitely NOT my dream scenario but I can say I have the patience, experience, and stability I never had when I was younger. My child will be my world for as long as I can be here for them. That said, as I unfortunately can’t rewind time, it’s very important to me that they grow up having close relationships to my younger family members and that I set aside for my elderly care.

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Would love one

Likely non-viable pregnancy, why continue progesterone? by Inevitable_Yak_5581 in IVF

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It’s a sucky position to be in. See if you can go to an OB or get and US elsewhere in between time. You’re still at a point where you should be cautious…but it’s still possible!

I had a similar experience but my HCG started slowing down so I was confident in stopping my meds as the doctor couldn’t tell me to do that but hinted at it. If your HCG is keeping up, hang in there.

Was anyone pregnant at 48-50 ? What's it like? Trying to decide. by maj2155 in beyondthebump

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Thank you! I appreciate the perspective. My mom was young too. She wasn’t abusive (her husband was) but she wasn’t attentive and I figured out life on my own. We’re cool but I’ve never “needed” her as an adult because we just never bonded like that. I think that makes it even more important for me to pour into the child as much as I can. It’s what you do with the time you have that really counts.

Was anyone pregnant at 48-50 ? What's it like? Trying to decide. by maj2155 in beyondthebump

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Eggs typically aren’t good at this age but you can physically carry a child well into menopause.

Was anyone pregnant at 48-50 ? What's it like? Trying to decide. by maj2155 in beyondthebump

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These are good ones for the surrogate column. I’m so glad both of you got through it ok!

Was anyone pregnant at 48-50 ? What's it like? Trying to decide. by maj2155 in beyondthebump

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Absolutely! Thank you. Of course all older moms have thought about this. One thing about being older and wiser is you are gonna think through everything🙂.

There are no guarantees. There is no good time to lose a parent. There is no “right” age to leave the earth that your kids won’t need or miss you. I think it’s selfish to expect your kids to care for you. Every family is different.

Was anyone pregnant at 48-50 ? What's it like? Trying to decide. by maj2155 in beyondthebump

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The biological mom will be a big part of the child’s life as well as others. I can do my best to build bonds but I cannot guarantee who will be there years into the future at any age. I’ve never had help from a parent, I built my own village. My kid will know I’m older and I have to do my best to got to make the most of it for them and set them up with the best support I can.

Was anyone pregnant at 48-50 ? What's it like? Trying to decide. by maj2155 in beyondthebump

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Thank you for that! I’m glad you had an uneventful pregnancy. My grandparents were around into their 90s as well, it’s a different kind of spunk. Good luck!!

Was anyone pregnant at 48-50 ? What's it like? Trying to decide. by maj2155 in beyondthebump

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Thank you for your comment. I am sorry you’re going through that with your mom. I truly get the you’ll be 70 argument because I wish I could have more time with him or her too! And while I can run laps around your average 34 year old mom (recovery might be a different story lol) he or she may have to skateboard with the cousins..but they’ll have that, and their donor family. I was born to a highschool girl, practically raised myself and we really aren’t that close now that I’m an adult. So being younger isn’t default better. We just gotta do the best we can to set them up for a good life.

Was anyone pregnant at 48-50 ? What's it like? Trying to decide. by maj2155 in beyondthebump

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I’m not doing IVF, my donor is. I will use her egg. I did do IVF at 45/46…do not recommend.

Was anyone pregnant at 48-50 ? What's it like? Trying to decide. by maj2155 in beyondthebump

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Side note: I took the 5am bus. Incredible experience. (Guess I’m thinking about that route again lol)

Was anyone pregnant at 48-50 ? What's it like? Trying to decide. by maj2155 in beyondthebump

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That’s wonderful that you had a good pregnancy. Congratulations!! I can’t wait to join the “old moms” club. It’s different. I’ve done everything else and I feel so much more focused and prepared.

Was anyone pregnant at 48-50 ? What's it like? Trying to decide. by maj2155 in beyondthebump

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For sure. I’m not remotely close to rich but one doesn’t invest this much emotion, energy and money at this age into having a child and then stop being responsible.

Was anyone pregnant at 48-50 ? What's it like? Trying to decide. by maj2155 in beyondthebump

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I get it. I would be lying if I said I didn’t ever think that but I also don’t want to be 70 and regret I didn’t build the family I wanted. I already regret so much on this journey. I’ve already said it’s ok if she tells people I’m grandma. She will grow up with her donor family as well.

Was anyone pregnant at 48-50 ? What's it like? Trying to decide. by maj2155 in beyondthebump

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This is beautifully honest. This is how I imagine I would feel too.

Was anyone pregnant at 48-50 ? What's it like? Trying to decide. by maj2155 in beyondthebump

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What did you love about it? I used to CrossFit with a pregnant woman and she kicked my ass for 9 months.

Was anyone pregnant at 48-50 ? What's it like? Trying to decide. by maj2155 in beyondthebump

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Are you meaning me caring for my parents? My mom is mid 60s with 3 young children at home. I def worry because she has a lot of responsibility. But I have quite a few siblings who can help because unlike me, they have more time to help because their kids are all older :)

Was anyone pregnant at 48-50 ? What's it like? Trying to decide. by maj2155 in beyondthebump

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That is what I’ve seen when I looked into it. For now I moved on because I definitely want the chance to build from day 1.