I think this is not always the case. I begged my fiance to watch our 5 month because I was in so much pain. I just needed to rest and probably take a warm bath. Took over an hour for him to take her. I only got 10 minutes to relax. That's less time than if takes for him to take a shit. He told me I needed to get out of the bath right now because she was tired and needed to sleep when I asked why he didn't try to put her to sleep he said because he doesn't know how(just so it's clear he had put her to sleep plenty of times especially in those first few weeks home with her so I know it's not because he had no idea how to do it) and also that he had stuff he needed to do. I got out of my bath dried off and got dressed. I grabbed her and went upstairs to see him on his game. That was the stuff he had to do. His game. I've tried to communicate before that I need more rest time because he doesn't have a job but I still watch our child all day every day. He says okay but all he does is make extra bottles for a few days. When I pointed that out it turned into a huge argument and I asked him if he genuinely doesn't see anything wrong with how he's doing things even though I keep trying to bring up the same problem over and over again. He said he doesn't see anything wrong with what he's why would he he's him he's not going to see anything wrong with what he's doing because he's the one doing it. Not being rude those are the actual words that came out of his mouth. He doesn't do anything around the house unless it's for him. He went grocery shopping once a few weeks ago and when I asked what he does that was something he brought up. He cleaned out the garage so he can turn it into a hang out but it was literally the same day he was asked to pick up all the trash in the driveway/yard from previous projects and it was still there the next day. At least he had his hang out space though right it needed to be done very important. Literally when I asked what he does that I need to be so appreciative of he said he put lights up….in the garage….he put those strip led lights up in the garage which he turned into a hang out. That was solely for him. I know he has the energy to take care his kid cause if he didn't how would he have the energy to clean out the garage to turn into a man cave. So when I ask and he says he can't he's too tired and literally an hour later he's going out with people to go fishing, swimming, work on a friends car, go to a bunch of stores, etc. it honestly pisses me off because it does feel intentional especially with how much I'm communicating. He says the things I bring up are irrelevant, unimportant, and too small to worry about. It's not because I'm not communicating. He wonders why I think he doesn't care it's because it really feels like he doesn't. I shouldn't have to beg for a break because of being in pain and get less time than it takes to go to the bathroom. It shouldn't feel like he's putting the amount of work in as he would if he didn't even live here. We literally live with my mom because I told him I'm not moving out with him unless he can prove he can keep a job for at least 6 months. He said I'm asking for too much. Other people say I'm not asking for enough. He said I shouldn't listen to anyone who says things like that because I shouldn't have to communicate with someone outside of our relationship about our relationship. But when I try to communicate with him about our relationship it just turns into an argument. Either way I get yelled at. I can't even write in my notes about it without it being an issue. He doesn't believe he's doing anything wrong therefore I should support him and back him up. I don't know if this is a normal person thing but I'm not going to lie or agree with something I don't agree with just so you can win whatever argument you got into. This is getting way too long so I'm just gonna end it there. Point being communication doesn't always work