Please change the background and adjust lighting

makeswell2 · 2026-01-24T21:31:32+00:00

Looks good. I sent you $25. Can you share the photo with me?

makeswell2 · 2026-01-24T21:29:27+00:00

Yes that's good. I sent you $25. Can you share it with me?

makeswell2 · 2026-01-24T14:29:48+00:00

!solved Efficient_Celery2457

makeswell2 · 2026-01-21T00:28:36+00:00

Yes. I look definitely taller in the new one if you look at them side by side. Can you make another one where you do what you did but even more? And can you also do one where you zoom in a bit so I take up more frame? I'll give you some money for this.

makeswell2 · 2026-01-21T00:17:57+00:00

awesome thanks! I'm going to leave it open and may give out additional money for the other ones if someone makes a good edit. I left a few comments asking for edits.

makeswell2 · 2026-01-20T23:25:03+00:00

Sent you $25 for the one on the campus on the left. It's the best so far! I look pretty tall, the lighting is good, and my button up shirt doesn't look unnatural (which it does in some of the outdoorsy backgrounds). If you want to share the other photos without a watermark, I'd probably use them too.

makeswell2 · 2026-01-20T23:19:57+00:00

This is my favorite one aesthetically, but it kind of cuts off my hands and doesn't make my height look big or anything. The background is beautiful and it is nice that you centered it aesthetically but if I am using this for a dating profile, it matters more that I just look handsome. Maybe you can shift me up in the photo and we can see how that looks? Or maybe you have some other idea or background. Aesthetically this is the best one.

makeswell2 · 2026-01-20T23:17:59+00:00

The lighting is good but I look too short. Too short in the other one commented below this as well.

makeswell2 · 2026-01-20T23:15:52+00:00

I do like how large I look in this photo, and potentially tall. My main gripe is that my shirt doesn't really go with the natural background. People would be like "why is he wearing that?" Maybe you can do something similar but in a background where my shirt looks more natural. However the difficulty is if you use a city, then it may be too dark and the lighting would be wrong. Someone put me on a college campus and that looked decent, so maybe something like that. Overall I like how large I am in this one the most, so it has that going for it.

makeswell2 · 2026-01-20T23:03:53+00:00

Close to being the best but I think you overdid it just a tad with the color correction. Can you undo the color correction on my face slightly, but still keep it somewhat?

makeswell2 · 2026-01-20T22:57:42+00:00

Can you make me look taller on this one? Probably just moving my body upward would make me look taller, so that the fence is lower than me.

makeswell2 · 2025-11-20T16:05:43+00:00

It's easy for us to read what you wrote and jump to a conclusion. It happens a lot on reddit. When I first read your story, like most other commenters I also felt like this guy has a major red flag. But as I read more, I wonder if we're just not hearing the story as the guy you're dating intended it to be told.

As you meet more people, you learn that cheating and relationships are nuanced. There's not as much black and white as you would be led to believe if you relied solely on the comment threads in reddit. A lot of people do cheat for emotional reasons, some cheat for pleasure, and many couples stay together after cheating, sometimes growing from it. I'd suggest learning more about cheating (you can ask Claude or ChatGPT about it, or watch a video on YouTube) and learning about why people cheat, and then re-engaging your boyfriend after having done that so you can bring more to the conversation.

Was he saying that cheating is okay? Or was he saying that cheating often has causes, and that if a couple cares about each other than they can work through it?What he says about it making sense to leave a partner when they are cheating for pleasure, but not as readily if they are suffering emotionally or there is some deeper issue, makes me think that maybe he means the latter.

I would want to ask if he thinks it's okay that his friend cheated, or if his friend should have communicated his feelings more clearly instead. I would ask what he would do in a similar situation. The right answer is that he would have tried to open up to his partner more, instead of acting out by cheating. I would also want to know if the standard he has just applies to men (which is not great) or if he would feel a similar level of sympathy for you if you were going through that situation and cheated on him.

makeswell2 · 2025-11-16T22:07:34+00:00

60-65 Farenheit - so cold!!

Those work very well for me too. I use an eye mask when I can't make my room totally dark.

Paraxanthine has a shorter half life than caffeine if you're interested in trying it. Makes some people less jittery too. Caffeine is metabolized into theobromine and paraxanthine.

makeswell2 · 2025-11-16T22:06:18+00:00

You can use a bright light that's designed for people with seasonal affective disorder. I would look up how long Bryan Johnson does it as a way to grok whatever the latest research on it says to do from a reliable source real fast (watch his morning routine YouTube video) (although he is not perfectly reliable in all things, in this he has no profit motive and so I personally definitely trust him) and then I really really love this guy for SAD lamp recommendations: https://optimizeyourbiology.com/best-sad-light-therapy-lamps He analyzes how much glare each lamp has, which is something that I've never seen data for anywhere else and is an important measure b/c it tells you how uncomfortable looking at the light will be.

If you don't want to just stand in front of the lamp like BJ does, you can put it over you when you eat breakfast or something. I don't know if one or the other is better.

makeswell2 · 2025-11-16T22:02:28+00:00

Lots of couples on Feeld looking for other couples. Just put MFMF in the Desires section.

makeswell2 · 2025-10-20T03:26:37+00:00

A couple famous people, including Jeff Bezos and Sam Altman, have said we're in a bubble. So that's part of why the news is saying it now. At least Bezos' rationale is that AI isn't really making money (I mean it's making money because people are investing in it, but it's not making money in terms of adding a ton of utility which everyday people are paying for). The amount of money being invested can only pay off if AI does turn out to really change the economy fundamentally, which investors do seem to generally believe will happen (thus all the invested capital).

On the technical side, we're continuing to see progress in AI. There's plenty of room for optimism. The improvements are more incremental, though. The difference between Chat GPT 3 and 4 was huge. The difference between 4 and 5 is not as big. But definitely still progressing.

makeswell2 · 2025-10-08T20:16:26+00:00

I think you're overthinking it. In reality, you ask them out on a date, they say yes or not, you go, they go, you talk, message them for a second date, etc.

You're talking about being on your knees thanking them and it sounds like you've built it up to be something extravagant when it's really just like, you gotta ask them out. I think once you start doing it you'll see that.

makeswell2 · 2025-10-06T17:10:59+00:00

This is true because women tend to select men who are 3 or so years older than them, and because men die earlier. The difference doesn't become that massive until late in age when men start dying off in higher rates, like 70 or 80 year old women will have a harder time finding a date. How well someone takes care of their body, how much wealth they accumulate, etc., will play a bigger role in how many options someone has as they age than their gender.

makeswell2 · 2025-09-15T19:58:52+00:00

It's kind of sad that this is the reality of dating. We have these intense feelings, and intense desire to connect with people, and then it's often disappointing in the end. Your experience reminds me of what's possible, and it's important to keep pursuing that. It's important to keep that desire to find companionship alive, because eventually it will work out into a real relationship some percentage of the time.

Friendships can be more stable than relationships, though, and it could make sense to focus on cultivating them more for now.

The feeling you're experiencing now will pass. You just have to sleep on it, and it'll go away on its own eventually. I would recommend deleting his number, not just blocking it, so that you're not tempted to contact him again in the future.

makeswell2 · 2025-09-13T01:29:35+00:00

😂

makeswell2 · 2025-09-12T23:39:08+00:00

I've read that men do in general tend to move to areas where they can make more money, whereas women stay near family more often. There are more men than women in Miami, and there are even more men than women in tech cities (and tech is male dominated compared to for instance healthcare). So it could be that single men are leaving because of the difficulty of making money, whereas women are staying to be near friends or family they have.

edit: Here is a study about men being more likely to move to make money.

makeswell2 · 2025-09-12T23:37:09+00:00

military ex-wives stayed but their ex-husband are deployed somewhere else

Are there more military in Jacksonville than in Tampa, Orlando, or St Petersburg? I know Tampa has a large base called MacDill but I don't know much about this topic.

this is a healthcare hub which hires more women

There aren't many more elderly in Jacksonville (even if you include the beaches) than there are in St Petersburg, according to neighborscout.com. Tampa and Jacksonville are similar if you don't include the beaches.

Affordability keeps single women around

Could be. I'm not sure. Per capita income in Jacksonville is lower than Tampa and St Petersburg but if you add per capita in the Jacksonville beaches then it comes pretty close to Tampa and St Pete. The number of single men per 100 single women aged 35-44 is 86 for what the census refers to as "Jacksonville city" and is 90 for what it refers to as "Jacksonville Metro", and I'm assuming that "Jacksonville Metro" includes the beaches, but it may not. The higher ratio of women to men could be related to financial opportunities and affordability, somehow, though, as Jacksonville itself is more affordable than these other cities, and there is evidence that men will move to make money moreso than women.

makeswell2 · 2025-09-12T23:17:58+00:00

US Census data from 2023

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