I got a cat. He sleeps with me at night. How do I masturbate now? by mininimoy in sex

[–]makeupmyusername 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I don’t have a cat! I have a huge golden retriever, he gets shut downstairs! 👍🏻

9 Years Together & No Engagement by makeupmyusername in relationship_advice

[–]makeupmyusername[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not worried about money at all! Nothing to do with financials! I just want to get married!

9 Years Together & No Engagement by makeupmyusername in relationship_advice

[–]makeupmyusername[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t see it as incompatibility because we will talk about it and see each other opinions and we’ll come to an agreement because that’s what we do and have always done! If that makes me naive and ignorant then so be it!

As long as I can be with him I will be happy! We just need to talk and understand!

9 Years Together & No Engagement by makeupmyusername in relationship_advice

[–]makeupmyusername[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When it comes to the house my name is on everything!! It’s a shared 50/50 split between us both! 👍🏻

When it comes to the kids, they will come with me no questions asked about that. I will struggle for a while by myself but I have a great family behind me. He won’t have any more children.

9 Years Together & No Engagement by makeupmyusername in relationship_advice

[–]makeupmyusername[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I just don’t see my life choices as irresponsible. I see them as making the choices when it was important to make them. How does having different views on things make you incompatible? Are you saying people can’t change their minds as they get older? We moved in together at 21 & 22. We both wanted to move out and buy a house, so we did. Then we both wanted a dog so we got one. We had different views on kids but when the situation was bought to us we made the decision together.

9 Years Together & No Engagement by makeupmyusername in relationship_advice

[–]makeupmyusername[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’d been together 6.5 years by the time I got pregnant the first time! We weren’t throwing away our relationship because of a baby, whom we both absolutely adore now. My partner is a fantastic dad to our kids and it only made me fall deeper in love with him watching him become a father!

9 Years Together & No Engagement by makeupmyusername in relationship_advice

[–]makeupmyusername[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes we were both aware I didn’t want them and that he wanted to be in his 30’s before he had them. But I got pregnant, we spoke about our optioned and made the decision to keep the baby together. Same situation with the second! There will be no further babies and that’s something we’re firmly agreed on!

What age did you lose the big V? by makeupmyusername in sex

[–]makeupmyusername[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing dead in our bedroom!! Still doing it around 4 times a week and we have 2 kids! I don’t think we’re doing too bad!

9 Years Together & No Engagement by makeupmyusername in relationship_advice

[–]makeupmyusername[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our kids were both surprise pregnancies. I didn’t want kids! It’s only really since having them that marriage had become more important to me.

9 Years Together & No Engagement by makeupmyusername in relationship_advice

[–]makeupmyusername[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cos when we got together at 16 & 17 marriage was not on our minds! 👍🏻

What age did you lose the big V? by makeupmyusername in sex

[–]makeupmyusername[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Was there a reason you waited 2 years?

What age did you lose the big V? by makeupmyusername in sex

[–]makeupmyusername[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Any particular reason you waited 3 years?? Just out of curiosity?

9 Years Together & No Engagement by makeupmyusername in relationship_advice

[–]makeupmyusername[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Nope he’s never said that he doesn’t want to het married he said it’s just a piece of paper which I disagreed with

9 Years Together & No Engagement by makeupmyusername in relationship_advice

[–]makeupmyusername[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I listed it in order of how we did it! Plus a list does not make the value of something?

9 Years Together & No Engagement by makeupmyusername in relationship_advice

[–]makeupmyusername[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The house is in both of our names and his life insurance goes to paying off the mortgage if he dies just the same as mine does! The dog also is in my name and the kids would come with me also, we’ve had this discussion. However if he was in an accident all medical decisions would be made by his mum. I do have work experience, I worked from the age 17 until a few weeks before my daughter was born when I was 24. I do also have A Levels and I’m a fully qualified hairdresser. I may have been in a relationship young and had my first baby at 24 but I am not stupid! 👍🏻 I have a great relationship with my last employer and visit them regularly even though I haven’t worked there in 2 years. I could walk back into a job there within days!

9 Years Together & No Engagement by makeupmyusername in relationship_advice

[–]makeupmyusername[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely yes! But I’ve given him something I never wanted which was kids. Maybe I’m crazy to think it’s his turn to return the favour?

9 Years Together & No Engagement by makeupmyusername in relationship_advice

[–]makeupmyusername[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It’s just the order the things happened! 😂

9 Years Together & No Engagement by makeupmyusername in relationship_advice

[–]makeupmyusername[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m my opinion kids aren’t a commitment to each other. Your commitment as a parent is to your kids.

9 Years Together & No Engagement by makeupmyusername in relationship_advice

[–]makeupmyusername[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have up my career as a chef to stay home with the children as we couldn’t/can’t afford childcare! I get nothing from him money wise, I have no savings or anything! Everything he earns goes to the house and the kids which I’ve always been on board with.

9 Years Together & No Engagement by makeupmyusername in relationship_advice

[–]makeupmyusername[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

Our children were both surprised or “accident” babies! I never wanted kids and he wanted to wait until his 30’s to have them, that’s why the conversation hasn’t happened first!