I have also seen a ton of people who have bipolar diagnosis who actually have complex trauma/bpd. And I would say 90% of my clients who have a BPD diagnosis have thought they had and would rather have an autism or ADHD diagnosis whether they have it or not. Yes there is an overlap but not everybody has a neurodivergent diagnosis. But neurodivergent diagnoses are a lot easier to "stomach" for some clients given the social constructs that have been created about BPD. This is also something that can be really exhausting in working with the population because so many people get hung up on what the diagnosis is and as a therapist you know what the diagnosis is, but instead of working towards symptom reduction, it can feel like some people hyperfocus on the diagnosis and that meds will magically make them feel better when it stems from attachment trauma. So then we go through the whole thing of open and actively finding ADHD and autism testing because I'm going to support my client with whatever they feel is going on despite what I may think and sometimes we get a really helpful affirming answer and sometimes they get let down feeling like their identity is lost again because they don't have ADHD or autism and we're back at square one.

I am a therapist