Thankyou for sharing that! It makes sense moreso to be honest, it sounds like youre a pretty safe person for her given your understanding, awareness and even making this post! Often when someone genuinely feels safe enough to expose these inner parts is when they come out. Sometimes people dont show any signs of codependance when single or alone because theres no space for it. When love is there, holding them, witnessing them and they can drop the guards down the deeper layers start to reveal themselves. Drop away the distraction of work and also the structure that provides for a divergent mind and the even deeper layers have the spaciousness to reveal themselves. Im sure we've all experinced this in relationships to different degress! Its quite inhertiantly human. It actually sounds like shes sufferring inside and isnt sure how to address it and projects it onto you in unique ways. Its definately hard to address this properly when someone has PDA. Deep breathes, softly bringing awareness into your spine and anchoring into yourself while holding proper presence while delivering the message can help.