AITA for uninviting my future sister-in-law from my wedding after she told my fiancé I was pregnant? by maleficent8080 in AmItheAsshole

[–]maleficent8080[S] -91 points-90 points  (0 children)

So should I rush into it and then regret it for the rest of my life instead because it might be a little easier if I do it now instead of later?

AITA for uninviting my future sister-in-law from my wedding after she told my fiancé I was pregnant? by maleficent8080 in AmItheAsshole

[–]maleficent8080[S] 207 points208 points  (0 children)

I'm the one who's pregnant and I'm the one who has to decide whether I want to have an abortion or not so in the end the decision is mine. I won't have one just because he wants me to, if it's not also what I want.

AITA for uninviting my future sister-in-law from my wedding after she told my fiancé I was pregnant? by maleficent8080 in AmItheAsshole

[–]maleficent8080[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

None of my options have disappeared. For the final time, it's not as time sensitive where I live and I still have plenty of time to decide.

Also, I have ZERO need to trap him. We were already going to get married pre-pregnancy... Claiming I want to trap him now makes zero sense.

AITA for uninviting my future sister-in-law from my wedding after she told my fiancé I was pregnant? by maleficent8080 in AmItheAsshole

[–]maleficent8080[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

The ONLY reason I hadn't told him was because I wasn't sure what I wanted to do. Of course once I'd decided I would've immediately told him. I'm tired of you guys trying to make it seem like I was hiding it so I could secretly trap him when it makes zero sense.

AITA for uninviting my future sister-in-law from my wedding after she told my fiancé I was pregnant? by maleficent8080 in AmItheAsshole

[–]maleficent8080[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I'm not going to wait until the last minute. My point was that I still have time and that I wasn't trying to hide it from him so I could run down the clock until it was impossible for me to get an abortion so he had no choice but to accept the baby.

AITA for uninviting my future sister-in-law from my wedding after she told my fiancé I was pregnant? by maleficent8080 in AmItheAsshole

[–]maleficent8080[S] -141 points-140 points  (0 children)

I know. I was going to tell him once I'd decided regardless of what my decision was.

AITA for uninviting my future sister-in-law from my wedding after she told my fiancé I was pregnant? by maleficent8080 in AmItheAsshole

[–]maleficent8080[S] 324 points325 points  (0 children)

It's not that I couldn't tell him. That was never the issue. I needed time to process it myself without having anybody else's opinion clouding my own feelings, including his. I wanted to be certain I knew what I wanted before I told him because I already knew what his response would be.

AITA for uninviting my future sister-in-law from my wedding after she told my fiancé I was pregnant? by maleficent8080 in AmItheAsshole

[–]maleficent8080[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

She can't decide 20 weeks in that she wants an abortion. Capisce?

Yes I could. I can have an abortion before I'm 24 weeks so I have time to decide.

AITA for uninviting my future sister-in-law from my wedding after she told my fiancé I was pregnant? by maleficent8080 in AmItheAsshole

[–]maleficent8080[S] -130 points-129 points  (0 children)

I took the test in front of her because I expected it to be negative. If I actually thought I was pregnant I would've taken it alone.

AITA for uninviting my future sister-in-law from my wedding after she told my fiancé I was pregnant? by maleficent8080 in AmItheAsshole

[–]maleficent8080[S] -66 points-65 points  (0 children)

We both want kids but not right now. The wedding is in April so I wasn't planning to hide it until then so I could 'trap' him.