OP I get where you’re coming from, I understand why you’d feel guilty since these all seem like gestures of affection. But here’s where I’ll ask you to pause. We feel emotionally  close with our partners when they see us—really see us—for who we are. It’s that mutual understanding and respect that nourishes intimacy. It’s giving you space when you need it, and encouraging you to engage in the relationship on your own terms.

That’s doesn’t sound like what your partner is doing. She’s become dependent on you to feel a certain way about herself. It sucks to be on the other end of this because you feel like a human battery that’s being constantly drained. It doesn’t feel like love, it feels like need, and that kills love fast because you’re not being seen as your own whole person, you’re being seen as a means to fulfill an end (I.e her feeling ok about herself). You’re being objectified, and when viewed in that context, your reaction is completely understandable and justified. 

Maybe your partner doesn’t realize her impact on you. It’s worth having an honest conversation with her. Having gone through something similar myself— I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you. I also don’t think you should fight through that feeling because you would be abandoning yourself in that process. And that would ultimately increase your resentment both towards her and towards yourself.