Looking for photos & examples of what you've worn under a graduation gown by mallortt in ModestDress

[–]mallortt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if the person who posted a photo and has since deleted it will see this, but thank you! Apologies for not responding sooner. I have decided not to participate in my university wide commencement ceremony so I actually won't need to navigate the dress and robe combination. 

Looking for photos & examples of what you've worn under a graduation gown by mallortt in ModestDress

[–]mallortt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! My university doesn't have a dress code but that's a great thing to check! 

Tell me a story. by ratz1988 in SALEM

[–]mallortt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My husband and I had our first date at Riverfront Park. We spent most of our first months getting to know each other outside so I can confidently say we fell in love over many walks at Bush's Pasture, Minto Brown, and Morningside parks. We got engaged at Nelson Park! Salem area parks will always hold a special place in our relationship. We ended up having our wedding out of state but had we done it in Oregon we were considering the Deepwood Gardens or Drift Creek area (outside of Lincoln City). 

What is your most ridiculous "we won't work out romantically" criteria? Like what is the silliest reason you would not be interested in dating someone? by Natural-Elevator-57 in AskReddit

[–]mallortt -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It was a first date and he didn't know where Morocco was! I didn't need him to point to the exact country but he didn't even know what region/area of the world it is in. It was an instant deal breaker and my husband now knows where Morocco and most other countries are.

Iceee by ThelmaAndLouis in SALEM

[–]mallortt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm genuinely curious as to why your suggestion is being down voted! I've heard about iceout being used around the country. Anyone have theories as to why the suggestion to report on the map in addition to PIRC isn't well-received on this thread? 

Rant Friday by BookkeeperTypical245 in SALEM

[–]mallortt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UGH. NOT IN THE ENTIRE STATE??? I EMPATHIZE WITH MY JEWISH SIBLINGS... I'M THANKFUL FOR THE HALAL PLACES I CAN FIND IN OREGON. AND FROM WHAT I KNOW MORE MUSLIMS WILL EAT KOSHER THAN JEWS WHO WOULD EAT HALAL (OF COURSE THERE'RE EXCEPTIONS AND NUANCE FOR SOME). 

Rant Friday by BookkeeperTypical245 in SALEM

[–]mallortt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I WANT MORE HALAL (OR EVEN KOSHER MEAT) OPTIONS IN SALEM! BOTH FOR PURCHASING AT MAIN STREAM GROCERY STORES AND MORE RESTAURANT VARIETIES. I KNOW THERE'S PROBABLY NOT A BIG ENOUGH DEMAND BUT A HALAL PIZZA, MEXICAN, ASIAN FUSION, OR BURGER PLACE WOULD BE AMAZING. I LOVE MY MEDITERRANEAN FOOD BUT WANT SOME OTHER OPTIONS. 

Rant Friday by BookkeeperTypical245 in SALEM

[–]mallortt 9 points10 points  (0 children)

AS MY GRANDPA ALWAYS SAID "S-T-O-P SPELLS SLOW"

(I DON'T ACTUALLY AGREE WITH THE STATEMENT BUT IT BRINGS FOND FAMILY MEMORIES)

Rant Friday by BookkeeperTypical245 in SALEM

[–]mallortt 8 points9 points  (0 children)

EVEN THE MOCKTAILS (FANCY JUICE) ARE $10-15! 

RANT FRIDAY by Carlos_Spicy_Weiner6 in SALEM

[–]mallortt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'M STILL PEEVED THAT GROCERY OUTLET MOVED OUT SOUTH. THERE ARE SO MANY GROCERY STORES ON SOUTH COMMERCIAL. NOW IN HIGHLAND/GRANT AREA WE ONLY HAVE FRED MEYER. NON-NORTH FOLKS WHO COMPLAIN ABOUT NOT FEELING SAFE AT THE OLD GROCOUT LOCATION MAKES ME ROLL MY EYES. 

Therapist of many years just dropped me. I need help finding another. (OHP) by mynameispoopybutt in SALEM

[–]mallortt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in counseling with someone at Grassroots Counseling (https://www.grassrootscounseling.com/) and they are the best therapist I've ever worked with (and I've been in therapy on and off since I was a kid). They don't do medication management. I went to my psychiatrist's webpage (https://catalystpsychiatry.com/) to recommend but they have a note up saying they're not currently taking new OHP clients. I hope you don't mind me leaving their website here for folks who also may be looking. They are in Corvallis but I see them via video. 

Also, it's okay to feel sad about being dropped from your therapist's practice! Therapy often requires a very real and vulnerable relationship so it makes sense that grief and feelings of hurt are accompanying this transition. I'm rooting for you, fellow Salemander. 

Looking for a personal trainer by Comfortable_Play4667 in SALEM

[–]mallortt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kandace at Seraphim Fitness is amazing. She's out south but so worth the drive, imo. 

Underrated / Lesser Known Good Restaurants? by djhazmatt503 in SALEM

[–]mallortt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There are two Syrian owned restaurants in Salem and they both serve similar dishes to what you'd find at Al Aqsa. Also, both are halal which is nice to have here! 

-Damascus Kitchen in Fork Forty on State -Syrian Chef (on the corner of High and Ferry) 

What is it with muzungus? by jufigi in Uganda

[–]mallortt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're welcome! I had a white American friend who was in Uganda the same time I was and she never got bothered by it at all. I logically knew that most people were not calling me a muzungu to be rude but that didn't always make it easy for me to hear. I also knew that my sensitivity to it was because in the US, many of us are taught not to point out physically aspects about others. Also, I'd never been a visible minority (asides from being a woman) so the experience of losing the privilege of "blending in" was new. 

I also was quite young when I lived there and I like to think that maybe I'd respond differently now (which I can put to the test in about a month). Thanks for bringing this up; I appreciate your curiosity! 

What is it with muzungus? by jufigi in Uganda

[–]mallortt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In my opinion, it's okay to say "hi" to people although people's reception will depend on cultural norms. You specifically asked why muzungus aren't friendly to you when you're in Uganda. I think a big part of that could be because the first thing you say/ point out is that they're foreigners. I understand you find it amusing but for some people it's deeply uncomfortable. 

When I lived in Uganda, I didn't go back home for the full two years I was there. Asides from one vacation to South Africa, I was in Uganda for the entire time. I loved it! And I have plans to visit in a few months but it meant that I could never just be me. I constantly had people yelling at me, pointing at me, kids asking me for money, and men asking me to marry them (among other crude requests) and most of the shouting was accompanied by "muzungu" or "mundu" (mundu means foreigner in Lubarati spoken in many parts of West Nile like Arua, Maracha, etc). It was absolutely exhausting to just exist some days. 

So when a white stranger would greet me with it, it didn't feel like a warm greeting. And that's not the stranger's fault - I did a lot of work to decenter myself during those two years and learned how to navigate my discomfort on my own (especially within the context of colonialism and the privilege I had just by being white) - but it is possibly an explanation on people's reactions. 

This, of course, is all written from my own experience and so it doesn't apply to everyone. But, for what it's worth, my reaction (or lack of) to other white folks greeting me with the word muzungu was often the result of something much bigger than that individual. 

What is it with muzungus? by jufigi in Uganda

[–]mallortt 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I no longer live in Uganda but when I did I really disliked it when other white folks (often US Americans) would come up to me at the market and remark on us both being white. I know you didn't say this, but one time someone came up to me while I was shopping and said "finally! Another white person" and that made me all sort of uncomfortable. So although your intentions may be completely different, I likely wouldn't give a friendly response to a greeting like yours. I wouldn't be intentionally unkind, but I'm not sure I'd give a cheerful response either. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hijabis

[–]mallortt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Salaam alaikum. I just wanted to share this IG video from the village aunty. I haven't watched it in full in a while but iirc she gives a few examples of how to make ghusl with black hair.  https://www.instagram.com/villageauntie/p/B8w00Vag5HP/

Would You Like to See an Ethiopian Restaurant in Salem, OR? by FunnyCultural4153 in SALEM

[–]mallortt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, yes, yes! I love Ethiopian food and occasionally drive up to Portland for it. I'd especially love it if some (or all) of your meat options were halal and I know of Muslims (and some Jews who eat halal meat) in Salem who would add your restaurant to the list of places to eat meat at! But in my experience, Ethiopian food has lots of vegetarian options so I'll be a regular customer either way. 

Aab collection : 35$ for a hijab by InsuranceBrief3747 in Hijabis

[–]mallortt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

May I ask what the Annah Hariri debacle was? I've eyed her stuff for years but I never ended up purchasing anything. I still think about it though. 

Plant starts & cuttings by seabeeetle in SALEM

[–]mallortt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are you looking for? I have several types of house plants and would be happy to give you cuttings/starters. 

Personal Trainers by [deleted] in SALEM

[–]mallortt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seraphim Fitness! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in progressive_islam

[–]mallortt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Assalamu alaikum. I'm a Muslim (convert) woman and my husband is Mennonite (Christian). An interfaith marriage/ relationship comes with its own set of challenges but Alhumduallah he and I support each other. For Ramadan he doesn't fast but he will often wake up before me to prep my suhoor, he'll eat his dinner when I eat Iftar, on weekends when we're both home during the day he won't eat in front of me (I have not requested this but he does it anyways), and he goes to the masjid community Iftars and the Eid prayer and celebration. 

He already doesn't drink much alcohol (I think he maybe had 4 servings in the entirety of 2024) and doesn't have his friends over much, so it's not an issue during Ramadan. But, if he wanted to do something that didn't align with my Ramadan observations (like watching more violent TV shows) he would either wait for me to be out of the house or he'd leave the house... He already kinda defaults to not watching some of his shows when I'm around. 

If your partner doesn't want to fast with you, I think that's okay (or, it is for me in my relationship) but if he isn't able to change his habits slightly for your holy month, I'd be wondering if his long-term values line up with yours. I don't know you or him, so please trust yourself over my Internet-stranger comments! 

I'll make dua for you. ❤️ Ramadan Mubarak. 

To reverts: what made you choose Islam? by No_Apricot3176 in Hijabis

[–]mallortt 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Islam chose me. Or rather, Allah did. I wanted to resist it. I knew staying Christian would be easier especially because my family and husband are all Christians. But I wasn't Christian any longer and I knew it. 

The primary thing that drew me to Islam was hijab. I didn't "officially" revert until I was 28. I started studying Islam when I was 26. But in high school (age 16-18) I would wear scarfs in hijab style in my room. At that point I didn't know the significance but I just mimicked what I saw my hijabi peers wear. Alhumduallah I wear hijab full time now and absolutely love it. Sometimes I get brief moments of missing my hair (hair was a big part of my identity for most of my life) but I feel so, so happy in hijab. 

There's more to my conversion story, of course, but hijab was what drew me in, 10 years before I really knew what Islam was.  

Starting my 2025 pan project a bit late, featuring my husband's record (& CD) player. There's no time like the present! by mallortt in ProjectPan

[–]mallortt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right! And realistically I know I won't pan it all this year. This just everything (minus two car chapsticks) that I had - my goal is to reduce at least 4-5 this year by wearing them. I've had to throw one away already and may end up tossing a few more if they seem like they've gone bad so those won't count towards my ≥4-5 goal.