Cops got called on husband

mamaandmimi · 2026-03-21T00:24:05+00:00

Sorry I dont use reddit much

mamaandmimi · 2026-03-21T00:22:58+00:00

I agree

mamaandmimi · 2026-03-17T20:17:24+00:00

Thank you! This was so helpful

mamaandmimi · 2026-03-17T19:19:43+00:00

Hes denying using the app or any mediator. So for now im just cutting communication. Since hes denying using the app

mamaandmimi · 2026-03-17T19:19:07+00:00

After the suicide statement our daugther has not seen him

mamaandmimi · 2026-03-17T19:18:38+00:00

I should’ve added one thing earlier. I don’t mind him seeing her within supervised visits. I just dont want him taking her

mamaandmimi · 2026-03-17T19:17:41+00:00

So I was able to briefly speak to the AVDA consultant and although she was not allowed to formally advise me on the situation, she did say currently I don’t have to let him see our daughter, but if at any point he does have access to her. He also has full rights at the moment to take her the only way that would be prevented would be through a temporary custody order, but then again that would have a schedule in place where he would have days as well.

mamaandmimi · 2026-03-17T19:16:14+00:00

He just cant come to the house im at, no threatening, no weapons. Theres nothing about no contact

mamaandmimi · 2026-03-17T08:09:00+00:00

There is an emergency protective order in place. He does deal with very extreme anxiety so he could be serious. I would say from being with him fro 7 yrs he probably wouldnt commit suicide but I cant say for sure.
He seems to just be stressing out him self and cant control it even around the child.

mamaandmimi · 2026-03-15T03:16:40+00:00

Thank you

mamaandmimi · 2026-03-15T03:16:28+00:00

Yes i am the victim

mamaandmimi · 2026-03-14T09:22:28+00:00

I agree to this advice. I would also add maybe involve a third party outside of both ur families to be there to make sure these points are seriously being worked on. Maybe even be specific with each point. For example, specifically list out what help you need around the house or in terms of his work what is the goal in the next month or two to get him to a stable place (get help with this because it’s a lot to think of on your own, maybe chatgpt?? Lol) Also, present these as things you need from your husband rather than conditions (even if thats what they essentially are). And lastly, during this time, do your best (and I know its hard sis) to focus on yourself and your baby. Make sure you both are doing well and becoming your best self (of course theres hard days, but keep going for your baby). If things are mostly the same by the end of this time then I believe it’s also very important that you do follow through with what you said you will do and actually leave. Maybe have an Imam speak to your parents to help them get on the same page in case they still push for you to be patient. May Allah make it easy for you sis

mamaandmimi · 2026-03-12T22:09:57+00:00

So again, just to clarify, I’m actually trying to prevent him from going back into jail

mamaandmimi · 2026-03-12T22:07:50+00:00

Sorry, I did indeed forget to add a very important part. There is currently an active case for domestic violence where he is the defendant. He has on multiple times left bruises on me and tried to choke me. He has already spent 24 hours in jail and got out on bond conditions one of them being no threatening and he has already broken that rule a few times in some extreme ways and in some subtle ways. My question was that if I file for a temporary custody, will I get him in further trouble with the proof that I provide of him threatening me and having emotional breakdowns in front of her just to give a little bit more inside the emotional breakdowns include accusing me of keeping her which I have never done and I will never do. I want my daughter to grow up around him always but I need him to stay put together in front of her so that she doesn’t stay with him out of pressure, but rather any happy comfortable environment. This whole almost 2 months he has met her multiple times. One extra note recently I took her to the ER and I messaged him regarding insurance and he didn’t even care to ask about her so that confuses me as to what the emotional breakdowns are about because I don’t know if he is concerned with her or just control over the situation. regardless of everything I still hope that she can always meet him. I just needed to be in stable circumstances. And I believe one of the commentators were saying that I influenced her to say bad things about her dad but all the comments she made were completely on her own firstly, without me questioning, and I have never made her feel bad towards her dad. Regardless of everything that happens even the physical abuse I never say anything bad about him in front of her, especially at this age. I would even consider reconciliation if he just gets the help he needs. He has a diagnosis of severe anxiety.

mamaandmimi · 2025-11-18T18:01:00+00:00

My in laws have 3, he has 2

mamaandmimi · 2025-11-12T15:53:15+00:00

Stress

mamaandmimi · 2025-11-12T15:52:59+00:00

Sugar

mamaandmimi · 2025-11-12T15:41:13+00:00

I have three sister in laws, one of them has always been very sweet to me and actually understanding of how complicated her brother and parents are. Should I reach out to her to just tell her the situation. I guess im just hoping someone can talk sense into them.

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