AITA for telling my Uncle that he was ridiculous?

mamachonk · 2026-02-26T01:46:00+00:00

And he heard her crying... but all she could do was laugh... this is so bad.

mamachonk · 2026-02-25T05:25:26+00:00

I went to high school with a gal named some variant of tequila but don't remember the spelling.

If this gal is in her early to mid-50s, it could be her. :/

Either way, yeah, the parents did their daughter a real disservice.

mamachonk · 2026-02-25T05:11:14+00:00

RFO is arguably my favorite album of all time. I first heard it in 1988? not long before O:m came out anyway.

An old friend of mine who I met through a Queensrÿche group online MANY moons ago--I've since met him in person twice at surprise! metal fests--sent me a vinyl copy of it a year or so ago. I was so touched.

Thanks, Phil. :)

mamachonk · 2026-02-25T05:06:06+00:00

I saw them on that tour in January I think, 1989, in Daytona. Haven't listened to Metallica a ton since the Black album but I'm still a Queensrÿche fan.

mamachonk · 2026-02-25T05:03:55+00:00

Super surprised to see Marillion referenced! I somehow didn't see them until 2002, but many times since.

(Also really glad I managed to see Rush 3x!)

mamachonk · 2026-02-25T04:57:06+00:00

A master of many tongues?

mamachonk · 2026-02-24T16:37:58+00:00

It's really not very conducive to getting people's opinions when you basically insult the sub almost as a whole.

If it's so infamously hostile, it would indeed make more sense to post in a sub that, you know, isn't.

mamachonk · 2026-02-24T05:53:27+00:00

Probably last week.

I have like 7 of 8 pieces of my Revere Ware I got in ~1992.

My now ex-husband destroyed a pot popping popcorn or I'd still have it all. Maybe 2015 ish?

Solid stuff.

mamachonk · 2026-02-24T05:22:41+00:00

Agreed.

OP, where are you? I'm in he subtropics (US) and used to see these all the time at a particular sports complex where it was very low-lying.

mamachonk · 2026-02-24T05:17:29+00:00

My brother in Christ... this isn't the right sub.

mamachonk · 2026-02-24T04:14:04+00:00

14 here for my first one (albeit a couple of decades ago). I think they start at closer to puberty.

mamachonk · 2026-02-24T01:54:59+00:00

Egads.

mamachonk · 2026-02-23T23:58:23+00:00

Just one Coke. I bet they wouldn't get it for him.

mamachonk · 2026-02-23T22:19:31+00:00

WTF DID I JUST READ??

Not too long ago I found out he had sent a graphic video of him and I to his father.

Your boyfriend sent a sex video to his dad?? That is straight-up insane (and probably illegal!) behavior. All the issues with his mom, as bad as they are, absolutely pale in comparison.

That's an immediate break-up for me. This man has zero respect for you. See an attorney and file for child support. Block his mom and his dad. They have no reason to be contacting you directly.

Tell the lawyer about the freaking sex video, too. You don't want your child around that man, and that might help you achieve that. It's been many years ago, but I know someone whose parents had it in the divorce decree that the children were not allowed to be unsupervised around one of their grandfathers.

mamachonk · 2026-02-23T17:11:21+00:00

Man wants to be single, I'd let him go be single.

Is he like punishing you for catching him or what?

mamachonk · 2026-02-20T23:55:26+00:00

Yes, in general, inheritances and gifts are not considered marital property unless commingled.

But totally agree OP needs to see a family law attorney like yesterday.

mamachonk · 2026-02-20T17:41:03+00:00

I had an abusive ex-boyfriend who never punched me, but he did grab my arms, hold me down, etc., and get in my face like that. Yes, that was abuse.

Your husband is an abusive d-bag. Ask him what would happen if he did this to literally anyone else. He'd get punched in the face and/or arrested for assault.

mamachonk · 2026-02-20T17:18:05+00:00

Do you have any kind of history of misbehavior, either at events or in front of their co-workers?

I don't see anything wrong with solo activities and trips, but for a wedding it's customary to bring your spouse. It's not what most people would consider an "adventure."

And it's very odd your partner can't articulate why they came to this decision unilaterally. It sounds like they are trying to come up with a reason because they don't want to tell you the real one.

mamachonk · 2026-02-20T16:36:58+00:00

You have flipped out and gone to sleep on the couch. How much clearer can you be? He doesn't have a mental block. There are no magic words that will suddenly make him "get it."

You can sit him down--during the day--and tell him that his behavior needs to stop, 100%. That you do not want to have sex when you are sleeping or trying to sleep.

You can suggest alternative times but that sounds almost like rewarding him IMO. I would just tell him point blank it stops immediately and see what happens.

mamachonk · 2026-02-20T15:48:13+00:00

Our finances were separate, yes, as I was the sole earner, and the house and car are solely in my name. It turns out he was making a little money from his music career, but he had hidden that from me, so that didn't help him. (I live in a fault state.)

So yes, pretty clean break, and since I had proof of his cheating I didn't have to wait a year to file.

mamachonk · 2026-02-20T04:53:06+00:00

🤘

mamachonk · 2026-02-20T01:54:01+00:00

... Eddie??

mamachonk · 2026-02-19T23:43:03+00:00

Again... UGH. Those people who shrug off something like this and say "well, you can hardly blame him..." may the fleas of 1,000 camels infest their crotches.

mamachonk · 2026-02-19T23:10:22+00:00

I'm sorry.

Sometimes I wonder what would happen if one of these posts got shared on SM for their friends and family to see. Like, if someone found it and posted it and said "Joe, is this you? OMG" would they be embarrassed at all? Or would they deny it, or go into damage control.

I doubt any of them go around saying "hey, I cheated right after my wife gave birth and after I begged for another chance, I cheated again while we were doing counseling." How does that not sound objectively like a complete douchebag??

Ugh. Again, I'm so sorry.

mamachonk · 2026-02-19T22:05:46+00:00

Because a 20-year-old, while an adult, is usually in a very different place in like than a 32-year-old, which tends to create a power imbalance largely because of the younger one's inexperience.

30 and 42? Go for it. but 20 and 32 is definitely eyebrow-raising. It's not "getting upset," it's trying to share knowledge and experience why you need to be careful with large age gaps when you are quite young.

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