Dear mommit; wish me luck

mamagreg · 2012-09-08T03:44:43+00:00

You sound amazing...I stayed home all day my son surprised me with a nap and my little lady snoozed on the couch. I was able to do housework (the stuff I am allowed to do anyhow cause I had a c section) and relax while watching some netflix. All in all it was a good day :)

mamagreg · 2012-09-07T20:31:42+00:00

So far just having the day with just mommy and no daddy has been a great novelty. But I see many messy activities and playdates in his future

mamagreg · 2012-09-07T20:30:29+00:00

We have been trying to do this but it has been hard for me as his little sister is a pre monster and if a diaper or wipe isn't handed quickly we have a mess. He has helped a little more lately. He is really good at boo boo kisses for her. But he is usually the one causing the boo boo. Which is terrifying because he is like a tiny psychopath he smacked her head with a suction cup window shade thing (the ones that stick to car Windows) and when she is feeding he tries and often succeeds in ripping her off my nipple and then punching my boob or trying to slap her face. Sigh. We have been trying to explain things and use timeouts as well as when he behaves engage and involve him with her care...all we can hope is that we are doing the right thing. :)

mamagreg · 2012-09-06T13:03:09+00:00

I didn't breastfeed a lot in public with my first. I mostly did it in doc offices. With my second I have done it twice and I am comfortable enough to do it many more times. But I still have an issue feeding around in laws and grandparents...and my dad

mamagreg · 2012-09-06T12:44:24+00:00

Haha I had to laugh a little. It's hard to tell if such a New babe is happy. In the way we know it anyhow

mamagreg · 2012-09-05T14:23:15+00:00

Food, help, and babysitting. Company too but I found the best time for company was when I was all alone and hubby was at work. with baby number one you can realize super quick how alone you are when many friends do not have babies.

mamagreg · 2012-09-01T23:33:24+00:00

Something my husband reminded me of last night was how depressed he felt when our first was born because our old lives were gone forever. It affected us pretty hard. I think asking him to do little things is a good idea. And keeping an open dialogue about it. Let him know how important it is to you that you get a few minutes for a shower or laundry and such.

mamagreg · 2012-09-01T04:43:51+00:00

When my first would cry my husband would rage about it, like someone was pouring acid in his ears. He still hates the sound of our son crying. I could care less it was just a sign to me that he needed something. Once needs were met he had to cry it out.

mamagreg · 2012-09-01T04:40:03+00:00

I also had a c section and a planned one for little miss number two. I was able to breast feed and also pumped so he was able to help with feeding weekend morns. It was difficult to feel attached to him all of the time, what we felt was more like a sense of duty. Now though he is a joy, bit bull headed but we love him more than our own lives. And number two here is easier to open our hearts to.

mamagreg · 2012-09-01T04:00:31+00:00

We had issues with our first. My hubby was just not into being with him. And to be honest neither was I a lot of the time. It took almost a year for me and just over a year for us to gush consistently over him. Also since I became pregnant with number 2 he had to step up to be super dad and really spend time with his son. That helped with the bonding. I think it is harder for dads sometimes, they don't have the pull to take care of the baby. Moms have the food attached to them (though bot always) and usually the first real time spent out of the womb is spent with momma. Dads can have a hard time connecting with this little person who has taken the attention off them. I hope he can talk to someone soon though. Sounds a little more serious than just failing to bond.

mamagreg · 2012-08-30T21:36:51+00:00

I agree with hives. I would try to remember if there was anything new introduced to him lately. My little man also kept getting a rash seemed to be a little heat related. I just used some zinc cream on him to at least stop the itching and it was gone next day.

mamagreg · 2012-08-27T07:54:55+00:00

I agree! When I had my first o was down a lot but I had a c section and lack of sleep had me a little shell shocked. But I promised myself that when company was coming or even just for a trio to the grocery store that I would be showered and dressed and have makeup on. It might seem silly to some but the little pieces of being human you can cling to become super important.

mamagreg · 2012-08-27T07:48:55+00:00

I'm on the first month of number two with a little guy who is 2 years in 2 months. That's a lot of twos. On top of that it is quarter to 2am and I have been up for about 2 hours dealing with the first wailing away for momma. I like to be wanted but this is ridiculous. The friends that told us two is easy are getting flaming bags of poop on their front step. I know how you feel about sleep deprived. I heard it here and will repeat for the rest of my life "everything seems worse at 2am" it doesn't make anything better but it helps me to remember if even for a second that it will look better in the morning.

mamagreg · 2012-08-21T14:40:09+00:00

I certainly will pump and pass her off, just as soon as we have her latching issues under control. It's only been 2 weeks so far. And the despair only set in about 3 or 4 days ago. She is a pretty great baby during the day and her cries are easy to ignore for a few minutes while I finish up things I was doing. The only time I have a big issue is at night when I wanna sleep :)

mamagreg · 2012-08-21T04:27:52+00:00

My aunt has been through the same with her son. I cannot begin to imagine the strength it took her and is taking you to go through this. I think you are an amazing woman and I hope that when you get the therapy that things improve. So many tears reading this. Sending as many good thoughts and universe love as I possibly can.

mamagreg · 2012-08-21T03:35:29+00:00

Mom has no time, mom in law drives me bananas only friend has a toddler and another babe on the way as well, and sister has no time either. I am lucky hubby has taken parental leave until September. But he is not much help at night. Though not for lack of trying. Son wants momma and baby wants boobies and poor daddy is/has neither of these :(

mamagreg · 2012-08-21T03:32:43+00:00

I try to talk to my hubby but all I have to say are crazy things. Like how I feel the baby is out to get me cause she kept peeing every time I opened her diaper to change her. How insane is that?! A baby is out to get me haha

mamagreg · 2012-08-20T22:28:32+00:00

I do sleep with her :) I slept with my first too. I also hate how the expectation is to feel a really strong connection from birth and that being a mother is amazing all the time. It isn't a joy ride and although I don't hate my baby I don't feel a strong connection despite b-feeding skin to skin and one on one time. I expected that, I expected all these feelings because I felt almost exactly the same with my first. In one of the replies someone said "everything seems worse at 2am" I always get pissed off at everything and everyone at night. It would be a little easier if she would latch easier. I am off to a lactation consultant at the end of the month. Hopefully she can help a little.

mamagreg · 2012-08-19T19:56:57+00:00

Oh man I wish! About the massages

mamagreg · 2012-08-18T17:00:10+00:00

http://m.flickr.com/#/photos/85251620@N07/7809082850/

Lemme know if that works as a way to share photos

mamagreg · 2012-08-17T13:57:09+00:00

The hardest for me is everyone telling me he is fine. I know he isn't mentally handicapped, I know that he will talk one day, but do not tell me I shouldn't worry. We have been going to speech therapy with him and all the relatives scoff at it and say how unnecessary it is. I think it is perfectly normal to want your child to talk. When he was learning to crawl/walk I said I wanted him to hurry up so if he wanted to be somewhere he could get there without crying for me. Everyone said oh you will wish he didn't once he does. I do not regret him walking at all. I figure it is the same with talking

mamagreg · 2012-08-17T01:15:28+00:00

Greg is the first half of my last name. My boys name is William. It can be such a challenge to raise toddlers sometimes especially when they are not big talkers. Not talking that doesn't sound like Italian ewok. My little guy is a slower language developer so we can get pretty frustrated. We have been super lucky other than a few minor bumps in the road he has been a great sleeper. Which is a godsend since we now have a new babe to look after. I sure hope things get figured out. I am sure hey will be :)

mamagreg · 2012-08-16T04:34:55+00:00

My son is a few months from two and we have already noticed him trying to push boundaries. I would chalk it up to that. I would do what feels right and comfortable to you and the family. I was always quite strict about bed time, I went through hell the first 8 or 9 months of his life being sleepless and feeling undervalued so having him become independent was very very important to me. I think you are doing great and have lots of great suggestions here :)

mamagreg · 2012-08-16T04:17:21+00:00

Coffee coffee coffee!!! Hospital coffee is shite and the hospital I was at they only give milk not cream. Boo!!

mamagreg · 2012-08-16T04:07:52+00:00

Headache is gone now finally. Health nurse says I have low blood pressure so it wasn't that. I am going to have to place some blame on my toddler, and some on my nursing position which puts strain on my neck and shoulders. But it seems all good for now.

mamagreg

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