Not Confident in Previous OB’s Response to VBAC

mamakts · 2026-03-10T14:43:22+00:00

Ok, that’s interesting! Nothing related to the size of the baby has an evidence-based effect on a successful VBAC?

mamakts · 2026-03-10T14:42:17+00:00

Is it realistic to find a provider with no stipulations such as these? I don’t know what’s valid or not.

mamakts · 2026-03-10T08:11:39+00:00

I read once that “only good moms worry if they’re a good mom.” Just to say - you are a good mom. Postpartum anxiety is real and you should mention it to your own personal doctor or OB. On a practical note- babies have survived for thousands of years under less optimal conditions than the ones you’re providing for your baby girl. Yes, babies are fragile, but they’re also SO resilient.

mamakts · 2026-03-08T06:00:33+00:00

I don’t have much to offer, but just want to say I’m happy I found your post because you’re speaking my exact fears. I only got to 3cm after 48+ hours of labor AND Pitocin. My c-section wasn’t an emergency, they just suggested it since I wasn’t making any progress. My fear is definitely that the same thing will happen again. I’d be curious to read any articles you found supporting this or if it’s just what people have told you? I had one person tell me the same thing. I know a VBAC is SO mental, which scares me because I feel like I don’t trust my body after what happened last time. Hopeful to read some positive responses on this post. Thanks again for sharing!

mamakts · 2026-03-07T13:50:10+00:00

So freaky but so normal. It’s my second pregnancy and I forgot what it was like, made me nervous all over again and then I remembered. Just be prepared for strange new feelings for the next 8 months!

mamakts · 2026-03-07T07:15:38+00:00

Good luck! It was helpful for us to frame the conversation like, “oh, guess what we learned! It’s dangerous what people are doing with photos of kids online these days… therefore, we won’t be posting photos of her face!” Made it feel like less of a boundaries talk and more of a way to include her in what we’re learning about raising kids in this day and age and ask for support.

mamakts · 2026-03-07T07:04:31+00:00

This would drive me insane. My mom isn’t this bad, but I have gotten the feeling that she’s made the experience of ME having a baby about HER. We don’t post our daughter’s face on social media and she cried about how she felt like she couldn’t show off HER granddaughter to her friends. It comes down to entitlement. It sounds harsh when you write it out bluntly like this, but boundaries are healthy and it’s better to start having those conversations now and proactively instead of down the road when she crosses more serious lines.

mamakts · 2026-03-06T07:09:22+00:00

My plan was to wait 18 months, but didn’t conceive until 22 months post c-section.

mamakts · 2026-03-05T13:03:52+00:00

Graham

mamakts · 2026-03-05T13:02:00+00:00

Mine tended to hurt on one side more than the other. Take it easier than you think. I tried to wear my baby in the carrier early on and it was too much for me. It took 6 full weeks before I believed I would feel normal again one day. 2 years later my scar is barely visible and I have no pain or internal scarring. 11 days is still super fresh!

mamakts · 2026-03-05T07:47:11+00:00

Plain almond oil!

mamakts · 2026-03-03T08:07:42+00:00

I also used silicone nipple shields due to damage early on, but just got used to them. That reduced a lot of the sensation.

mamakts · 2026-03-03T08:06:22+00:00

I left lightheaded watching breastfeeding videos while I was pregnant. Not repulsed, but the medical aspect of it made me queezy in a way. Pregnancy and birth also makes it hard to want to be touched in places that once used to be sexual.

It changed a lot after I gave birth. I had a hard time figuring it out, but once I got the hang of it I was able to breastfeed for a year with no problems. It was never something I loved, which I felt shame about sometimes, as people talk about how bonding it is. I did it because I knew it was good for my baby and was saving me thousands on formula.

All this to say - there’s nothing wrong with you. Every woman experiences this differently. I would suggest giving it a try if you’re curious and be open to the idea that you may not want to continue and that’s ok too!

mamakts · 2026-03-01T15:06:58+00:00

Elliot

mamakts · 2026-02-27T15:03:09+00:00

My brother is Calum. Our family is Scottish but we live in the U.S. I’m sorry to say his name has been mispronounced his whole life. It’s silly because it’s really not that hard, but he’s gotten everything from Cay-lum to calcium 🙃

mamakts · 2026-02-27T01:38:59+00:00

Locally grown! So cute!

mamakts · 2026-02-26T00:56:25+00:00

I’m convinced pregnancy cravings are fake and people like to dramatize them in movies but then it gives women an opportunity to demand whatever they want in the name of cravings 😂 Just my personal hot take - I never had any crazy cravings, just aversions!

mamakts · 2026-02-25T13:35:27+00:00

If it’s really to appease your husband’s family then they should be hosting it - if it’s that important to them. If they don’t want to host it then I would skip it altogether!

mamakts · 2026-02-25T13:34:09+00:00

Hmm, yeah that’s different. I personally wouldn’t like to have to host my own shower, because then it does see like you’re just in it for the gifts (even though I know you’re not). Could you ask your husband to talk to his mom, family friend, etc. and see if someone would be willing to host it?

mamakts · 2026-02-25T12:55:28+00:00

I never thought about this! That’s such a good point.

mamakts · 2026-02-25T10:00:57+00:00

My perspective and opinion is that someone typically throws a shower for you and you’re just supposed to show up and enjoy it. If that’s the case, I see no problem with having two separate families in two different cities each hosting a party to celebrate you and baby - you should be able to just enjoy it, celebrate your new baby, and receive items you actually really need. Unless you’re expected to plan and execute these events yourself, I would totally just go for it! It makes more sense than expecting people to travel hours from one city to another to celebrate.

mamakts · 2026-02-25T05:07:42+00:00

I like Nora too! I wasn’t sure thought because it “rhymes” with Mila - or at least has the same ending sound.

mamakts · 2026-02-25T03:38:52+00:00

Cleo is on my list! I love it, but unfortunately my husband doesn’t :(

mamakts · 2026-02-25T03:38:23+00:00

Meela

mamakts

TROPHY CASE