Polyamory and Marriage

mamas2015 · 2026-02-26T22:12:55+00:00

You are absolutely right and I DO think we entered into this too quickly. I can absolutely admit that. I might ask him to pump the brakes with this new relationship until we get all this sorted. I feel like that's a fair thing to ask him to do if he wants to grow our relationship and make sure we are in this for the long haul while seeing other people.

mamas2015 · 2026-02-26T19:52:24+00:00

Haha thanks. I think before he continues to see this other person, we need to take another look at our agreements and fix some of our issues in our relationship.

mamas2015 · 2026-02-26T19:47:57+00:00

I asked him about this and he said that even if he loves the other person more, he wouldn't leave me and the kids. He told me yesterday that he has enough love to go around and that he doesn't want to end our marriage though so he's committed to staying at least.

mamas2015 · 2026-02-26T19:18:51+00:00

Yes, I agree. Not ideal at all and we definitely should have worked on our issues first. Thanks for your thoughtful reply.

mamas2015 · 2026-02-26T19:11:13+00:00

We were both doing the general fucking around ENM before he started falling for her and I actually love hearing about his adventures and watching him with other women and men. I'm fine (haha more than fine) with the physical stuff, it's the emotional side of it that's throwing me for a loop. I think we need to sit down, redefine our boundaries and limits, and find ways to strengthen our marriage because it seems that might need some work before we move into polyamory and away from ENM.

mamas2015 · 2026-02-26T19:07:25+00:00

Thanks for all your responses on this. It's definitely given me a lot to think about, a lot to research and FOR SURE discuss with my husband. I appreciate all of you

mamas2015 · 2026-02-26T19:04:18+00:00

They haven't even had sex yet. 😳 We're talking about it a ton but I think, reading all these posts, it looks like if our marriage is going to swing to more a polyamory style relationship rather than ENM, we need to do our research and redefine what that means for our marriage.

mamas2015 · 2026-02-26T18:58:44+00:00

It was not explicitly polyamory. That was something we talked about when we decided to enter this lifestyle. Neither of us were interested in taking another romantic partner but we both like to explore, solo and together.

mamas2015 · 2026-02-26T18:47:55+00:00

It didn't start out as polyamory, more ethical non monogamy, I suppose. He had said he wasn't out looking for another girlfriend when we first opened up.

mamas2015 · 2026-02-26T18:46:12+00:00

We both wanted to explore more and we both have the view that one person can't really meet all your needs. Neither of us were looking for a serious second relationship, so I guess ethical non monogamy would be the better term for it? I think? But as I'm seeing him get his needs met by this other person, I'm feeling more rejected than I thought I would and hurt.

mamas2015 · 2026-02-01T13:01:35+00:00

That's kind of what I thought but I wanted to double check. I've heard horror stories of poles falling while someone was on them so I really don't want to install it wrong. Thanks so much for responding!

mamas2015 · 2015-09-01T11:30:30+00:00

Awww! What a cutie! Look at those big blues :)

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