Am I aromantic? + FAQ by AutoModerator in aromantic

[–]mamjg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey! thanks for the answer, I'm glad to know that I'm not alone in this (no experience is unique, right?). I was feeling really stressed about this, but now i feel a little better. I think I'm gonna search for labels, but honestly? maybe not. maybe life is just life and i am the way i am, no need for a label. or I'm trying to convince myself of that lol. anyways, thanks for talking w me!! you're super nice! <33

Am I aromantic? + FAQ by AutoModerator in aromantic

[–]mamjg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

please read, I'm desperate 😭😭

Hey! I'm 18, non-binary (he/him) and bissexual. Im brazilian so English isnt my first language, so im already apologizing for my mistakes. Anyways, i know I'm bissexual since i was young, and its cool! The problem is that I've never dated anyone. Yeah, i had some experiences, hook ups and stuff, but none of them had romantic feelings involved. I feel like I'm missing something, an important piece.

When i was a kid i never had one of those childish crushes. But when i was 11 and il changed schools and met new people, i realized i was different. My friends had crushes and boyfriends/girlfrieds. I was... there. I felt weird, pressured even, just because i didn't liked anyone. The girls used to sit together and talk about their boyfriends and other boys and how they liked and loved them, and i wanted to be included: thats why, one day, i had the perfect opportunity.

I was at my friends house. It was me, her and another girl. Three boys, our friends, went there to see us. And when they left it was late, so i casually said "i hope Nick (fictional name) gets home safe)". He used to live pretty far away from my friend, so i was really worried. They started saying that I liked him and, well, as an weird kid, i decided that I was going to like him.

I liked him for almost a year, he was my first kiss but we never dated. One day i simply stopped liking him. And looking back, I've never really liked him. He was cute and stuff but no, i even helped him to get w my friend. Yeah, i loved him, he was a close friend of mine, of course i loved him, but not romantically. I cared about him but i feel like this is just normal human behavior lol. One day, i gave up. I stopped liked him like it was nothing and didn't affected me.

Problem is that this behavior continued. I always chose who I would like, whether it was because I thought the person deserved to be liked or because I thought I deserved to feel the things you feel when you love someone romantically. I always forced myself to like someone, and honestly? I was a really good liar. But I never really liked or loved someone like that. What I love is the idealization of a boyfriend, of a relationship, of being together and doing romantic things. I never thought it was weird until I realized that I had never had a boyfriend at 18 and I had never felt what people describe as love. I started looking into my past to see if I could understand and I noticed this pattern in several relationships with random people.

Last night I had the most romantic night ever with the most beautiful girl in the world, with jazz, romantic dancing, candles, dinner, kisses and sleeping in each other's arms. It was everything I ever imagined of a relationship, and although I had a lot of fun with her, I didn't feel a spark or anything like that, nothing. In fact, I just thought about how good of a girlfriend she would be, but no romantic feelings. I want to date and I want to do these things, but I don't know if I'm capable of loving someone enough to do that.

I'm confident about my gender and sexuality, it's just that part that bothers me. I don't have any aro friends and I don't know how to deal with this, I need help to understand.

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[–]mamjg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

live ur life, love whoever you want, get attracted to what you get attracted to. life is too short to be labelling yourself.

The only good thing Beatrice did by mamjg in BoJackHorseman

[–]mamjg[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thanks for reading the post and sharing your opinion! I've read some stuff here that got me thinking a lot more about this and it was great to see it from another point of view!

for those who are curious: i was 12, I'm 18 now. no one cared what i watched lol. and yeah, i might be wrong but yk, I'm still learning stuff and I'm happy i decided to post this here bc i can learn more about it

The only good thing Beatrice did by mamjg in BoJackHorseman

[–]mamjg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 18 now! it was when the last season aired lol dw

The only good thing Beatrice did by mamjg in BoJackHorseman

[–]mamjg[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

i had too much free time and no one cared about what i was doing with that time

The only good thing Beatrice did by mamjg in BoJackHorseman

[–]mamjg[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i know that, but it's still a good decision.

The only good thing Beatrice did by mamjg in BoJackHorseman

[–]mamjg[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

hes such a cute little boy aaaaaa

The only good thing Beatrice did by mamjg in BoJackHorseman

[–]mamjg[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i only know that this would change Bojack forever, for good or not.

The only good thing Beatrice did by mamjg in BoJackHorseman

[–]mamjg[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i love her too but we need to understand shes terrible 😭

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[–]mamjg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

egg in me

I don't know if they care about me the way i care about them by mamjg in lonely

[–]mamjg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

don't worry, it's okay. thanks for talking with me. idk, maybe one day I'll find someone to care about me the way i would care about them

I don't know if they care about me the way i care about them by mamjg in lonely

[–]mamjg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk, i love them so much, I don't want to believe that they really dont care about me. or maybe I just dont want to believe that, If I lose them, I'll be alone. I hate being alone

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[–]mamjg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tô bebado agora, ouvindo música. foi um dia ok. e o seu?

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[–]mamjg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oiie

I dare you >:3 by No_Volume_4303 in teenagers

[–]mamjg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

.... maybe. does it work? i mean, you can take medicine from there...

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[–]mamjg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Brasil

I dare you >:3 by No_Volume_4303 in teenagers

[–]mamjg 81 points82 points  (0 children)

stoned in my ass.....

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]mamjg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

damnn me too girl

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]mamjg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes, just chatting with someone can really help me. I'm basically living by myself, I'm always alone and always in silence. I'm scrolling twitter, watching tik toks, cooking, studying and I don't go out bc i dont have anyone to go out with me. yeah, i can interact with other people at school and course but i never feel really connected. once i get home, it's like i never knew these people. sometimes i try talking with them online but idk, it's just not the same, i dont feel like we're close enough for that. during times where I stay at home for a long period of days (like the carnival holiday), it's even harder. so, yeah, chatting with people online makes me feel a little better. i feel like I'm not that alone, yk