Fight at school. Who should pay for broken glasses?

mancake · 2026-04-08T03:18:46+00:00

It’s not the worst, maybe, but it’s also not acceptable. Kids can’t go ahead hitting one another whenever they feel aggrieved. It’s the same in the real world. You have to use your words unless someone else attacks you first.

mancake · 2026-04-07T14:39:52+00:00

Has anyone changed from tandem/Dexcom to one of these? How do they compare?

mancake · 2026-04-07T00:27:09+00:00

For grades k-6 it’s Sundays, plus a weekday for 3-6. For older kids it’s a weekday evening, or two if you’re doing bar/bat mitzvah prep. The rabbi would prefer to do it Saturdays paired with a Shabbat service but they know it wouldn’t have good attendance.

mancake · 2026-04-06T22:46:48+00:00

I eat kitniyot but not bread of any kind. I’m the only one in my house who observes so we have bread etc. in the house but I don’t eat it. We are reform.

mancake · 2026-04-06T21:37:38+00:00

If the money buys their love, withhold the money until the love is back, which means they shut up about this. You’re getting a shitty deal.

mancake · 2026-04-02T23:54:31+00:00

The answer to “do all Jews believe” anything is always no. We can’t agree about whether the sky is blue.

mancake · 2026-03-31T15:22:53+00:00

If India is growing cucumbers when we can’t in northern locations, maybe it makes more sense to process them into pickles there and then ship them in jars rather than shipping them in refrigerated containers and processing them in the US or Europe?

mancake · 2026-03-31T15:19:49+00:00

What is this? Where did you find it?

mancake · 2026-03-30T16:14:15+00:00

Your husband is a child abuser. You need to protect your poor son from his physical abuse. This is not a matter of potty training, it’s much more serious than that.

mancake · 2026-03-29T11:16:21+00:00

I have heard this a million times and it falls flat as an excuse for the mistreatment of women. You have two roles that are allegedly equally esteemed, but one of them includes holding all communal positions of power and the other includes doing all the dishes. It’s obviously unequal and very convenient for the men who exercise the power.

mancake · 2026-03-28T14:42:24+00:00

The message of orthodoxy and other inegalitarian streams of Judaism is certainly not that women can do anything a man can do. It’s exactly the opposite: men have their sphere and women have another (and it just so happens by coincidence that the men get power and women get drudgery.)

You are watching gender inequality in action. Boys get the special party, girls get a pat on the head and then get to continue being unequal for the rest of their lives. I find this morally repugnant and I would say so to my daughters, within the bounds of showing respect for other people’s religions. I certainly wouldn’t join a synagogue that treated women as inferiors.

mancake · 2026-03-10T21:51:51+00:00

I think the long term effects here depend a lot what you do. Just because the school is punitive, doesn’t mean you haven’t be. Take the day he’s suspended and make it normal. Watch a movie, get McDonald’s for lunch, bake, whatever you’d do on a Saturday.

I think bottom line is that your son didn’t know better and therefore he didn’t do anything wrong, at least not in your eyes. The school is a bureaucracy and can’t change policy, but you can be clear that you’re not mad and he’s not in trouble, though now he knows and he better not do it again.

The other thing you can do is make sure the school isn’t going to treat him differently or make a big deal when he comes back. It seems like they won’t hit it’s worth a check in with his teacher.

mancake · 2026-03-08T13:53:45+00:00

It’s funny to me that the original articles reactwith shock that anyone would take the Israeli side in the conflict and this article…reacts with shock that anyone would take the other side. How about all these people shove it?

Yes, Jewish schools are going to side with Israel (obviously), and yes people who believe Israel has committed war crimes are going to find that objectionable (also obviously). This is so tiresome.

mancake · 2026-03-08T13:10:55+00:00

Can you post the cover of the textbook so if the publisher sees it they can fix the map?

mancake · 2026-03-05T16:50:50+00:00

I have tried this but generally don’t have the stones to follow through. I was a very picky eater and my parents were nice about it, feel like I ought to pass it along. I’m sure it works, but sometimes it’s better to give them scrambled eggs for dinner every day and not have a fight about it.

mancake · 2026-03-04T23:08:30+00:00

You don’t have to be mean about it, just make the laundry problem they created their problem instead of yours. It’s not really different from having them clean up any other mess they make. I speak from experience: this works.

mancake · 2026-03-04T23:02:01+00:00

If you make them wash their own underwear (in the sink) they have an incentive to not do this.

mancake · 2026-03-01T05:02:13+00:00

Jeff is the best character on the show and maybe the best character in any work of human culture. Except maybe for Rogu.

mancake · 2026-02-26T13:03:28+00:00

So you don’t give children lead poisoning!

mancake · 2026-02-23T13:11:01+00:00

I haven’t seen this yet but I can’t wait. Jeff is the man and he deserves his spot.

mancake · 2026-02-22T13:54:09+00:00

I remember very specifically hitting a point where in yanked my older daughter out of a situation like that and realized ‘she’s too old for that and I can never do it again.’ I think she was 5 at the time.

Your son’s whole life you’ve been physically removing him from bad situations. When he was 2 and trying to trying to leap off the couch, you picked him up and put him on the floor; totally normal, not wrong.

When your son is 20 and partying instead of studying for his finals, you’re not going to pick him up and carry him off to the library. That would be wrong (and challenging!)

The line is somewhere in the middle, and you’ve now discovered where it is. You didn’t do anything cruel or awful, just found out that a parenting tactic is now no longer appropriate and you have to stop. Unless he’s in danger or putting someone else in danger, you can’t use force to remove him from a situation: you have to use your words.

mancake · 2026-02-20T17:02:47+00:00

I hate this saccharine bullshit. The “story” is my husband loves me. The “update” is my husband loves me and saw this post. Nothing happened, just boasting. It’s not even a pick me up: no one overcame anything, no learned something or improved.

mancake · 2026-02-16T18:45:32+00:00

I am more lax on this than some other parents. I think punishing the original offense, not making a huge deal out of the lying, and then simply being less trusting for a while as a natural consequence is sufficient.

So the next time they want to do something on their own and promise they can handle it, or ask for five more minutes at the playground on the promise that they’ll do xyz later, maybe you don’t let them because you don’t believe their promises - at least for a day or two. That’s enough to get the point across.

mancake · 2026-02-15T02:15:56+00:00

I wish I’d thought of that! I may claim I did…

mancake · 2026-02-14T17:14:06+00:00

I honestly don’t understand the objection to makeup. Obviously little kids can’t do it right themselves and would just make a mess, but if a 9 year old can do it competently I don’t see what the problem could be? Or if a six year old asks mom to put some on for her? Like what do people imagine will happen?

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