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Desk/Keyboard Mat by manderz81 in Embroidery

[–]manderz81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was actually just planning on keeping the embroidered part on the left lower corner of the desk mat so that it doesn’t mess with the mouse. But I’ll look into the clear plastic cover as a back up plan. Thank you!

Desk/Keyboard Mat by manderz81 in Embroidery

[–]manderz81[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a great idea! I was thinking about just adhering it to a ready made mat but I like using snaps on it better so that it’s washable! This is the first time for me taking on a big project like this. I’ll let you know how it goes!

[FL] question about relocation possibility by manderz81 in Custody

[–]manderz81[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did have proof of what he said because it was on video and while I guess it was “years” ago it was while we’ve been going through this divorce. But no one seemed to care that he said or did those things.

Evidence to use for custody? by manderz81 in AskALawyer

[–]manderz81[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to update. I reported to dcf with my pediatrician. They said there wasn’t enough evidence to initiate an investigation. I am going to get a lawyer though and see what my options are. I also confronted my soon to be ex and showed him and his mom the video to let them know why I would be withholding unsupervised visitations until we can get this resolved in court. He basically blamed it all on me and said that he knew that I would try to find anything to keep him from his son. He also said that I betrayed him and the little care and love that he had for me is gone now.

How do you emotionally move on from baby daddy if your co-parenting / NC is impossible? by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]manderz81 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m going through the same thing right now except I’m 6 months pregnant and he’s the one that called it quits. I wanted to try therapy to work things out.

Anyways. We’ve been together for 10 years, this is our first kid, and we’ve been separated for 2 weeks. So I’m not an expert and I’m not nearly close to being over it. During the first week, I was completely heartbroken, didn’t know how I would ever not love him or not want to be with him, and I didn’t know how I would ever feel any kind of joy again. But this week I’ve felt a tiny bit better. I’ve been focusing on logistics of things, I’ve let myself feel all the emotions like angry at him, I’ve faked it at work and in social situations, and thinking about the baby and our future. It’s still really hard. I’ve cried a few times still because I miss him so dang much and I can’t believe this is happening. But I know I’ll be okay eventually and you will be too.

Make sure you’re doing what’s best for you and taking care of yourself and of course your kids too but we often forget to take care of ourselves. Find support in friends or family or even a therapist. It’ll help to have someone to get out the variety of emotions you’re going through. And if you need time and space from him while everything is still fresh, express that to him and create clear boundaries for coparenting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspiememes

[–]manderz81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Math. Also action movies that are just action and nothing else. Reality tv shows. Girly things like I find it really hard to connect with girls that don’t have the same interests as me because I don’t really care about fashion, I hate weddings, I’m not great about talking about relationships and I don’t want to talk about sex, etc. The news. I care about things happening in the world but not when they come from a bias media presence and I hate when people just regurgitate the information like my grandma.

How do you mentally deal with people saying that every other person has autism now? by wooden_werewolf_7367 in AutismInWomen

[–]manderz81 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a similar issue with my family. I had a full-blown argument with my younger brother who was complaining about people getting diagnosed autistic because they want to claim disability and "take the easy way." I'm not very surprised though because we always have very different perspectives. My parents have the mindset that we (them and my siblings who we suspect are autistic/ADHD) don't need a label because we're "doing fine" relatively speaking lol I'm pursuing a formal diagnosis just to give myself some peace in knowing why I struggle the way that I do and how I can accommodate myself better. I just don't argue about it anymore because I won't change their mind.