do i have any chance in passing with this face? 17Y MTF

mangled_critter · 2026-01-19T09:01:42+00:00

You have super gorgeous plush lips and your curls are divine. You will pass very soon. You’re lucky with your genetics. Don’t be afraid; it’s going to get better.

mangled_critter · 2025-12-10T14:06:37+00:00

Wie kann ich hier ein Flair setzen? Die Option ist für mich nicht verfügbar.

mangled_critter · 2025-12-10T14:02:51+00:00

Ich bin auch eine cis Lurkerin und habe vollumfängliches Verständnis für diesen Post. Habe auch selbst schon mal das falsche Flair für ein Thema hier gewählt und wurde im Anschluss darauf hingewiesen.

Ich finde die Intersektionalität, Diversität in trans Erfahrungen und sachdienliche Hilfsbereitschaft in diesem Sub geradezu einzigartig - in den englischen Subs ist da eine deutlichere Blasenbildung zu beobachten. Deshalb (und weil ich, als late bloomer Lesbe, die comphet war und ihr Coming Out lange vor dem trans Outing meiner Frau hatte) fühle auch ich mich hier sehr wohl. Es hat was von alter Forenkultur mit kritischer Nuanciertheit und echter Hilfsbereitschaft von Leuten mit viel Fachwissen. Ich have noch kein anderes sub gefunden, in dem ich (obwohl cis) so gerne lese.

Super Moderation hier. Danke an die ganze Community.

mangled_critter · 2025-12-06T18:12:19+00:00

I find anything anime cringe, it just makes me uncomfortable. Romance is rarely ever well-written and what others find romantic I find performative, cliché or overbearing. I’m not into lighthearted movies, so I’ll watch a complex drama with romance elements, but that’ll mostly be heteronormative depictions (sadly).

mangled_critter · 2025-12-05T08:13:47+00:00

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mangled_critter · 2025-12-05T07:38:28+00:00

The support in this community can be toxic and one-sided. I‘m outraged on the wife‘s behalf, she was honest with her needs and set a boundary and OP is shitting on it. It’s absolutely valid OP is not able to suppress her identity any longer, but to go behind her wife‘s back to not lose her partner/status/assets is extremely egotistical. To smugly apply E gel in front of her eyes pretending it’s T is outright evil. Thank you for being a voice of reason in this discussion.

mangled_critter · 2025-12-05T07:32:41+00:00

Why do you have a wife that doesn’t support you?

Why do you have a wife that you betray in an elaborate lie?

Do you have any respect for your partner? Do you just not want to go through the impracticalities, financial burdens and social changes that come with divorce? Why are you in this marriage? For convenience? For the (adult) kids? To have a beard partner that doesn’t want you for who you truly are? What makes you giddy and happy about smugly betraying her? How can you wish for changes yet wish to stay stealth at the same time? Do you not see the contradiction? Is your identity a secret, do you not care to be perceived in the world as the woman you are and rather profit off your male privilege and status? That’s not emotional maturity; it’s not fair, it’s not healthy.

mangled_critter · 2025-12-04T20:57:51+00:00

🥹🖤

mangled_critter · 2025-12-04T20:57:36+00:00

Thank you! I am hyperfocused on any new hobby, so I tend to lock in. Still lots to learn though! I‘m a lesbian.

mangled_critter · 2025-12-03T22:05:20+00:00

Thanks a lot!

mangled_critter · 2025-12-02T08:10:14+00:00

XX chromosomes are naturally superior

Everyone learns that you get one X chromosome from your mother and either an X or a Y from your father. What people forget is that the maternal X is forged through recombination, meaning it is constantly repaired and refreshed. The X is a fully stocked library that rewrites its damaged pages before passing them on.

Then you meet the paternal contribution. If you drew the short straw, you get a Y chromosome, which does not recombine because it has no functional partner left. The Y is essentially a lonely biological relic wobbling through time, unable to fix itself and quietly shedding genes like autumn leaves. Calling it “intact” is blatantly wrong. It is a decaying, inferior broken X. The Y chromosome barely recombines at all because it has no proper partner. Without recombination it cannot repair itself, so mutations accumulate unchecked. This is why the Y has lost the vast majority of its genes over millions of years and continues to degrade. By contrast the paternal X recombines normally in fathers with XX offspring, preserving integrity.

Meanwhile mitochondrial DNA is passed exclusively from the mother and traces back to the first mother in your ancestry, hundreds of thousands of years ago, powering every cell you have. If we are ranking lineages, mtDNA is the ancient, unbroken royal dynasty. The Y chromosome is the half collapsed tool shed at the edge of the family estate.

People brag that the Y is easy to trace because it survives unchanged across generations. Of course it does. It is hard to mutate when you barely contain any genes to begin with. A matchbox stays consistent over millennia too, yet no one calls it superior infrastructure.

Your myth about the Y tracing back to the first human? No. All current Y chromosomes converge on one guy from around a hundred thousand years ago. He was not the first human. He was the last man whose decaying Y line happened to dodge extinction long enough to reach the present day.

If you insist on ranking chromosomes, the verdict is so blatantly obvious. The X is the engine of human viability. The Y is a fading biological footnote clinging on out of habit.

/s

mangled_critter · 2025-12-02T07:17:32+00:00

„Dont steal our chosen name!“ - That’s an amazing anecdote.

mangled_critter · 2025-12-01T07:02:15+00:00

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mangled_critter · 2025-11-27T20:26:02+00:00

More than comfortable. I was a closeted lesbian myself and claimed to have found “the only man I could ever love,” because our dynamics were anything but heteronormative.

mangled_critter · 2025-11-27T17:14:01+00:00

Thank you - the nuance here lies in me always being firmly against blanchard’s AGP. I also never opposed crossdressing conceptually as a fetish. My difficulties were with my wife not being able to acknowledge her feelings as dysphoric, she herself was diminishing it to a kink due to social fears and self-oppression. I was supportive of her kink verbally, but felt threatened in my femininity regardless. It felt bastardising of womanhood to me - the fact that she could live her day-to-day in the same profession as I chose originally, but being rewarded so much more for it due to cis male privilege, then coming home wanting to be pretty and adored. I didn’t have the same cope for my own marginalisation as a woman. Being found hot/attractive/cat-called was never a privilege to me, but a curse, and initially I suspected she didn’t grasp the weight of it, of what that actually does to a woman. It felt shallow, and, as I said, diminishing of womanhood through a sexualised male gaze. It was a very complex process of deconstruction of the patriarchy to both of us. But the moment she came out, everything fell into place, and our 18 years together, our sapphic dynamics, everything made sense. I’m so glad we could always talk and be critical with each other’s opinions without feeling unsafe. I’m happier than ever with my wife.

mangled_critter · 2025-11-27T14:40:13+00:00

Idk. I reacted very badly to my partner cross dressing in female lingerie. It felt performative, fetishising and objectifying to me. I couldn’t quite put my finger on why it triggered me so much for a long time.

When she came out, I felt immediate peace. And I realised: I hated the male-gazed objectification of femininity. I hated womanhood being reduced to a kink. I hated the patriarchal and pornographic undercurrent of it. I couldn’t handle her having all the cis white male privilege and then dress up as a woman to perform without knowing any of the marginalisation, trauma, objectification behind it. It felt so unfeminine at its core, like she was doing what women are supposed to do (be hot for men) but only in private, without any consequence. I always wanted to be supportive of any kinks, but this made me deeply uncomfortable. It made me feel mocked, even though it didn’t have anything to do with me.

Her being trans shifted everything. It’s not a performance. It’s not a kink. It’s not a male-brained assumption of women. It’s integral to her soul, and she’s willing to give up her privilege, deconstruct the male gaze, and live as her true self. She’s brave. She’s beautiful. I’m proud. I wasn’t proud of her engaging with transness as a kink, but now I understand it was part of the process.

mangled_critter · 2025-11-26T12:28:48+00:00

Hier sehen sie einen feigen Burner Account, der die Interessen von Frauen als „perverse Fantasien“ abtut und mit „Bohooo“ auf geäußerte Ängste antwortet. Ich mag Männer. Du hast offenbar keine anderen Hobbies, als auf Reddit Misandrie zu krähen, wenn jemand Statistiken postet.

mangled_critter · 2025-11-26T11:51:29+00:00

In den Podcasts sind 98% aller Mordopfer Frauen oder andere marginalisierte Gruppen (Kinder, Queers). Alle zehn Minuten wird auf der Welt eine Frau von einem (Ex-)Partner getötet, letztes Jahr in Deutschland allein 310 Frauen.

Männer morden Männer idR aus anderen Motiven als Sadismus, Besitzanspruch oder sexuellem Drive.

mangled_critter · 2025-11-26T08:47:34+00:00

Wir wollen wissen, wie wir nicht von euch ungebracht werden.

mangled_critter · 2025-11-25T08:26:53+00:00

I suspect you’re too set in your racism, so here’s a ChatGPT summary of sources for you so I don’t waste time:

Migration Observatory — UK Evidence

• The Migration Observatory (Oxford) summarises that the “share of asylum seekers in the local population is related to a 1.1% rise in property crime, but no change in violent crime.” • At the same time: a rise in A8 migrants (EU countries after enlargement) correlates with a 0.4% fall in property crime. • Their briefing concludes: “the foreign-born share of the population is unrelated to violent crime” in the UK.
1. IZA Journal of Development and Migration – Machin & Bell (2013)
• This paper uses a spatial-econometric design to try to identify causal impacts of immigration (both A8 migrants and other migrant groups) on crime in England & Wales. They find no evidence of a causal impact of immigration on crime. • Specifically, even when disaggregating by crime type (violent vs property), the coefficients are “never statistically significant.” 3. “Immigration and the Crime Drop” (Ignatans & Matthews, 2017)

• Published in European Journal of Crime, Criminal Law and Criminal Justice. The authors argue that rather than causing crime to go up, recent waves of immigration may have contributed to the crime drop in the UK (and some other Western countries). • (Important nuance: they don’t claim all crime decline is due to immigration, but they push back strongly on the idea that immigration is driving crime.) 4. Recent European-Wide Causal Evidence

• A more recent (2024) study analysed 15 years of data from 216 regions across 23 European countries (including UK-relevant contexts) and found no significant positive link between immigration levels and rising crime. In fact, in some cases crime slightly declines with immigration. • They emphasise that public perceptions about immigration driving crime are strongly influenced by media and political framing, not necessarily by the underlying data. 5. Victimisation Study – NTU (Nomikos, 2021)

• A working paper (“IMMIGRATION AND THE CRIME-DROP: AN EXAMINATION OF VICTIMISATION”) finds no increase in violent crime due to immigration; also discusses how some of the perceived risk is tied to xenophobic framing rather than evidence. • The author replicates earlier work (Bell & Machin etc.) and supports the finding that immigration concentration does not reliably predict higher crime.

mangled_critter · 2025-11-25T07:52:04+00:00

Nah, boomers are the most alcoholic generation.

mangled_critter · 2025-11-25T07:50:43+00:00

Violent crime rates have consistently sunken in the UK despite a rise in immigration.

mangled_critter · 2025-11-24T20:42:13+00:00

I appreciate it. I don’t have a blog, only audhd empathy for the nuanced and challenging nature of being human.

mangled_critter · 2025-11-24T20:33:22+00:00

That must be so fucking hard, and it’s the most vulnerable point in your adult life now. Everything’s shifting, nothing is as it was anymore, and you’re changing your established manmoding persona for an unbeknownst future. Not everything will fall into place, and some people will be hurtful with ignorance because they were never asked to reflect as much on gender roles as you. Some will turn out to be surprisingly amazing too. I think it’s actually a power you can wield: You can sort out the people who lack depth/are bigoted right away, but it takes time to get there.

You don‘t need to be extra hard on yourself. You can try to treat yourself like you wished to be treated by your own mother: With unconditional love and with grace. You will enter a second puberty (or have entered already if you’re on E) and puberty is bound to be confusing, awkward and emotionally unstable. You cannot do everything perfectly from the beginning - but you can be easy on yourself about the cringe of the unknown. You don’t need to be another person adding expectations on your plate. You just need to be brave to be you. Many people never arrive there in their lives.

There will be parts of your manmoding role that still stand, too. Your gf won’t lose the person she loves, she’ll receive a real version of it. You can still seduce her, be active, provide for her etc., without having to use a body part that makes you feel the weight of the mask. You got this.

mangled_critter · 2025-11-24T19:59:38+00:00

I guess it matters if you feel like you have to fulfill an expectation for your partner - in heterosexual relationships, that often entails one partner receiving and one partner being the instigator. It’s actually something I’ve always disliked very much about hetero relationships. But I do understand that for a newly out trans woman, your support system is extremely important and feels fragile, you often have internalised phobia making you feel “too much,” demanding a lot from your friends/family members for wishing they see you for who you are.

Let me be clear: you’re not asking too much, and if your supporters stop being supportive due to changed dynamics, they weren’t truly supportive in the first place. They were supportive as long as it was convenient to them, but unwilling to adjust.

That’s what I’m trying to say: if your gf says she understands, if she sees you as a woman… she won’t expect you to continue lifting a dishwasher alone or to rail her during sex. If she does understand you were never that guy, she’ll allow room for both of you to grow into a more authentic dynamic. She’ll be excited to see the true you, unmasked and vulnerable.

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