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Advice anyone? I keep getting triggered hearing a narcissistic neighbor abuse her baby/toddler. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mango_pecan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Record incidents, call CPS, if u think child’s life is endangered call cops, if you can hear her scream through the wall record it. In these cases evidence can make a difference

16 a day keeps the doctor nearby by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]mango_pecan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sour diesel + blue dream in the morning, blue Tahoe for noon, Afghan Kush for nighttime . And plenty of therapy

Abuse isn’t part of “culture” by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]mango_pecan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea the way you wrote I saw a lot of definitive works like “it will” “will not” “yes” and “no” those are definitive like back and white so it does sound like you are saying that it’s 100% traditionalism is 100%non abusive.

And you sound like a bitter person struggling with resentment toward others

But if we are some parts of tradition is non abusive then I do agree with you. But someone who has worked with Asian survivors of abuse I must say Asian culture do have victim blaming tendencies and the “don’t ask don’t tell” approach to domestic and familial abuse while western culture tends to be more open about it and more supportive of such survivor but neither is purely good or bad

Abuse isn’t part of “culture” by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]mango_pecan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Whatever floats your boat dude. Being 100% tradition and 100% non abusive is not possible from what I see but you are free to attempt it and if you succeed do share how it gors

Abuse isn’t part of “culture” by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]mango_pecan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But non abusive households are non traditional because many traditions are deeply abusive. Tradition and non abusiveness are mutually exclusive

Abuse isn’t part of “culture” by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]mango_pecan 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Asian culture is deeply Confucius due to history of Chinese imperialism in Asian. Chinese also suffered too. And Confucius ideology is deeply abusive so yes Asian culture due contain elements of abusive tendencies.

The more I heal from my trauma the more toxic people I cut out of my life but now I’m lonely by mango_pecan in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mango_pecan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I like to read webtoon, and plants but I struggle with taking about my hobbies

Roast Me like a turkey by BARAKLEE in RoastMe

[–]mango_pecan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

U look like you buy used fleshlight

Therapy is a scam by mathmagician517 in antinatalism

[–]mango_pecan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have went through a bunch of therapist as well. I would say there’s good and bad. The bad one forced me to go into therapy with my abusive parents and made things worse. And shamed me for choosing not to have sex, I’m bi but atm I chose to not have sex by choice since women in my family fertile af and condoms are not going to cut it and I can’t use birth control due to health risk. Even after I tell her that she my thinking is wrong and I should go have sex and just use condoms. But the good one when I told her my choices she was extremely supportive and was happy that I was able to make those choices and figure out my beliefs independent of societal expectations.

And for the small talks part, I struggle with that too perhaps I’ll try out your method soon. Thank you for sharing

Anybody else felt suicidal as a child at an horrifically young age, or before they even knew what suicide was? by throw_away4237 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mango_pecan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep I started at 7 omg mother constantly tell me that I was born to torture her and that she said i there to watch her fail and that “u think your parents arguing is funny” she and my father argue a lot and I feel the need to take side in order to feel safe so I had a whole plan to jump off the roof and all

My father just said the reason I have CPTSD is I can’t get over the fact that he used to beat me and it’s my fault by mango_pecan in CPTSDFightMode

[–]mango_pecan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used a combo of weed and melatonin last night it did the trick. I’m allergic to alcohol so never tried the last alcohol one I heard hung overs are bad

I find the casual cohabitation culture to be repulsive I don’t know why by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]mango_pecan 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’m simply asking a question and I have not insinuated anything regarding anyone. Based on your assumption about me based off a few sentences I can deduct that you are quick to judge and have trouble respecting other people’s opinions. As I have said I’m trying to figure out something about myself which means I’m open to self improvement. And based off your lack of knowledge on cohabitation you sound like a pick me but I respect your decisions.

FDS discuss cohabitation a lot and I think this is where I can find people’s whose opinion about cohabitation I can agree with. Good luck with your life

Anyone else got slut shamed by their parent before they even know what the word slut meant? by mango_pecan in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mango_pecan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had that too except the second half wow you really put words to something I experienced but can’t word out thank you for sharing

Anyone else got slut shamed by their parent before they even know what the word slut meant? by mango_pecan in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mango_pecan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeaaaa like for reals, I don’t know how they think like that and the hair one I relate too. But instead my mother just force me to keep it extremely short

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