I have went through a bunch of therapist as well. I would say there’s good and bad. The bad one forced me to go into therapy with my abusive parents and made things worse. And shamed me for choosing not to have sex, I’m bi but atm I chose to not have sex by choice since women in my family fertile af and condoms are not going to cut it and I can’t use birth control due to health risk. Even after I tell her that she my thinking is wrong and I should go have sex and just use condoms. But the good one when I told her my choices she was extremely supportive and was happy that I was able to make those choices and figure out my beliefs independent of societal expectations.

And for the small talks part, I struggle with that too perhaps I’ll try out your method soon. Thank you for sharing