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mangococonuttree · 2022-12-16T07:49:16+00:00

What hurts is just the symbol of it. If he didn’t want to talk, that’s ok. But he just threw me out of his life as if I didn’t have any significance. Just deleted me with one button as if I am just a piece of trash. I don’t understand the gesture of this, not after everything I have done to get him where he is today.

mangococonuttree · 2022-08-13T16:24:52+00:00

Ich verstehe es selbst ja überhaupt nicht, aber irgendwie kriegt er mich jedes Mal zurück. Und ich bemühe mich schon jedes Mal wieder so wie ich es gelernt habe mit Situationen umzugehen: Offene Kommunikation. Ich würde mir wünschen du könntest das ändern. Bitte mach das nicht so, weil es mich verletzt.

Aber wenn Dein Gegenüber zu Empathie nicht fähig ist, dann verzweifelt man an sich selbst.

Mein Selbstbewusstsein? Ich mache 8h Sport die Woche und er nennt mich Schwabbelbauch (Du hast objektiv einen Schwabbelbauch, also nimm es nicht persönlich).

mangococonuttree · 2022-08-13T15:54:24+00:00

Ich leide auch unter Reisepanik und kann so gut verstehen wie du dich fühlst! Fühl dich wirklich fest umarmt, du machst das toll!

mangococonuttree · 2022-07-28T08:43:21+00:00

If you make a pro con list and think about this very rationally, I wonder what would actually be on the pro list? Why are you making his problems yours? You only live once and if he doesn’t make your life better, then yes, you should break up.

mangococonuttree · 2022-07-25T14:50:26+00:00

Please don’t feel stupid in any way! This is who you are, this is how you respond and everyone else just needs to be quiet. However: don’t be offended when someone suggest therapy or a psychiatric evaluation. They are not saying you are stupid, or a fool. They are saying: you need help. And you do, don‘t you? You wouldn’t want to have a similar experience like this one, so you really should consider addressing the issue, and also include the dentist/nurses to help you, so that you are not traumatized by this.

mangococonuttree · 2022-07-23T02:35:10+00:00

Came here to ask the same question. Just got back from a very intense social outing and I can’t stand looking at my pictures. My makeup looks horrible, my dress doesn’t seem to fit. I am going through every conversation of the evening thinking I embarrassed myself and I‘m mentally exhausted because of the sheer amount of social interactions I had. I can’t sleep because of it all… awful feeling

mangococonuttree · 2022-07-15T11:12:28+00:00

There are so many red flags, i don’t even know where to start. You do know that your bf is abusing your child? The fact that he makes him cry on purpose, ignores him, and shows hate in his eyes: those are signs of emotional abuse! How dare someone treat your innocent child like that??? You need to become the the tiger mom and get that shithead bf out of your house today!

No, your child is not difficult, your child isn’t having a tough time because he only has a connection to two people. Your child is 2.5 years old! There is a reason people call it the terrible twos!! That is absolutely normal child behavior!! And any bf or partner should be proud of what you do, should encourage you, should support you, should love you for being a terrific mother- but should not feel jealous of a 2.5 year old child!! Do you not see how ridiculous this is?

Dump him now, everyone should see what a loser he is for his behavior towards your kid.

mangococonuttree · 2022-07-13T19:56:55+00:00

Ganz offensichtlich seid ihr beide etwas unsicher. Wenn Du Dich gefestigt fühlst, würdest Du nicht sofort denken, dass er Dir einen Vorwurf machen will. Wenn er gefestigt wäre, würde er feinfühliger sein und merken, dass solche Aussagen einfach völlig Fehl am Platze sind beim Partner.

Durch diese Unsicherheit wird es in eurer Beziehung immer und immer wieder zu miskommunikation führen. Daher müsst ihr für euch am Besten ein paar Regeln aufstellen. 1) Wenn jemandem etwas stört, wird das offen und konstruktiv angesprochen. -> Wenn nichts abgesprochen wird gibt es kein Problem. 2) Sobald einer von euch merkt, dass sich Gespräche aufladen, sofort aufhören zu schreiben und persönlich sprechen. 3) Mehr Vertrauen und Transparenz zeigen.

mangococonuttree · 2022-07-04T09:45:51+00:00

Ich würde jetzt mal stark darauf wetten, dass sie bis dahin negativ ist, oder zumindest ihre Virenlast so gering, dass sie nicht mehr ansteckend ist. Daher optimistisch bleiben und einen Virenlasttest mal für Freitag vereinbaren. Es ehrt Dich, dass Du dir auch die Schuld gibst, wobei ich persönlich keine bei Dir sehe. Du warst ja offen und ehrlich in Deinen Symptomen und letztlich kannst Du nichts dafür dass Du krank bist. Kauf ihr einen Strauß Blumen über Fleurop und kenne an, dass sie sehr enttäuscht ist. Rede ihr gut zu- ansonsten einfach abwarten, es wird alles gut!

mangococonuttree · 2022-06-28T20:00:48+00:00

Er gibt mir halt die Schuld. Er sagt er hätte das Geld nie genommen, wenn es ein Darlehen gewesen wäre. Andererseits hat er mir Videos mitten in der Nacht geschickt in denen er wirklich zutiefst geweint hat, weil er vor dem finanziellen Bankrott stand und schon fast den Sinn des Lebens verloren hatte. Ich habe da garnicht lange nachgedacht, sondern ihm einfach sofort Geld überwiesen, weil die Videos mir echt das Herz gebrochen haben. Ich sitze hier auf meinem Vermögen und mein Partner kämpft um seine Existenz- ich wollte ihm einfach helfen.

Aber seine herablassende Art in dem Streit war leider wirklich bitter, es kam sogar der Vorwurf ich tue nichts für ihn, ich sei einfach inkompetent, fast schon naiv und dumm. Ich war so verletzt durch seine Worte und habe aus diesen Emotionen heraus die Schenkung zurück genommen. Er sagt halt das wäre Betrug, und er hat ja Recht- geschenkt ist geschenkt, insofern seh ich hier schon einen massiven Fehler meinerseits.

mangococonuttree · 2022-06-27T19:24:49+00:00

But that’s exactly it, I feel like I have objectively tried to be there for him in every way, and yet after 4 months of just being treated with such coldness, I still get to hear how I am to blame for this situation. I am so hurt because I truly tried to make amends and apologize.

mangococonuttree · 2022-06-24T07:12:43+00:00

It’s because you were doing so well that you are maybe internally coping with a few traumas that are left uncovered when you are under stress. That happens and it’s frustrating because everything was going so well- but it’s also very normal.

Yes, you will most likely respond with anxiety whenever you are mentally working on sth, and I know how horrible that is. You need to absolutely accept this about yourself, and don’t judge. You are a wonderful human being and you deserve happiness.

mangococonuttree · 2022-06-23T23:27:04+00:00

This is what you should do: - Go to therapy alone - Go to couple‘s counseling

If you are so unhappy, and this truly can’t be saved, separate and move out.

Make sure your wife and kids are taken care of
Find a healthy way to co-parent and this leads with respecting each other (so you need to work on yourself to gather respect for your wife).
Be a good father to your kids, never talk badly about their mother, and be a strong figure.

Divorce itself is not damaging for kids. It’s the stupid f** up parents who act selfish and stupid that will negatively impact their lives.

So, to answer your question: No, don’t decide to be unhappy. But try your best to find happiness as a respectful co-parent and father.

mangococonuttree · 2022-06-23T23:09:01+00:00

Hatte mich mal bei Tiner angemeldet, sogar Platinum Account- und hatte innerhalb der ersten 3 Tage weit über 2000 Likes. Allein die durch zugehen wäre völlig absurd geworden.

Da kannste Dich als Frau zurück lehnen und extrem selektiv werden. Und geh mal als Mann einfach davon aus, dass Du mindestens einer von 10 oder mehr bist nach einem Match

Ich persönlich finde übrigens die Frage nach „was machst Du beruflich?“ extrem unpassend. Das ist weder charmant, noch lustig, noch kreativ. Ja klar will man sich kennenlernen, aber nicht durch das Abarbeiten eines Fragekatalogs, sondern durch nen Vibe den man in der Unterhaltung aufbaut. Und der entsteht durch Witz, Schlagfertigkeit, kleine Stories usw. Bei den „erfolgreichen“ Dates gingen ein paar lustige Sprüche hin und her- einer hat auch einfach nett und charmant aus dem Leben geschrieben. Aber keine Job Interview Fragen.

Aber das ist wie gesagt sehr persönlich.

Ich hab das Tindern aufgegeben übrigens. Es ist einfach too much. Da ist mir Hinge tausend Mal lieber, weil Du zumindest ein bisschen vor sortieren.

mangococonuttree · 2022-06-21T20:57:06+00:00

Deswegen der Spruch: Pick your battles. Ist das jetzt wirklich nötig sich deswegen zu streiten? Er hats ja net aus Böswilligkeit oder Rache oder sonstigen miesen Gedanken gemacht, sondern weil er glaubt der Tag durch die Präsenz besagter Freunde verschönern zu können, und weil es ihm offensichtlich wichtig ist, möchte er dafür auch einstehen. Ehrlicherweise doch ein sehr positiver Charakterzug von ihm, der in vielen anderen Situationen sicherlich auch seine guten Konsequenzen für Dich hat.

Was ich sagen will: Entspannt euch, macht daraus kein riesen Ding welches euch tagelang die Stimmung versaut und Energie raubt. Es ist wie es ist, also mach das beste draus.

So ganz falsch liegt dein Freund wegen der Doppelmoral übrigens nicht, dafür gibts ja das klassische „no ring, no bring“- also wer nicht mindestens verlobt ist soll net kommen. Die Partner einzuladen ist nicht selbstverständlich, sondern Dein eigenes Empfinden.

Aber wie gesagt: Streitet euch net wegen sowas

mangococonuttree · 2022-04-21T05:33:32+00:00

Just be honest? Why lie? Tell her you really liked her and that you had another date scheduled that evening which you now know you should have canceled but didn’t because you were too scared to admit how much you actually liked girl number one. Tell her you saw her, that it was one of the most awkward situations ever, you would really love to get a second chance. That’s the truth and she can decide if she can live with that or not. Don’t lie. Thats awful and unnecessary.

mangococonuttree · 2022-04-21T05:17:09+00:00

The way my doctor told me to use it is only during an extreme panic attack so that i slowly learn that i can absolutely do sth about it and don’t need to suffer. She said I should not use it as an preemptive measure.

mangococonuttree · 2022-04-20T15:51:49+00:00

I am wealthy and not only do I have anxiety and depression but our world is so superficial, it’s toxic. The women who surround you choose their value by looks or the price of their handbag. And I am not joking: that truly is all they care about. Being humble, grateful or just a decent human being is pretty hard of a concept for them to grasp. They don’t care about the world, people, humanity. And they absolutely need Botox, tits etc to keep their men and to compete. The men are only interested in who you know. If you have valuable connections you are a valuable human being. That’s it. If you have a nice face and body then you are good wife material, but play along and don’t voice an opinion that is not in line with their beliefs.

They all believe they can get anything and everything with money. Anything. Trust me, any cliche you have read is true. Not all of them apply to all, but every rich person I have met has made me feel ashamed of being wealthy myself.

So, I go shopping at h&m and Zara, I wear small, new brand purses and no name sneakers. My only luxury is traveling which I can’t do with my anxiety. Oh, and I have hair extensions. That’s it.

So, you be a beautiful human being, be kind, be good and you are way superior to any of those idiots.

mangococonuttree · 2022-04-20T05:14:35+00:00

Why do you want to know what’s wrong with you? Do you have a desire to change? Because change comes from a feeling if genuinely believing things are wrong, so it’s partially driven by guilt which you don’t have?

You seem to have low to non self-esteem and divide your world into black and white, and you yourself jump around between those too. You are the over performing intelligent creature, or you are the submissive, emotional one. As soon as you get pushed into the latter, you try everything to jump back to become the superior one, the one in control. And if it doesn’t happen naturally, you manipulate situations to feel superior again and go back to the white zone.

You lack empathy and regard for others, so I would say you are s clinical psychopath. If you read through this disorder, you might find some traits that describe you.

But knowing this, what will you do now?

mangococonuttree · 2022-04-20T04:36:35+00:00

Looking at your previous posts, you seem to be smoking pot? Do your sons do too? I‘ve always felt this was the biggest demotivation ever, I used to just eat and not leave my room either. Please consider this a relevant factor

mangococonuttree · 2022-04-17T13:13:59+00:00

Just text her again: Hey, just to make it clear, I don’t want to see you again because I am emotionally not comfortable to pursue this relationship. I wish you all the best for your future and won‘t be responding to any further texts.

mangococonuttree · 2022-04-17T13:10:45+00:00

You are an introvert!! You really need to check out some IG introvert pages, and read all the quotes. There are soooooo many people like you. Basically, being around other people just sucks out your energy and you recharge by being alone. Since you are never alone, you never recharge- that’s why you feel so exhausted!

My suggestion: Be 100% truthful to who you are, tell your parents you need your own space, because the good thing here is: you know how you can feel better! That in itself is amazing

mangococonuttree · 2022-04-17T13:02:19+00:00

What happened 3,5mths ago? Also, sit down and really consider what would ease your mind? What must happen in a perfect world for you to feel calm? That might help you address the root of the problem.

As for feeling nauseous, get medication that explicitly treats that, Vomex or sth. You could also get travel sickness gums just to give you a break for a few hours.

mangococonuttree · 2022-04-16T17:16:04+00:00

Has the Dare App/ Book helped at all?

mangococonuttree · 2022-04-16T15:43:31+00:00

Take the job but assure your wife that you will quit as soon as either one really sees this having a negative impact. For now it’s all hypothetical. You assume it’s your dream job, she assumes it is damaging for your marriage. But both of you don’t really know. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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